(Besides the handsome ones, that have a reason to think so, as many women teach them by throwing themselves at them that they are); I’m talking about plain and unattractive men, who don’t attract women easily. You’ll be nice to them and show care for them and they worry because their attractive mates are having this problem, that they will, too and that it’s necessary to warn every nice female friend that they’re taken?
Lets divide this up into quadrants:
handsome ugly
cocky 1 3
humble 2 4
Handsome cocky? Because they get lots of girls, they know they're rare. These are the guys who get laid when they visit a club or a dating app. They are statistically in the top 5% of men, and they know it. So of course they're cocky about it.
Handsome humble? Super rare, because if every girl you approach lets you know your'e handsome, it sticks. Men don't get complimented about their looks very often, so the ones that do get complimented often KNOW IT, and it makes them cocky.
Ugly Cocky? These are they who have been told "Just be confident, women like confidence" and its all they have going for them. They put on false confidence because they are hoping and praying that you'll find it attractive. And frankly, for some people it works and boosts their attractiveness and for some... well there's this category.
The last category: Ugly Humble. This is unfortunately the vast majority of men. But unless us women make a concerted effort to see them they are literally invisible to us. To prove this point I was out with some of my girlfriends once and we were talking about this. I pointed to a mailman across the street and said "How would you rate him?" "Who?" "Him, the only guy across the street." "Who? I don't see anyone" "The guy right there, in shorts" "Is he behind the mailman?" "HE IS THE MAILMAN!"
The reason why we often think all men think they are irresistible is because the ones we see either are irresistible, or act like it to try to score points in confidence. But most men aren't, and we don't even see them around us every day. The mailman, the carpenter, the garbage man. They all make our lives WORK, they make civilization comfortable, and we don't notice them until its pointed out.
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I don't know I suppose because they do essentially get attention. Else why do so many women with ugly faces, and bad personalities think they are all that? Because men let them be deluded. If she has a good body they will make her feel special so that they can sleep with them. Peoples attitudes reflect where they think they stand in the world, it isn't necessarily the truth but it is just their ego.
For the same reason that many women do it. It´s part of modern dating culture if you don´t have options you´re not attractive enough. The more options you have the better. It´s a trend I see developing that everybody thinks high of themselves in a toxic way and start to connect self value and the people you attract. Look at dating apps for example a person that gets no matches is viewed unattractive. Nobody wants to be unattractive. So it´s probably a pendant to all those body positive stuff around women. Guys tell themselves that they deserve the best that they are the price to win and that they are important and strong to protect themselves from doubt and other negative inner voices.
not all handsome men are good not all beautiful women are good not all ugly men are bad not all ugly women are bad being good is not just a word but it's a skill to make everyone happy while respecting when talking to them
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Basically, any man (or woman) should have self confidence. Just because you find someone ‘plain’ or unattractive, that doesn’t mean the next person will agree with you.
I suggest you leave the man alone, and stop talking to him if you don’t like his demeanour.a lot of pick up artists are just insecure guys, so they have to trick themselves into believing that in order to get the courage to approach females. however, thinking you're irresistable doesn't mean you are, and most of them get no love from females
cause you women make it sound like you are all too easy to please and satisfy.
those men who think the are irresistible to all women either aren't experience or have already bought all of your (all women's) nonsense and will only accept reality when they get a rude awakening
Why is it that ur trying to be irresistible to all men? Every man is irresistible to someone out there , so can every woman. So why all the generalizing? Then again, why is it that the age group between 30-35 seem to have all these issues these days? What's going on with this age group?
I mean…look at me
The only part of this that's remotely truthful is the being nice part. Most men will confuse compliments with flirting, not because of an inflated ego, but because women don't usually compliment men.
The majority of men really aren't that confident. Women on the other hand...I would say more women think they are irresistible than men.. But I have noticed that some guys do have a lot of arrogance than they should and for the guys who do, maybe they have a lot of game which got them attracting a decent amount of women..
Generally a lot of average men percieve women being nice to them as fliritng because of the inexperience they have and are unable to read the cues of awoman when she's genuinely attracted. I. e. looking at your lips, maintaining eye contact, playing with hair, raised voice, asking qustions laughing at silly jokes he makes etc etc. It comes down to a lack of experience really.
Are you hurt by what they think? Let them be
They are delusional or think their money can attract any women they desire.
No matter how handsome or pretty a individual might think they are, not everyone is going to desire them for whatever reason.Fuckboys think that. I avoid women entirely, except when in immigrant communities. America culture is a joke. The only guys "throwing themselves" at women (here in the States) are all fuckboys, because they don't give a shit. Guys who do care... are wise. They're quiet, and watch closely.
Oh men think they are irresistible?
https://www.youtube.com/embed/8OYDiWfGuSgSame reason women who are two's, think they are 10's and feel like they deserve the same kind of men. Let's face it, to answer your question one need only loll to your own gender, cause men sure as hell aren't the only ones that do it.
because they think they're all that and a bag of chips. my grandfather is one of these men and it's so gross🤢 cause the women he thinks likes him and has a chance with are young enough to be his daughters.
Stop being nice to random men. Including myself. That shit is confusing as fuck.
Overconfidence, big ego, cocky, lies told by a "relationship guru" or simply because they are insecure deeply inside and try to hide/mask it.
I don't know. All I knew is that I just want to keep being sweet, attentive and generous.
The same reason that so many women think the same about men. It's an ego thing.
Because it’s better to live in delusion until I can afford to get cosmetic surgery to become attractive than to admit that I’m inferior in any way.
Most men are clueless about most things. Why would this be any different.
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