What early dating red flags are instant deal breakers for you?

[mompatrol416]

When dating someone at the beginning what are your red flags? Are any of them a definite deal breaker immediately?

[Summeroflove]

Complaining about exes and other men….. even if she says your different and ladies men who do this about women…. Even if he says “well you’re different than other girls”. This is someone who obviously has a problem with the opposite sex. It’s one thing if someone has been hurt by someone but if they have an issue with the opposite sex it’s a problem. I don’t care if they say they think you’re different.

A sense of entitlement. Look point blank nobody’s entitled to SHIT. That goes both ways. You invest in someone because you want to not because you have to. Especially early on if someone starts feeling entitled to including but not limited to dates, free stuff, money, sex, etc. Major red flags

No communication. Adults communicate what they want, need, feel, etc. Especially early on if someone expects you to read their minds and cannot communicate like a mature adult this will lead to problems later on.

They have a spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend. I DO NOT CARE what they tell you about this other person or how bad the relationship is going. If there too cowardly to break it off and they have the integrity to cheat with you. They will probably 9/10 cheat on you. You can’t even believe everything they’re saying they could be making it up. Even hypothetically if the relationship or their partner really is that bad they should break up. Do not be with someone in a relationship. Pure you in danger…. And if also will probably lead to the same thing happening to you.

They lie. If someone lies to you dump them. Don’t have respect for people who lie about things whether it’s big or trivial. People who lie are major red flags.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Dishonesty. I'm not talking about you lied about how close you are to your family or some silly shit I'll obviously find out soon enough. I mean like you said let's split the bill and you ordered a ton of food and try to pull some "I'll get the next one" type shit.

[Tamera952]

Red Flags: Bad hygiene. Not saying please or thank you. Not liking animals. Being rude or dismissive to anyone else in public, especially service people or waitstaff.

Then of course, anyone religious, and/or that voted for Pres. PedoPiggy—but I’d obviously have that one figured out WAY BEFORE even getting to a first date.

[bobalife]

Someone who doesn’t attentively listen and not interested in me. It’s important to have someone who genuinely cares about me, my well-being, the wins in my life or what’s going on my life, my passion, and dreams.
Another is poor boundaries and don’t respect my boundaries…
Following a lot of random girls online

[bobalife]

by the way I love your moneypiece hairstyle!

[Shrimpenjoyer]

A virgin your age would be fine?

[Finchie40]

If she is asking for money , if she is selfish and acts like her shit doesn’t stink

[InknKink]

If she has a big media presence and posts her entire life online. A little bit is fine given today's lifestyles. However, girls who feel the need to be validated through an online presence...

That's always the first red flag I look for and will follow through on no matter how much I tell myself I like the person.

[loveslongnails]

I'm going to presume you mean once you've started dating, not first impression or pre-date red flags, right? With that in mind, an instant walk out would be mistreating or belittling others, such as wait staff, service people or just anyone in general passing. I guess you can call that "attitude". Any sort of racist or supremacist talk is an immediate good-bye, same for religious cultism. I omitted politics because there wouldn't even BE a date if I know she's a magat.

[whosnumber_1]

I think someone who is engaged and listens. Doesn't just talk about themselves (although that could just be a sign of nervousness)

Someone who genuinely or at least seems to want to get to know you and is excited or interested in what you do and the things that make you happy.

I would avoid people who are constantly preoccupied or disingenuous.

[AgentG111]

Their interactions with people whom you meet or are around as in service staff or others in public while being in public with them.

Also if they are totally into drugs and alcohol along with smoking.

How they talk about family friends and how they discuss their children.

[HighValue]

If she has tattoos, nose ring, short unnaturally colored hair, has kids, has any contact with any ex, if she is unfair, or if she posts provocative/revealing pictures online, or has a past of casual sex.

[RavVid]

I'm looking for genuinely nice because that is observable. A single not nice event is an utter deal breaker.

[Nikki1989]

Racism, sexism, and misogynistic attitudes.

[ArrowheadSW]

Rudeness to people in public. Especially to waiters/waitresses in restaurants or cashiers in stores. Big turnoff for me.

[lilBigPotato]

Control freak.

But the list is long...

[Jen_oic]

Drinking too much alcohol 🍺 and smoking 🚬 cigarettes

[Bricealan]

@mompatrol416 Getting on their cell phone, or drinking too much

[Iron_Man]

A lack of communication she can’t express herself. She has no motivation

[Hunter-40m]

Cold and indifferent attitude, paying attention to something else other than our conversation are the ones that first came to my mind

[bubblydoubles]

Abuse. If you feel hurt or uneasy, there’s a reason

[LiamJHayden]

Rudeness to servers. Always on phone unless there is a valid reason (severely ill parent for example). Talks incessantly about her ex (es).

[Malwi93]

I've been saying to this fellow "im gonna stay at work for about 2 more hours" and ged just park there and wait

[Staximus]

Hard drugs, psych meds, lying, poor communication, gets drunk all the time

[kaucky1]

Interruptions of other guys but if girls hermaphrodites or vesties interrupts that's fine

[Marissa4]

The way they treat the waiter/waitress.

[Tamera952]

See? 100% agree. That’s what I just wrote! How he treats service people and waitstaff!! It’s very telling.

[Marissa4]

Yes or custodian etc.

[Honeyateleven]

I want mature men who know how to kiss and fuck a woman

I don't like childish men

[Biscoff3030]

When the person continuously talks about his/her ex

[sage2021]

If they have bad manners.🚫🚩

[DuSith]

Usually, if she's talking to me.

[strateguy632]

If she smokes anything.

[exitseven]

If she is using drugs.

[dudeinohio]

Being friends with an ex.

[Ba0licious]

Excuses, lies, and wonder eyes.

[NathanDavis]

racism

[Godihateyou]

They've had a sexual partner.

[Anonymous]

When she is passive/submissive/shy.

[Agape93]

Controlling behavior

[Jeff51]

If she smokes