When you start dating someone new, what do you ask or check first?

[Anonymous]

[OneViewpoint]

I don't have a checklist, LOL. It's situational. It depends completely on who I'm talking to. And I gather information without asking any questions much of the time. What I do gather from conversation I try to let come out organically in normal conversation. I'm in no hurry. If I don't get an answer today, it may come 2 weeks from now.

So how do I gather information without asking questions...

• How does she interact with other people in general?
• How does she handle conflict or problems?
• How self aware is she?
• Can she handle accountability?
• Can she articulate her thoughts effectively?
• Does she have a well rounded life with friends and interests / hobbies?
• Is she curious?
• How quick is her mind?
• Is she fun / playful or socially awkward?
• Is she sweet or angry?
• Does she display signs of baggage from past relationships?
• Is she healthy, diet and exerise?
• Etc.

[emeraldsaphire]

Zodiac sign, moon sign and rising sign. It's not even about the signs it's how they react. If they know all 3 he's gay. If he get's angry he's probably a misogynist. If he's curious and listens to me talk about it, he's a keeper.

[WellBye]

If they're single, I don't want any surprises later

[Nikki1989]

Shared interests and values, if there are any.

[Agape93]

Their criminal record

[karlaatsd]

Make sure they are single

[jahaims]

Make sure they have the same morals and values

[Anonymous]

Their name lol

[dudeinohio]

Criminal record