Should I explain to a guy why I wanna cut him off?

[Anonymous]

Story cut short, we are in situationship for nearly 3yrs (yeah IM DUMB, I KNOW), then as we graduated our uni, i decided to just ask him what are we and he do admit we are more than a friend, but also a friend.
That’s it. I decided, ok if so, im moving on and it is easier because he move back to his country. But then, 2 years since we graduated, he still once in awhile text me, call me, even if i ignore multiple times. Then few times he comes here and wanna meet me, but i say nope. Then he would be like, if u want to invite other friend also fine.

My quest is, i finally move on now. Truly did. And i dont want to maintain a friendship or anything with him anymore. I totally want to be stranger but in a good way. I dont want to block or anything. So should i just tell him to stop and explain myself?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

• "situationship for nearly 3yrs (yeah IM DUMB, I KNOW)"

Oh not dumb, more like world champion in the matter, at least to me 😂

• "So should i just tell him to stop and explain myself?"

Oh absolutely, and I think you will succeed in telling that in a way that he will 100% understand, since the last 3 years made you very familiar with how he thinks?

[Just_Ken]

he's keeping the door open for sex. If he wanted a relationship he would have said. I had a few girls way back that were friends with benefits, they were good fun to be with but werent the kind of girls to get serious with for like marraige and kids.

[Nikki1989]

You are under no obligation to say anything. Men are a dime a dozen, and most are probably not worthy of you, so just move on.

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him why you’re cutting him off. If he still keeps trying, block him and ghost him.

[Intelligent_Lady]

Yes, one final message is okay, but keep it short and final. In situations like this, the clearest approach is usually one short, calm boundary, not a debate, not a conversation, not a justification.

[_no_one_]

Just tell him that you want to protect your peace and you're not comfortable with him affecting it. You don't owe him an explanation why but a definitive answer would help in dissolving the mental fog.

[AngryCarl3]

Depends how dumb he is. Ignoring the hell out of him should work, eventually. There are men who will try to force you into a relationship through sheer persistence, but the key thing is to offer no mixed messages.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

How avoid instead of being an absolute foid, you speak a language men understand & tell him if he wants to get together he can fuck off?

Or give him a chance to win you over. Those are your 2 legit options.

[MrChinaski]

Yes, you should tell him you want no contact, that's only decent.

No, you don't need to say why. Up to you.

[sawno]

Gag REALLY wants me to answer this question. Its on top of the list since it was posted.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Yeah. Spend the energy telling the guy you don't like anymore about how you don't want to waste anymore time on guys you don't like

[Anonymous]

It doesn't really matter. You can explain yourself, or the matter will naturally resolve itself on it's own when you just walk away. There are over 4 billion women on the planet. He'll move on.👍

[FreyaRed]

Cut all ties, it's better for you both

[slatyb]

You've told him. Stop wasting time and block him.

[_Jenny_]

No explanation needed

[Wodens_Apprentice]

^^^^ Ignore this roastie. Don't be like her and find yourself a loving husband.

[_Jenny_]

@Wodens_Apprentice time to move on

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Have I called you a roastie before? 😂

[_Jenny_]

@Wodens_Apprentice Never, I don’t even know what you mean by that

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@_jenny_ You don't wanna know.

[_Jenny_]

@Wodens_Apprentice YES, please 🙏 tell me

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@_jenny_ It is a woman who has slept with so many men her vagina is like the filling a butty with roast beef 🤮
I use it as an insult against women 30 years of older who hate men, cause they slept with all the "high quality" men who likely cheated on you for the ultimate princess, then you degrade us more honourable autists by calling us incels. The kinda "good man" you claim you wanted, but never bothered with when you peaked during your 20's.
And you probably will just settle for some simp who treats you like a goddess, but it'll leave you unsatisfied.
If it's true about you and it makes you mad, blame feminism & marxism. As they culturally influenced us to destroy the family unit.

[_Jenny_]

@Wodens_Apprentice I have been called worse, it doesn’t bother me at all. 💦💧💕

[Wodens_Apprentice]

@_jenny_ Nice attitude 👍

[_Jenny_]

@Wodens_Apprentice thank you dear

[Alex-Snow]

Move on, no explanation neeced

[In_Trance]

No...

[Godihateyou]

Why waste the time