If a guy gets rejected after every first date off apps, what’s happening?

[Anonymous]

He gets told no vibe or chemistry

He’s physically unattractive

He’s socially awkward

He’s doing something off putting

[LeatherDame]

More information needed but generally it’s been one of the following when I’ve left:


A lack of social skills/awkward conversations
Lack of shared interests and Life goals
Social faux pas/red flags, my most common one is men ignoring or trying to push through a soft no.

[Asker]

Do you think it would make any difference if they told you in advance that they are socially awkward and shy at first?

[LeatherDame]

I guess it dépends How You’re doing it? Opening up with a bunch of excuses can be offputting

[lilBigPotato]

Your profile probably raised unrealistic expectations. Make sure the photos are real and not too edited and show some of your personality on the profile page so it's not a bad surprise.

[Asker]

Do you think it would make any difference if i told them in advance that i am socially awkward and shy at first?

[lilBigPotato]

Having a hint about it on your profile doesn't hurt.

[HighValue]

If he paid for the first date, he is being financially used. That is what has happened to many men for generations. NEVER pay a woman's way until she has paid your way first.

[Flower7]

He probably needs to put more effort into his appearance.

[queenofcardio]

Could be a mix of all those options.

[Asker]

Although I guess if he isn’t catfishing and ladies are swiping on his photos and getting hundreds of dates off the app, it can’t be that he’s physically unattractive.

[Zionne]

def the vibe isn't connecting