Should I tell him I like him at this point or wait a bit to see if he approaches me?

[Anonymous]

Long story short I like this guy.

The last time I saw him he was inconsiderate rude and indifferent. He isn't always like that.

So now I'm hurt and mad.

I want closure but if he's as big of a jerk as he was the last time I saw him, I am afraid to tell him I like him.

[Anonymous]

Being direct is best but his behavior can say a lot some people are wearing a mask. Trust me I knew this guy who was the most charming charismatic guy you could ever meet and then he would just flip on a dime and start yelling and screaming at everyone. I mean…. Chillest dude ever you would imagine he was sitting at a beach and other days he got into these little shitty ass mood where he was a bitch all day. Long story short we aren’t friends anymore.
This guy was a extreme case though I mean a EXTREME case

So what I ask is. Is he only acting like this with you? Or does he do this to everyone where he has good and bad days? Either way it may be best to avoid the drama but if it’s directed at you then either he’s playing some game or doesn’t like you.

[Anonymous]

What exactly did he say or do the last time you saw him that made you feel he was being rude and inconsiderate?

[Asker]

K long story short we meet each other in a group setting so very little one on one time. I know he noticed me when he realized I noticed him.

Slowly he was warming up to me. Once I came in distracted and not as focused on him. He clocked this as he kept looking over at me wondering what happened since last time. HOWEVER he wasn't especially bothered he left early that day.

The next time I saw him he was FINE. Smiling talking etc.

However after that he was indifferent cold and rude. When I asked very sweetly if I could sit there (only one chair available) he pretty much said no I couldn't in the rudest way possible. As I was standing awkwardly no one bothered making room for me. Later when I said where can I sit then one of the new girls felt bad for me and said I could sit so I did.

Later someone came and said we had tos plit the table into two. He asked if there were any volunteers I said i'll go.

He then said would anyone like to join her.

No one moved. Not one person out of the 4 I knew even attempted to move. Like literally a minute passed and then some of the new people felt bad for me and moved.

After that i just focused on a new friend I made. Crush was talking to someone else. Continued talkin to my friend. OUt of the corner of my eye saw my crush talkin to tothers he wasn't looking at me.

So yeah I'm mad pissed off.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh we’ve talked before. Had that long conversation about ground you’re in n the dude who was a moderator

[Asker]

Ohh have we? I don't know what you mean about ground you're in n the dude who was a moderator but hte dude whow as the moderator is the DEVIL.

My crush is someone else.

[Opinion Owner]

No we talked for a long time. Remember the moderator said who wants to go w her n you said he was rude. That you said you were smarter than all the people there at this group.

[Anonymous]

Yes! A women who does that becomes more attractive. If he's a jerk again, you'll probably not care.

[Asker]

See the issue is this guy he's not my friend, like i have nothing to do with him.

If I tell him off his response would be why does what I say bother you so much?

[Asker]

He was most certainly a jerk no doubt about that.

But what was like the real salt on the wound is that I care about him.

[Opinion Owner]

That's better. It won't be as awkward if he isn't your friend. I've been unintentional rude to women before, because I was afraid to show them too much attention.

[Iron_Man]

Tell him as soon as possible right to his face

[Asker]

How? over text? In-person?

I'm still super hurt at his behaviour

[Asker]

Also he's a bit nicer to this other girl. I thought at first it was just familiarity. But now I feel it's possible he's actually interested in her.

This girl is not very nice to me.

So it would be a double wound if it turns out he is interested and I'm his second choice

[Iron_Man]

Face-to-face is the best be kind and smile

[Asker]

What if he breaks my heart

[Asker]

I know it sounds silly but for as long as he doesn't know there's hope.

But if he knows and says no the hope is gone that one day he may feel the same way

[Iron_Man]

Well, then, don’t talk to him at all then it’s your choice you’re playing both sides of the fence you wanna do it you don’t wanna do it. You have to make up your mind.

[Asker]

Are guys nice to girls even if they dont' like her but she looks nice.

I could look particularly pretty the next time I see him and see if he approaches me

[Iron_Man]

Yes…

[Abbycado]

You’re in your thirties? Jfc

[Asker]

There is so much age shaming on these forums it's not even funny