As a guy if you wait for a girl to pursue you will you be single for a long time?

[Anonymous]

[Lesbologist]

Never a good idea... make the offer when you can. I've watched dudes wait around and they just get passed for "other options" over and over again.

I had a crush once, we were like friends. Both living in Japan and she had a husband in America... she hated him. I never made the offer... was waiting for her to break up with that guy. So she started fucking the black dude in the office before I even realized it, then after that, a bunch of other dudes, and then she finally landed this one dude and married up. Gone. She's still a friend on Facebook, but I think they do swinger shit and all of that... kids... and yeah... I'm not going to make any offers now that she's all blown out and crusty looking. Plus I moved on a long time ago. Got my own kids and sheeeeeit.

[MrOracle]

This is largely true, but if the guy in question was in the top 3-5% of attractiveness, then this wouldn't be true at all. Having been good friends with a couple of guys like that growing up, I've seen hundreds of women across a wide range of ages throw themselves at such guys. Of course, that's absolutely the exception to the rule, and the rule still stands for the vast majority of guys.

[Zionne]

Waiting for girls to always pursue you usually just slows your results down because most connections need some level of mutual effort. A better approach is to take light initiative and see if she matches your energy instead of doing nothing at all. If you want to learn that balance properly, a can help you build confidence without becoming passive or overchasing.

[Calyptomaniac]

Probably yeah, there is a solid percentage of women who are adamantly against making the first move on guys so if you are finding those types, you both just end up waiting for the other and it more likely ends in someone giving up rather than giving in

[NathanDavis]

I never had a girl "pursue me"

but they have approached me, and when they did... I didn't run away, so they didn't have to "chase and pursue"

most of my relationships started this way... they approached, expressed their interest, and I did reciprocate

[Anonymous]

Maybe at your age. I got approached a couple times at you age, but i did most the approaching. Women are willing (at least the women who are successful) to approach men a lot more after 40. I don't approach any woman now. I let them all approach me.👍

[Nikki1989]

That seems like a very lazy attitude to have.

[FunkyMonkee]

YES! A VERY long time!! 30 years for me, so far. Well, 28.5, actually. We fell in love about 19 months ago.

[Alex-Snow]

I guess it depends on the guy. Is this happening to you?

[TonyMetal___86]

Tbh, i'm not pursuing any girl now and idc if any girl pursue me too...

[Anonymous]

Probably. Most women are still socialized to let the guy chase them.

[queenofcardio]

Yes, so many women don't chase men.

[Iron_Man]

Yes for many years many many years

[dudeinohio]

Probably