Is it bad to schedule two first dates on the same day and compare?

Question

I feel caught 😄

and the adrenaline rush.

So I told that guy I asked the previous question about -

that I am not free on weekends and couldn’t meet him and I kind of felt happy because I was a little nervous about meeting him , but he now wants to meet on the Monday evening instead. 😁

I already have a date planned with a very interesting guy on Monday I’ve been chatting with for about 2 weeks, who’s serious and family oriented.

Now feeling this adrenaline rush and kind of laughing at myself that I I am having such a hard time decide.

Can I go on one date first and then go from there to another date? Just a thought , I know it’s not the best thing to do.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

You can do it but try to leave at minimum 2 hours between the expected 'end' of a first date and the start of the second. Also, do NOT have them in the same location. Try to make sure they are at least 15 minutes away geographically so you have time to step away, reset, and 'arrive'.

If the first date is:
4pm Coffee/dessert- anticipate 1 hour. Then schedule next date for 7pm (prime dinner).
5pm Dinner - anticipate 2 hours. Then schedule next date at 9pm. (Think late night activity with drinks) If that's too late for you then reschedule the second date for another day.

Logistically, your date will try to make you late because they are trying to connect. This is why it is essential to build in the extra distance, timewise and physically between dates.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I have done it. Is it bad? Yes and no. It all depends how you manage the time.
such that I would do a brunch or coffe/tea meet up… since it’s a first meet… I didn't invest much to it. The evening… can too be a quick bite/a walk…

if all goes well… I go for second dates but spread out…(can be same weekend - the one I like more, will meet on a Saturday) I have to decide after date two. By then I know and don’t like to waste more time.
I kindly thank one and happy to meet the one I picked for 3rd date.

have fun out there and be safe.
I am now happily married.
❤️

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

When a guy takes you on a first date, he is entitled to expect your undivided attention, and it would be ride to abruptly end a date because another guy is waiting for you. I once had four first dates on four consecutive days but i would never do two dates on the same day.

Smart_Monk · Accepted Answer

I would say that the answe is "listen to your heart", but if you regularly lie to others (and you probably do if they both date you) then your own heart is full of lies and will lie to you.

AviatorTom · Answer

You can do it if you want, it's not illegal. But it's risky. What if the first date goes really well and you end up in bed together? It would be better to move one of the dates to another day.

Finchie40 · Answer

When you are single you can do what you want to do especially dating as many people as you want to , I once dated 7 girls’ at the same time lol

Cyfris · Answer

You can do whatever you want. It is a bit sleezy. I wouldn't do it because my first dates tend to go well and I end up spending much more time with them than the originally agreed upon date window. lunch turns to walk turns to drinks turns to dinner turns to more drinks turns to dancing etc. you get the idea. two would be a limitation on the potential for greatness I think. And I personally wouldn't call back a chick who spent her whole time looking at her watch because she had something to do later that she wouldn't talk about.

exitseven · Answer

That would be awesome. I dated two girls on the same day once. One came from out of state and we spent the whole day together. I put her on the train to go home at 5PM and went on a date with somebody else. What made it w=even funnier was that they were both sort of similar in a lot of ways.

Crankor · Answer

I suppose its fine on its own but if you were to continue multiple dates at a time thats kinda messed up. That would continue to effect and potential good relationship chance in a negative way. Instead of focusing on the one person, you woukd be more likely to ditch them without putting much effort in thinking something like, oh I have a full line up, I dont need to take this that seriously. Or at least that it how it would be seen as.

Screenwriter · Answer

If you're having a great time on the first date, why cut it off to rush to a second one.

Just sounds like there's a likelihood of something messing up. Don't end up making a poor impression.

Nobody wants to hear they're being left for another date and no one wants to be No. 2 on a date night.

Do everyone a favor and date one on Monday and the other on Tuesday or a second day. You can still compare the two.

molonski2 · Answer

I wouldn't as I think it could ruin both outings , just cancel one and stick to your original plan , also you'd be putting a time limit on both. So I wouldn't do it.

spartan55 · Answer

I'm making my popcorn for the front row seat to your dating scene... 😂

RavVid · Answer

Depends on your objective - is it Fun or Family? Yeah that doesn't put it well but both start with F and I think it conveys your two options. If you want family oriented than you need to be too.

MontBlanc · Answer

Not necessarily ‘bad,’ but it can get tricky.

Meeting 2 people on the same day might make it easier to compare, but it could also feel unfair to both of them.

The key is to be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for and respectful toward the people you’re dating.

Staximus · Answer

I don't know about bad but it's not good haha

loveslongnails · Answer

It's kind of fun to double book, and having done so it's definitely a rush. However, after reading some of your other posts, I suggest you take a few days between them so you can process the first one before you do the second one. Think of it as totally clearing your palette before the next thing you sample! LOL

Unycorn · Answer

Yes. First one is not serious and second maybe to fill a gap. 2 days between2 dates are a must. Oversleep, go deep inside before you take the NEXT... My meaning.

Mike_Hum · Answer

If I found out you went on a date right after our first date it would be our last date.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not at all. Have as many dates as you can handle. There is never a limit.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Gurrl, that's efficiency! The German in me is proud of you! :-D

888theGreat · Answer

until you find out they both know each other

CherryLove007 · Answer

ok mor-woman lol  mormon men do it all the time lol

queenofcardio · Answer

Whatever works for you. You can do both if you want.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I definitely wouldn’t do that! That would stress me out lol.

nolabels · Answer

I don't know it being bad, but it is certainly adventurous.

slatyb · Answer

No, it's not. Date as many people as you want, just show up as promised and don't lie to them.

Massageman · Answer

The fact that you are even asking this question shows that you have serious doubts about the whole thing. Follow your gut. Space them out.

shortster · Answer

You can go out on two dates in a row. You aren't exclusive with either of them. Just remember not to eat too much on the first date.

msc545 · Answer

It probably doesn't matter. You're going to do what you're going to do

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s not the way you take care of your business what is this speed dating

AgentG111 · Answer

Hel no! Life's short live it up! Do four dates even better.

LC75LC71 · Answer

What is this an episode of Saved by the Bell? I hope neither pay for a thing.

LiamS95 · Answer

It certainly can be if they unexpectedly overlap.

Sammy098 · Answer

I would feel bad about myself if I do that so it's not for me. People are living beings who have feelings I won't treat them like objects and compare.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes cause one may be amazing and you might not want the night to end

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. Until committed you are a free agent.

Anonymous · Answer

Why did you removed your profile pic? Don't you know you're the most sexiest girl on gag?

Jeff51 · Answer

To much. I wouldn't.

aceleon · Answer

it is a dick move from the beginning.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I think you answered your own question 😂

nekkibarbie · Answer

That would be exciting 😁. You must go for it.

glennos89 · Answer

Yeah it's very unattractive honestly

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Yes I've done it many many times

MidnightRivers · Answer

Nope, I did it all the time 😂

In_Trance · Answer

Wdym you aren't free on weekends?

Anonymous · Answer

It's obviously not a good idea.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

oldman26 · Answer

Do what you need

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