I texted a guy first and now I’m overthinking it—should I delete it?

[Anonymous]

Basically I messaged a guy something very neutral (I initiated).

There was no funky business here.

However I have zero clue about the etiquette would most guys assume that if a girl texted him first she is interested?

He didn't reply anyways - I want to delete it but fear that it will end up looking even more suspect.

What should I do?

FYI this is the message: Hey! Was at the show, meant to say hi but was busy with a friend I came with. Say hi to people from class from me :)

Updates

2 mo

Also I am NOT interested in dating this guy I only put this under dating as I am worried he may misinterpret it.

And yes from what I've seen of him to be honest - it seems he lacks respect for women.

[BikingTrail]

If you just want to be friends i don't see a problem with your message. If I read it though i just might think you're interested at it's a bit ambiguous with the smiley face.

Don't delete it or it will look worse. If he doesn't write back you should be ok, probably not interested in you that way either. If he does and hints at something more just make it clear you want to be friends

[Asker]

The thing is this guy isn't exactly a nice guy and we are in the same social circles. I don't want him spinning some story to others that I'm interested in him.

I don't know if deleting it will give him even more leverage to spin a story?

He didn't write me back or check it - I'm not truly offended although I did notice this.

I'm more concerned of this guy spinning some story about me as i've heard him talk about girls and it's not really been very respectful

[Asker]

Do you think leaving it there or deleting it would give him more leverage to spin some story about me being interested in him he seems like that type of person and it scares me

I only messaged him to be polite but I can see now that was a mistake I'd rather he think I'm rude

[BikingTrail]

there's really no need to worry about it, since there is really no 100% clear and obvious sign you're interested. Yeah you wrote him out of the blue with a smiley face, but there is nothing in the actual words that would be misconstrued. If he doesn't like you in that way then he won't respond. Forget about it. He can't "spin a story" when there is nothing to create a story from

[Asker]

Do you think deleting it would make it worse?

[Nikki1989]

It's just a text!

[Asker]

I don't trust him.

[Asker]

Would deleting make it worse or should I just leave it despite being paranoid of him

[Staximus]

I don't know why you would even bother sending a text like that to a person like that