How do I say no?

[pandamarda]

I knew this guy from dating apps and we've been talking for few months now (but not on a daily basis). At first, I was interested on him and he's also super nice. But as time goes by, I could not see myself being in a relationship with him. Our value and vision are totally different. I learned a lot from my previous relationship now I know what I want and not want.

I also told him from the beginning that I don't want to rush everything since my last relationship was a total mess and I don't want to be in a relationship just because I'm lonely. I want the feelings come naturally. I don't think he got the signal and keep saying he likes talking with me and want to give this a chance but I don't want to lead him on anymore than this. How do I say no and not hurting his feelings? I need help. Thanks before!

[Guy13]

You’re a sweet guy but I do not see a romantic future together. Friend zoned

[pandamarda]

Ah yeah. I just hate the thought of friend-zoning someone. Maybe it's better not to be friends at all

[Guy13]

It’s life. Actually it’s the F🖕U Zone. I’m so tired of these can’t deal with truth protected Selfie 🤳 generations….

He will recover just fine ‼️

[RavVid]

If you can't see yourself in a relationship with him then you do need to say it is not on from your side. I can understand you not wanting to hurt him but really it hurts more after more time.

If you say your value and vision are incompatible he will possibly say he can change but people rarely do. Possibly you should consider how far off he is as a double check. So I think you should the value and vision line. .

I think emphasize that you like him but can only be a friend and suggest a break from talking for a bit because you don't want to lead him on. Just as you have said here.

There is no really nice way to saying it's a no. Avoiding a brutal assassination and dismemberment is the best you can do which is what you are doing.

[Anonymous]

Just be upfront and honest. Send him a message and say that you think he’s a great guy, but you don’t see a future for you two and you wish him the best. It may upset him but this is what dating is about, finding the right person. Sometimes a person just isn’t the right fit, that’s just part of the process and he has to respect that.

[pandamarda]

Thank you for your opinion. And you're right. I need to be honest about my feelings and not pressure myself to be in a relationship with me.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem, and don’t worry to much about it, like some people would just ghost so it’s very considerate of you