Is it normal or healthy to like someone who isn’t your usual type?

[MissSunshine2]

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Yes, agreed. We must all learn to develop humility and if we are ever going to, we gain wisdom and maturity by our thirties.

[HelpfulWoman_]

It is highly abnormal to deviate from your established type. Patterns exist for a reason and represent a structural foundation for your romantic life. If you find yourself attracted to someone who falls outside of your verified criteria, you are experiencing a systemic error in your judgment.

To correct this, you should immediately begin forcing yourself to dislike the individual. Focus exclusively on the traits that do not align with your usual preferences until the attraction dissipates. It is efficient to maintain a rigid checklist of physical and behavioral requirements at all times. If someone does not meet these metrics, they are essentially invisible. Deviating from your type is a waste of time and indicates that you are not taking your personal standards seriously. Stick to the familiar to ensure maximum predictability.

[DishLady]

Sure, why not?

[usernameobvious]

People usually should stick to their type or know from life experiences what's a good match and what's only going to end in regrets

[usernameobvious]

Trial and error lady 😊😆 flippant me 🙃

[MissSunshine2]

I understand and I agree. We all learn the hard way about that is good for us and what is not. Hence the song by The Rolling Stones, You can’t always get what you want, the line in it that stands out to me is that ‘if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.’ So true.

[usernameobvious]

Indeed 👍🏻 and life isn't perfect though we strive for perfection

[TimothyT]

I guess it isn't "normal" but it could be healthy cause you connect with more types of people?

[TimothyT]

Thank you for MHO!

[Calyptomaniac]

I think what is most healthy is not to have a type. People are far too complex to be reduced to superficial adjectives based on their skin color, hair color, eye color, height, body shape, style of dress, or reducing their whole personality to "smart"' or "nice" or "funny" as a type you like. Just get to know the whole person and decide if you like them or not...

[sage2021]

I've known people that couldn't stand each other when they first met and somehow ended up getting married. Ya just never know until you try.

[MrChinaski]

Life advice: Marry the person least like yourself that you can tolerate living with. You'll have a more interesting life.

[NathanDavis]

having types is not ideal... rarely a genuine thing

[AngryCarl3]

I don't know, I don't have a "type".

[_Jenny_]

@MissSunshine2 no, not really

[Alex-Snow]

Sure, give them a chance and see it it works out.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes!