Why do so many people think men must be attractive to attract women?

[Vegasrunner]

[MontBlanc]

I think many people overemphasize physical attractiveness because society often equates appearance with desirability.

But in reality, attraction goes far beyond looks , confidence, emotional intelligence, humor, values, and how you treat others play a much bigger role in forming meaningful connections.

True appeal comes from character and presence, not just physical traits.

[Vegasrunner]

@MontBlanc In men yes. Women are only valued for their beauty.

[MontBlanc]

I don’t think it’s that simple.

Physical beauty might attract attention at first, but it doesn’t sustain respect or meaningful connections.

In the long run, character, intelligence, and values shape how someone is truly valued for both men and women.

[Vegasrunner]

@MontBlanc Nah thats something women want to believe because thats what attracts them to men. Men however dont care about any of that. As long as a women is young and beautiful men will tolerate her.

[Kelley1]

Because for 95% of women, that is a fact. Wealthy men don't have to be attractive, but less then 5% of men are wealthy.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Maybe Hollywood movies or some ish.

Reality is both physically ugly women and men date.

I just saw a dude who is ugly too with an ugly hippo looking woman as I was buying food around 40 minutes ago.

[Vegasrunner]

@hispanic-cool-guy Much harder for a ugly woman to date because woman can't provide value outside of beauty.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The guy was ugly too. And ugly woman still have a vagina so that value right there at least for the ugly dudes who can't reach better looking women unless they have money or she's a single mom of 3 bastards

[Vegasrunner]

@hispanic-cool-guy You kind of proved my point. You just named an additional way an ugly guy can bring value money. There isn't an equivalent for women. Guys may have sex with them but thats not what most women are looking for. Whereas you mentioned an ugly guy could have money, a good physique, intelligence etc.

[LiamJHayden]

Probably as an excuse for failure. I'm not "all that" but I do not have problems getting dates with decent women because I have no fear in approaching.

[Vegasrunner]

@LiamJHayden Im not sure I understand your statement. Why would getting dates with women be seen as a failure?

[KimmySchmit]

Because you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar

[Vegasrunner]

@kimmyschmit TY for sharing. What does that have to do with the question?

[KimmySchmit]

Honey is more attractive to flies than vinegar

[Vegasrunner]

@kimmyschmit Ok, but what does that have to do with the question asked?

[KimmySchmit]

How do you attract without having something attractive to whom you want to attract

[Vegasrunner]

@kimmyschmit I think I understand your confusion, as I explained to you men have a variety of ways to attract women are stuck with their looks only.

[Zionne]

a man is attractive when the right one sees him

[Vegasrunner]

@Zionne TY for sharing. What does this have to do with the question?

[GrammariklyIncorrekt]

Probably because it's true to a certain degree, but also because of social media.

[Vegasrunner]

@manlybutfeminine To what degree? If you take a young attractive man or an old rich man. The old rich man is probably going to have way more hotter women.

[GrammariklyIncorrekt]

I mean if you throw money into the situation there are definitely some gold diggers out there

[Vegasrunner]

@manlybutfeminine Not really. If you had a young attractive woman vs an old rich woman the young attractive one is going to get way more HV men.

[GrammariklyIncorrekt]

Bro are you just like trying to find arguments lol. I just agreed with your previous statement... I'm genuinely confused now...

[Vegasrunner]

@manlybutfeminine I think I see your confusion. Money makes men more attractive to women however it doesn't work the other way around. You said if you throw money into the situation, but that only applies if you're a man.

[Staximus]

Or have a lot of money, or razzle dazzle them with some wannabe rockstar or artist bullshit

[Vegasrunner]

@staximus Those three things you mentioned will absolutely get you more women.

[Butterfly38142]

They think women should be attractive to get bare minimum respect so it’s only fair

[Vegasrunner]

@butterfly38142 Gotcha. So you're saying people who think that are dumb for thinking life is fair?