Did he stop texting because I didn’t stay at his place on date 4?

[Anonymous]

he was persistant at the start. now i see he dates other girl

[sawno]

Might be more nuanced, if he's also seeing another girl he was still on the dating market basically. You took a while while he may have had more chemistry with her. So chances are that after a few dates when nothing came from it he lost interest since he has someone else that he likes more.

[Asker]

He had already head sex with her and was seeing her, but then insisted to meet me, after a long time of not talking. but when nothing happened he dissapeared.

[genericname85]

i think it's far more likely that he just lost interest cause you weren't a good fit in his mind so he's moving on. cause if he was actually interested, not staying at his place on a 4th date wouldn't discourage him.

[Asker]

but he was super interested. asked me to stay multiple times

[genericname85]

was he "super interested" in you? or was he just horny and wanted to fuck? i think if he was super interested in you, he wouldn't go see another girl.

[beenherebefore]

Let him date whoever he wants and move on to someone who knows what he wants.

[Asker]

The fact is that he chased me, got rejected, turned to her, but still called me, then after sex with her, he came back to me. I dont get it

[beenherebefore]

Unserious guys do that a lot typical behavior.

[Asker]

he putted a lot of effort in me

[beenherebefore]

And then left you out in the cold. Move on girl stop wasting your time.

[Asker]

he already used silences before.

[queenofcardio]

So many possible reasons. Maybe he lost interest

[slatyb]

You aren't missing anything. He views everything in life as a transaction -- I'll take you out but I expect sex in return.

[Asker]

you think so? i thought we had an emotional connection. and i wasn't even interested in dating

[slatyb]

Don't worry about why other people do what they do. It doesn't matter. You can only see their actions. It sounds like he's lost interest. See other people.

[bowenw]

It sounds like he wants sex and moved onto another girl as a result.

[Asker]

he had sex before her

[bowenw]

He may want sex from as many women as possible. Please feel free to DM if you wish.

[darkcloud1945]

He figured out that he was not going to get anything from you fast, so off to greener pastures

[Asker]

but he already had another girl

[darkcloud1945]

Have you stopped to think that you are now, [as you put it], just another girl?

[Still-alive]

He just wanted sex.

[Asker]

You think so? but he invested a lot ot time effort and money

[Still-alive]

yup some dudes do that just for the sex. i know it sucks. just gotta move on. i would block him on everything

[Asker]

you think so? he seemed sincere

[Indiangiver]

so you're saying he was a player

[Asker]

i dont know.
is he?

[Indiangiver]

so you're saying he was upset that you wouldn't stay over

[Asker]

He didn't text for a month.

[Indiangiver]

that crazy

[Indiangiver]

did you and him have feelings for each other

[karlaatsd]

He just wanted sex sounds like

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Yeah

[Asker]

why? i came and brought a present.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

What kind of present?