Dating someone who is not your actual/ideal type (look wise)?

[desidoll]

There is this anon girl here saying that she feels like she is being used by her boyfriend as an option, because he keeps checking out other women who look nothing like her. I assume when she said “nothing” means the opposite of her look. So I am just wondering if you have a type but fall in love with someone who doesn’t even look like your preference, will you still pursue the relationship?

[MrOracle]

I have a "type" - most men do, and mine happens to be petite women - but only about 60% of the women I've been in serious relationships have matched that type. I've never been in a relationship with someone I didn't find physically attractive, but girls don't have to match my "type" to be physically attractive to me. And for that 40% who weren't my type, their looks had zero to do with us getting together or us breaking up - it was never a factor in anything, really.

For the vast majority of men, their "type" - whatever it is - is just a preference, not a STANDARD that MUST be met. Your favorite ice cream might be Rocky Road, but that doesn't mean you won't happily eat other flavors, and thoroughly enjoy them. Yes, for a small percentage of men, their "type" rises to the level of a standard, but it's rare for that type of guy to pursue a girl outside of his type anyway. I'm not saying that it NEVER happens, it's just not very common.

For the anon girl, it's possible that she's stumbled onto one of those rare exceptions, but it could also be her own paranoia, or she could be misinterpreting some other problem as being about her looks not matching his type. It's hard to say for sure - you'd really have to ask the guy what the real issue was.

[Anonymous]

I guess I'd call it a range. I have a wide range of women I'd be fine with dating (and I mean that I would easily be attracted to them). I would say I tend to go for a punkish/alternative look, or girly girl... but I've mostly dated average dressed women that were still in a range of what I thought was cute. I tend to gravitate to blondes, I would think, but my girlfriends have all been brunettes. Every girl I've dated, with the exception of one, were brunettes. None being super girly girls. None being "punkish" or artsy women. And most that I dated (with the exception of girlfriends) were great, and probably could have been halfway successful relationships, if they were interested.

[alice55]

It's dangerous cause there's always the want of something else (not being 100 happy with what you have and wondering if someone else would be better).

[Rosexøxø]

You speak the truth

[alice55]

@Rosexøxø This generally lead to cheating in the end or bitterness neither are good

[Guy13]

Love is love... sometimes people can't help themselves when they are in love.

[Grond21]

If you love someone then I think you can love them even if they are not your ideal type. In healthy people, I believe the ideal type is an inclination. A preference that leads you towards certain people, but not a restriction that binds you to only those

[Guardian45]

Well-said!

[Rosexøxø]

Pretty smart 🤔

[Grond21]

Why thank you!

[Twalli]

I have a number of physical attributes I like that my girlfriend doesn't have. She has physical attributes I like, but I like others she doesn't have. So I won't date someone who is not my type in ANY way, but I will date girls who don't have every single physical preference I have.

[Guanfei]

I would, as long as I love her. I have preferences in women, but if I meet one that is different, and I like her, I certainly won't pass on the opportunity.

[Guardian45]

REAL people date REAL people!

I made the HUGE mistake of choosing my Ex-wife based on her scoring 9 out 10 on my "Wife Test".

What a Piece of SCHEISSE that, my Ex and my B! tch-in-law were!!!

[the_sinner]

Definitely, without any doubts. If I’ve fallen in love with someone then it’s definitely because of something much greater than looks. I wouldn’t care if it matched my preferences at all.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, I only go for my type mentally and physically.

[driven159]

Men look it is when they touch then it is bad women look too so don't kid yourself.

[Jerre]

If she likes sex as much as I do, I probably would.

[In_Trance]

the Anon girl is definitely you

[desidoll]

Been noticing you and your retard response everywhere here.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I won't fall for any girl that isn't my type

[EaterPeter]

These are your pic?