Do you get confused if you like someone who isn't your usual type?

[Monalisa77]

[AmeerX]

I do get confused especially if there is an lifestyle difference

[Monalisa77]

Thankyou! This is exactly what i mean, he's a dr and a footballer, god knows what he sees in me

[AmeerX]

Why are you feeling less of yourself?
Being a doctor or footballer isn't something so extra ordinary?

[Monalisa77]

He probably sees way more prettier girls everyday, i dont usually get guy s flirting with me, to the point people who know me assume im over reacting

[AmeerX]

You about that he sees prettier girls or you are worried he is just not that into you?

[AmeerX]

You worried*

[Monalisa77]

No its only early days but his actions so far r making me confused n freaked out, i mean he talks to this girl (there's like a gap between them n my cousin said theyre not going out) n its made me paranoid he must b using me, it makes no sense y else he would b staring

[AmeerX]

Wait a minute? You are still single? Or he has asked you out?

[Monalisa77]

Na im single were just flirting atm, but it's pretty intense 😂

[Monalisa77]

I've been there before where guys have been flirting but did not ask me out

[AmeerX]

Hey you are not a teenager to be fooling around. Do you like this guy or not?
If you do then talk to him, no games. If he doesn't want you except as a side chick or a girlfriend then you are wasting your life on him honey

[AmeerX]

I know what you mean. Still I don't like too much flirting. If I like someone I just tell them instead of long games. I cannot believe you act like it's nothing. Why do you not be straight about your feelings with him if you feel anything

[Monalisa77]

We only c each other once a month, i wouldn't have been fussed if he hadn't started 😂 he's slightly different from the guys I've liked before which is why im confused.

[AmeerX]

It's understandable but did you check if he is taken or not?

[AmeerX]

You have his phone number, go call him at least if you took the trouble

[Monalisa77]

In my head im early 20s, I've had a lot of health issues and so i feel like my lifes only getting started n where im going out more n seeing whats out there, every guy whos flirted with me has been different so my lack of experience make s me confused

[Monalisa77]

Don't have his no, im trying to find out but its difficult when he's not on any socials

[AmeerX]

What health issues? Don't let those get to you )). Ad he probably likes you but did you at least check if he is taken or not?

You just ask him for his number or give him your 😁

[AmeerX]

Why all the other guys left you? Mind if I ask

[Monalisa77]

I tried tried find ing out as soon as he started flirting, but my cousins didn't know, even my other cousin whos known him since birth doesn't know

[Monalisa77]

I've never been with anyone, u can check thro my profile to see my history if u want😂(got a cold atm)

[AmeerX]

How do you know this guy?
And no, I don't want to check your profile unless you want to be my wife 😅. I hope you are cute

[AmeerX]

What happened to your health? Mind if I ask about it ))

[Monalisa77]

😂He started coming to play cards about less than a yr ago, i dont generally ask people for their names so i had no idea who he was, i assumed he was some randomer, when he started flirting i asked my cousin if she knew who he was, and when she said his name i was like oh shit, i know that last name, its on my family tree😂😂😂so i asked if we were related first cos that would be creepy 😂but he's not thankfully.

[Monalisa77]

Its all on my profile too much to go through lol

[AmeerX]

Oh haha, so you have a crush on the guy with no way to know if he is taken 👀

[Monalisa77]

Pretty much, il try n get him alone next month hopefully my flights not delayed coming home

[Monalisa77]

Well in 2 weeks time, i say nxt month cos the events only on once a month

[AmeerX]

Hey, I just saw your profile. What is wrong with you? You seem so unlucky in relationship. And no, I didn't find what health condition you have. Can you please tell me what is the matter?
You seem interesting to talk and probably taken by now 😅. Why is it sweet girls are always alone like you

[Monalisa77]

Ik, sometimes i get a good thing going but i self sabotage cos i dont understand it, im trying not to do that with this current guy, he seems too sweet. I have tinnitus since 2012 n now I've got dizzy spells (hoping its temporary) i get cold a lot v easily which means i get a lot of pain in my hands n feet, i dont have great speech n a lot of anxiety. Just not enough support from people as they assume im lazy (they dont know how bad it is living with T)

[AmeerX]

I think I understand. You are probably suffering from neuropathy. It can happen)). And I think you are a sweet girl. How do you sabotage your relationships? Do you ghost guys because if you do then you are up to God to fix because it means you cut off yourself but if you are just timid then you should have hope too.

[Monalisa77]

As i said I've never been with anyone, it doesn't go past the flirting stage, i dont really wanna go in to the last guy where i got my heart broken, there's a bunch of qs about that on my profile from last yr. I dont think I've been ready to be with anyone till just after covid, being forced to be stuck in the house changed my life, i knew i had to get out there n start living /meeting people or if it happened again i dont think i could deal with it

[AmeerX]

Oh I think I answered some of those. Shocks you should have asked if anyone was single here )). And yeah good luck with this guy. Don't be afraid to flaunt your personality.

Just to remind you, you are really nice girl to talk to. You don't have to feel insecure )), you are really going to get this guy but I hope he doesn't hurt you like the rest.

