To fall for someone not your type, would be to go for someone that you usually wouldn't. I understand on the basic level of what you say but sometimes there are exceptions and to be honest you seem to base the falling for someone only at attraction level.
The difference between falling for someone and the initial attraction can be huge. For example, you could see a person that ticks the majority of your aesthetic attraction list but upon conversing with them they are either snobby or dull.
On the other hand, you could see a person that you wouldn't really go for, but upon striking conversation you actually feel a bond with the person and want to spend more time with them. Over a period of time feelings can develop within them at which ever level and as well as the feelings the level of attraction has the ability to grow also.
Attraction can come across as a feeling but it is more a thing that pleases your eyes, something that you like.
Depending on where we are in life we can value significantly different things in a significant other. For example right now I don't want anything serious so I would need a girl who doesn't need that much attention, however in a few years when its time for me to settle down I will want her to need to be with me. Right now I don't want a girl who wants to have babies, but in 5 years hell yeah I want a lot of kids. So these things change I would consider someone who has a bleak outlook on life to not be my type, but I have dated several before.
I can acknowledge some people saying they have a type, but it's never been true for me.
It's a question I was asked as a pre-teen and teenager, "what's your type?"
So I'd imagine what I considered most sexy at the time, which is dark haired, blue-eyed, somewhat athletic
But I've fallen for so many different guys over the years, only one fit that profile.
I cannot predict who I will be attracted to. I usually know those who are too different from me ethnically I won't go for (it's normal for most people, you "tend" to be attracted to those similar to you, there'll always be *some* latent xenophobia.)
But other than that it's all had to do with charm.
Well I'm having that issue now. I'm dating someone that I am not AT ALL attracted to but he is so kind and sweet that I want to try. I would rather be with a guy that I wasn't so attracted to that was kind and nice to me. Than a jerk who I found drop dead gorgeous, usually the guys I'm attracted to know they are attractive and think they are better than others which turns me off more than how they look. I'm trying to make it work but I doubt that a guy could do the same they are much more shallow than girls in general.
I think types aren't set in stone - they change. Maybe it's just that you can be attracted to someone who isn't your USUAL type.
Personally, I don't have a type - physically or otherwise. There are certain traits that I want in a man, but they're pretty general personality requirements.
At the end of the day, you meet someone, you have chemistry and you're attracted to them. Some things you can't control or predict.
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I don't understand how people have a "type". I mean you don't wear the same type of clothes all the time or eat the same type of food, how can you be so strict in your type of partner. People can't be summarized like that, everyone's different. When everything comes together nicely it can hardly make a difference what color their hair or eyes are.
It doesn't make sense to me. If you don't find them physically attractive, your sex life will be dead, which will likely lead to cheating by someone. If you don't find their personality attractive, then you won't want to spend any time with them, which will lead to neglect and eventually collapse of the relationship or cheating to fill in what's missing.
I fell for someone who isn't my type without meaning to. He's good-looking, but it wasn't just that. I know plenty of good-looking men. It's just everything about him. He is easy to talk to, he's fun, he has a sense of humor, he is a good man, he's decent to everyone. I've never heard him say anything bad about anyone. So it was hard not to fall for him. The problem is, I am extremely ugly and he is too good-looking. So he is way out of my league.
There's a difference between attraction and conscious effort. If you are attracted to someone, but you know they're not good for you or they won't help you in your life, then you say "you're not my type". Some people use it as a excuse for rejecting people they're not attracted to, but it can genuinely happen that you fell for someone who isn't good for you. "Your type" is the logical part of your brain, who you're attracted to is the feelings part.
I think people have an ideal type. The kind of person they would def click with.
But not everyone can be that ideal type. So when you meet someone who isn't your type, you probably wouldn't consider them an option right away. But different factors will slowly make you like them more and more and eventually you'll fall for them. Like you start to see different aspects of them that are pretty cool.
I don't have a type, myself. The men I've dated and/or been interested in have all been so different from one another, it's amazing to think the same person liked all of them.
I agree with you, attraction is not a conscious decision. Some people are repulsed by their own interests, haha!
The guy I am dating now isn't really my type.I am attracted to him physically about 30%.I like the way he carry himself and how humble he is.
It is good to force yourself to be interested in someone.You can be attracted to someone but that doesn't necessarily make them your type.
If someone's not your type then why make yourself fall for them. Doesn't seen the basis for a lasting relationship.
Ask them to dye their hair?
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