How can I say no without feeling guilty or bad inside?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

By realizing your feelings are valid. Not necessarily right, but VALID. And anyone who truly CARES about you will RESPECT the word "NO." They might not like it, but they'll respect it. Because if they truly care about you, respect for you should supercede anything they want from you.

It's a good thing you worry about disappointing the other person. It just shows you care about them and have empathy. But you have to know your boundaries and know your worth. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with putting your foot down.

[There_Is_Rehab]

You may be sick like i am.

For the first time in my entire life, couple minutes ago i grasped what it means to be "sick".

You are not evil. Your boundaries were violated when you were a child.

That is it. That is all it means to be "a sicko". Explore childhood trauma. 60% of people have had it and only 20% heal it.

[DishLady]

Sometimes there's no real way to do this. Just do your best to do the right thing at all times and that is the best you can do.

[Nikki1989]

Be direct but warm. You don't need elaborate explanations or apologies.

[slatyb]

Have you considered counseling? This often comes from growing up in a dysfunctional home. Such children often grow into adults with no boundaries. Many high control religions train girls to be subservient to everyone else.

[DryGermanGuy]

[ChicoFromThe305]

Saying no is a part of everyone's life, that should be part of yours as well

[Anonymous]

It depends what you are saying no to. Are you not going on a date or are you denying someone life saving medicine?

[dudeinohio]

Just say it. You need to speak your feelings.

[Abbycado]

To what?

[Spencer10]

Practice.

[Danny_dan92]

Just say no

[Anonymous]

To what kind of question?