In case you do get left hanging don't let it get to you. You can find a really nice guy 😀

[Monalisa77]

Ye my cousin doesn't think he would be doing this on purpose with that intent, im kinda protected this way if he ghosts me once he finds out who i am well then we know what his game was but if he carries on acting interested then he must b genuine

[Monalisa77]

Thanks, i do try but my anxiety causes me to do a lot of bad things which im working on

[AmeerX]

A lot of bad things? When you get anxiety it's okay to ask friends to talk to you )). It always helps

[Monalisa77]

Ye dont have any lol anytime i try to make any people just dont attempt to meet up

[AmeerX]

What do you mean he ghosts me once he finds out who you are?

[Monalisa77]

If he's using me, and he realizes his family know me, he won't want them knowing he had bad intentions

[AmeerX]

You seem cute and caring girl. I am pretty sure he will fall head over heels for you. It's alright to be this way. He won't ghost someone like you

[Monalisa77]

Its much easier to talk to someone online who replies, than it is in person with my speech

[AmeerX]

Ohh, I understand, yes that's good that is good way. But you are really a good girl. As you said you are with no one. And your intentions are pure. I am also virgin 😅 believe it or not. You don't have to worry about the guy. He is a doctor and he will like you.

I don't care if you have any tinnitus or diseases. If someone loves you they do it regardless of your disadvantages. If they don't then they will make the lamest excuses

[AmeerX]

Hey, you are a person, a woman. What does your speech have to do with your heart 👀. You feel upset about your health. Don't be okay 👍. Cheer up and smile and I am not joking

[Monalisa77]

Ye he knows im vulnerable. Im leaning towards him feeling something for me when he stroked my hand and like me didn't expect to like me. Ill likely only find someone by accident 😂

[Monalisa77]

Bless u, i wish even my family would see it that way, so many r so judgmental

[AmeerX]

😅 hey I think your family doesn't want you to be hurt. I know I would be overprotective if you were blood related to me too. I think I want to see how the story unfolds in 2 weeks )). Do keep us updated please 😀. And bless you too. Be confident 💪, some day after certain age everyone contracts some of the diseases and if someone left you just out of that (excluding STDs) then it's their fault
By the way, where do you work to find such a gentleman?

[Monalisa77]

Lol i dont work:) I've only ever had 1 job for 2 months

[AmeerX]

🤣 I worked 4 months and rest I did free lance and on my family estate. Would you marry me ❤️. I like someone who is okay with being a housewife. You are so traditional, how come no one likes you. I will take good care of you.
I don't care if you are paraplegic

[MysticDevice]

I never thought of that but yeah I suppose I do

[DaveJord]

Nope I am never confused about how I feel when it comes to a woman. I do not have a "type". Thats just foolish. I mean there are women you meet and all you want to do is bang them, because honestly that is all there are good for and looking for. Then there are the ones, that you know sex is not good enough by itself that you need or want more.

But they come in all shapes and sizes and are all unique and special in their own ways, and when that something special hits you... all the rest goes out the window.

[Constatine]

.. you can have a type. But when it comes to sexual attraction.. their is something else , something we can't control.

Chemicals. Chemicals made by the human body to attract a possible partner. You can run from it but you can't hide 😃

Sometimes you see impossible connections. And you wonder why they are together..

Well it must but chemical.. who knows.. 🤭

[andreasderjuengere]

Indeed: I would be confused if I liked someone who isn't my usual type.

It's just... that doesn't happen.

My ''type'' is a subconscious thing, not something I ''designed'' in my head.

And I am aware of the details (slender, dark haired, smart, funny, horny)

[Little_Bumblebee]

Not really. I don't put myself or the people I'm attracted to in a restricted box.
I know my attraction can be fluid.

[DaveJord]

I like this answer, well said.

[Der_Ritter]

No. There are some commonalities in women I'm attracted to but over the years the taste has changed, life changes you and your taste may change with it.

[Starrrboy]

That rarely happens with me, but I attract a lot of people who are very different from me.. sometimes they're like an opposite person!.. And it's hella confusing.. Especially when I sometimes like them back lol

[boggboss]

No I understand types are not the start and end of attraction

[Monalisa77]

Its just I've always gone for the same type of face yet atm i like someone whos slightly different n its freaking me out

[boggboss]

But why did u think your ability to feel attraction was so narrow

[Monalisa77]

Im v picky 😂

[boggboss]

Clearly u are not ad picky as u thought u was

[Monalisa77]

Maybe, but i wasn't like this with this guy before he started flirting. I've got boards on my Pinterest of famous guys i like n theyre all pretty much the same

[boggboss]

That only shows u have looked for that same look most people get attracted to somthing and assume this is the only thing I like but attraction is much deeper them that

[exitseven]

I usually try not to think about it. I dated somebody who was the polar opposite of all the girls I ever dated. I looked at it as an experiment.

[SpeedRacer23]

I used to. I’ve started to realize that I’m attracted to specific traits now, now just certain people. Like I love girls who are animal lovers. Someone who would run out and rescue a puppy from a road because it just felt right.

[BourbonAndBacon]

That has never happened. I only ask out my types.

[Anonymous]

no not really, my type is a chick with a vaginahole.
its not rocket surgery

[AmeerX]

Lol, you can go find a beautiful girl if you just travel East

[spartan55]

Why would that be confusing?

[Xiu92]

I don't really have a type like that

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats not a thing for me.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's never happened to me so I don't know

[AmberSchneider]

No, I don't categorize people usually

[eagle1951]

don't think so

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope