Why do some guys chase love hard, then pull away and call it ‘attachment’?

[Anonymous]

Why do some guys beg for love and then act cold once they receive it?

Why do guys chase a girl so hard if they know they don’t truly love her?

Why make a girl fall in love when your heart already belongs to someone else?

Why do guys chase a girl so hard if they know they don’t truly love her?

[SueShe]

It is not really love those men are seeking. It is more infatuation because their testosterone are guiding and ruling their behavior.

Men are hunters by nature and once they catch their prey (yes, women are preys only and nothing more) they lose interest in that object (yes again, we are only objects) and move to the next victim.

Men usually keep track of these victims so that the can brag with their buddies and compare their hit lists.

It is only a game to them. They seldom have the intention to be in a serious relationship that lasts 20+ years.

[sawno]

I hope you mean a minority of guys because I am genuinely not like that, I seek the ultimate bond and companionship.

[SueShe]

@sawno it is often a minority that gives a bad reputation to the majority

[Taurus_Woman]

Some people chase love for excitement, attention, or validation, not real emotional connection. When things become real, they may feel overwhelmed or lose interest and pull away.

It’s usually not about the other person, it’s about their own emotional immaturity, confusion, or fear of closeness.

[indissoluble]

It sounds to me like the guys you are encountering are coming to you with honest intentions in the beginning, and you have psychological issues so you play games with them, which shows those men you are manipulative, untrustworthy, disrespectful, etc. thus unworthy of loving. You don't have a good heart, so after a certain amount of your crap, they realize you are just a cum dumpster and they know not to get attached to you.

[indissoluble]

Relationships are a two way street. If two people come with honest intentions from the get go, you end up with love. If one or the other is dishonest, manipulative, disrespectful, and trying to gain an advantage or power in a relationship then no love is found, only catastrophe.

[indissoluble]

While you were testing them, you exposed yourself and failed their test.

[ManOnFire]

This happens with women so much more than men, but for men who are like this it has to be because there was some kind of thrill in it for them. Like enjoying the chase, and then once they got her the dopamine hit wore off.

[sawno]

Those guys just want sex. Personally I don't play this game, I could have but I haven't. I think its cruel to lead a girl on for the benefits when my heart was never hers to begin with. And I don't think its a good idea to get with someone i'd leave if someone else came around. Makes my standards high but once I'm with someone I'm hers fully.

[Anonymous]

I only pursue women I have long term interest in. I have experienced "attachment" and it made me want that person way more.

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women show intense interest in you then when you ask her out she tells you she's not interested. If you know why women do this, then you know why men do that.😆👍

[jahaims]

Unhealed trauma. They are usually avoidant attachment types

[Anonymous]

Who knows

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t pull away