Does cooking for my boyfriend really make me ‘wife material’ to him?

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Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

No. Love makes a woman wife material. A woman is wife material if she cooks for her fella because he loves good food but rarely has the time and energy to cook for himself. If she’s cooking for him in an attempt to trap a man only to benefit from his wealth and/or status, she’s definitely not wife material. She’s no better than any other gold digger or baby-trapper.
Love is why you learn what makes someone happy and you do those things because it makes THEM happy, not anticipating what you get out of it in return.
There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with transactional relationships, as long as both parties know what they’re getting into from the beginning. But, man or woman, if you’re just playing some game to find out what you can get out of someone, that’s not love.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Cooking is often part of the overall picture but it doesn't automatically make you wife material.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It sets the standard that you’ll be the one who cooks and does the housework for your entire relationship. So don’t expect him to suddenly start sharing responsibilities later on when you start out doing this now. Also, don’t expect him to marry you when you’re already acting like a wife. If you cook, clean, do laundry, have sex, live with him, has his kids all without marriage he has no reason to marry you. Many men in this sitution don’t because they already have everything they want without having to get married, make the ultimate commitment and join finances.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Cooking alone is not what makes a person "wife material". It's the ability to SEE him and accommodate. (It's a two-way street, by the way. It's not one side being accommodating and the other not. It's ANTICIPATING the other bc you're able to UNDERSTAND them.)

The happiest guy I know is married 50 years to a gal who can barely make toast-and-jam or steep her teabag in her teacup.

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s a nice thing to do and it definitely will make him appreciate you more but he should also cook for you as well at times to show his appreciation to you

molonski2 · Answer

To be serious " wife material " one needs to be a great active cook , you also need to be hyper sexual in the bedroom , always ready for role playing , you need to be productive , know how to sew , intelligent and thoughtful..

Always well presented and ready , the best version of self , then you are serious " wife material " .

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s a big step up a lazy wife that does nothing but lay around all day. Is a turn off especially when the man is supporting you by putting a roof over your head the more you can do the more happy he’s gonna be because of a sign of that hou really care for the man that you want to please him

Kvass · Answer

You nailed the kitchen, now go nail the bedroom. Then you're wife material

OneViewpoint · Answer

No. Cooking is great if you enjoy food and are into creating stuff in the kitchen. But there's a hell of a lot more to "wife material" than stuffing a guys gut with tasty meals. Only old school Conservative guys with the brain of a child and massive insecurities want a woman barefoot and chained to the stove and bed.

CherryLove007 · Answer

No such thing as wife material. Men need to prove they can be MEN--- MEN adult and not baby sitted little crumb bums. Make a dinner TOGETHER good luck with that dude.

choco-latte · Answer

Just cooking? No. My ex boyfriend’s first girlfriend cooked for him every day, even if they were mad at each other, but their relationship was super toxic.

bowenw · Answer

Only if that is something that is important to him.

sage2021 · Answer

It's funny because my ex-husband was a cook in the U. S. Navy on a ship, yet I still did all of the cooking. Go figure...

Anonymous · Answer

I think the classic 'wife material' is supposed to be Anna Faris when she was young. Young, pretty, fun, sexy, adventuresome, I don't think most guys would have cared whether she could cook or not.

LazerBean · Answer

That is something you would have to ask your boyfriend

jazzy34 · Answer

Stop cooking for him. You're his girlfriend. Act your role. Stop giving a boyfriend husband privileges.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Insufficient information. Do you know how to cook? Did he like what you cooked? Is he unmarried? Who is doing the dishes? What do you expect in return?

msc545 · Answer

Well, considering that most women don't even bother to cook anymore, it kind of might.

jahaims · Answer

Depends on the guy. Try I don't know.. talking to your boyfriend. Cooking is a basic adult skill.

Alex-Snow · Answer

There is far more to being wife material than cooking. I'm a guy who loves to cook. But things such as love, sexual compatibility, personality, trust etc. make someone wife material also

Staximus · Answer

Only cook for a man that you want to keep around

MariaEve · Answer

No. Apparently he’ll stop asking you to give him food for a minute and that’s it lol.

MrChinaski · Answer

I don't know about marriage. But it's a nice thing to do and when done with love it is sexy af.

RavVid · Answer

It contributes :) Wife material is more than just cooking.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Yes for sure. A man will ALWAYs appreciate food made with love. It seems to taste better and men love when their girl does it for us. It's a great service that puts the word WIFE in our minds.

AgentG111 · Answer

If that's what's he's looking for then yes. Some men enjoy cooking and sharing that per say duty of a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Doing basic life skills is far from wife material

ThisSiteSux · Answer

Yes. The only thing that makes a woman wife material is caring for the husband and the kids

lessthansane · Answer

It doesn’t hurt to contribute in the ways you are able

spartan55 · Answer

It definitely isn't a negative thing.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

*good at cooking

_Jenny_ · Answer

@phateemah32 It’s more than just cooking

NoDecision · Answer

I don't know. You'll have to ask him.

Just_Ken · Answer

Depends how good you cook but its a start.

fantasticass · Answer

No, you are not wife material, you are a maid!!

exitseven · Answer

It depends on how good it is

Smileygirl2000 · Answer

No, because you still have no ring

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Yes, wives have to cook.

LC75LC71 · Answer

I hope so. What a lucky guy!

loveyouoak · Answer

Yes, it does.

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

yes. specially if it's what he loves

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure, depends on his priorities.

dudeinohio · Answer

Possibly

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