Why do women find very few men attractive?

[Anonymous]

There have been several answers to former questions, by women, stating how the majority of men are unattractive. So should most of us men just give up?

[Anonymous]

Frankly I think the biggest issue is self image. Women spend most of our childhoods trying to improve ourselves both in personality and looks to attract men. Problem is men don't do the same. Other than a few (and usually for their own egos not to better themselves for another) men just don't put in an effort to look their best for women. If all men worked on getting rid of their acne, found what clothing fit best on them and what colors worked best for them, got a hair cut that suited their features (even dyed it if necessary) and worked out to fit the 'ideal' body type there would be a higher percentage of men women are attracted to. You may say that's shallow but girls have been forced into that mold for years and men have very high standards in the girls they are attracted to, so why should women behave any differently? If all women stopped wearing makeup, cut all their hair off because it was easier to manage, stopped working out and dieting, didn't wear push up bras, tight fitting clothing etc, how many men would be attracted to the majority of women? I'm a firm believer that you can always improve yourself so if you find women aren't attracted to you, find a female friend and get her to be honest with you and give you a makeover and personality tips. Unfortunately I've seen this happen and the men blow off what the girl thinks. Girls are all fairly similar in thought processes so if a girl tells you (blank) is the reason you aren't attracting women, believe her and strive to change it. There is nothing wrong with self improvement so less complaining and gain more determination for change.

[Tamikaze]

This is not about all women agreeing on who this majority of men are that they find unattractive. Every woman is very different on what they find attractive and frankly a lot of women are just as attracted to guys that exude confidence or appear powerful and do not have any sort of classic good looks. I personally am not attracted to pretty boys or men that are considered classicaly attractive. Not that I cannot look at them and think "Wow, he's hot", but the idea of the headache of dating most guys who are very good looking kills any desire to actually be with someone like that. Thankfully for all of us, what might turn our heads initially is not necessarily what we will chase down for a relationship.

[Hippy]

It's not that we find most guy's unattractive it's just that we only concentrate on the guy or couple of guy's we like at that time and we will just not look at others, it's really that simple.

[phxman]

And if women care mofre about what's on the inside, then that's much easier to work on and change. Women actually have it harder since men are superficial for the most part and exterior appearance is much harder to change.

[stevo]

Why give up just on someone's opinion? Looks don't matter to everyone, because once again, they don't define who a person is on the inside.

[Rainbows]

You completely missed our point. We do not care that the majority of men are not attractive. We are, for the most part, not nearly as shallow as men. We care more about what is on the inside than the outside.

[Asker]

Okay. But what makes the majority of men unattractive? Just because a guy doesn't look like Zac Effron, doesn't make him unattractive.

[paigems]

Zac Effron is really unattractive =/

[Rainbows]

I don't know. I just don't find them attractive, for the most part.

[Markfish]

So then you date men you are physicalky unattracted to, that is sad.

[Havanna90]

I agree with Rainbows, but also that different women find different things attractive, so no, don't give up.

[Asker]

Why do you say most men are unattractive. I guarantee you most men would say a large amount of women are attractive....

[Havanna90]

Its nature, women are the ones who need to be selective. For women its quality, for men its quantity. Like it or not, agree or disagree that is the nature of each gender. Women are suposed to look for the guy who's attributes will be beneficial to their offspring, and men are supposed to "mate" with all the females they can. There are some girls and guys that stray from this but that is basic nature. period.

[Asker]

Ok then, what is going to happen to the 80% of us guys that aren't attractive? Then what is going to happen to the 80% of women that are too good to mate with the 80% of guys that are unattractive???

[Havanna90]

The only way you could be truly hopeless is if you have an ugly personality. if the girl is not going to take the time to get to know your personality is she really worth it? Wouldn't you rather find someone who is going to like you for you? Not all girls want the super sexy guys. and a lot of guys are eye candy with no brains or no personality. so either you need to change yourself to meet the needs of the one that you want to be with or you need to change the type of girl you look at.

[Asker]

Also, I forgot to mention. Most of you women aren't perfect either.... But us men aren't picky about it

[Havanna90]

Like I said, its nature. as long as you can get some, then your happy.