Should I tell him I like him? (Read details)?

[Anonymous]

Have known this guy for almost 1.5 years, never met (he stays far away) but we texted once every 15 days (both busy) for the past 7 months and he seems hot and cold. We have lots in common and I feel like we will get along well. We're meeting for the first time (I asked to meet), should I tell him I'm interested? If yes, how? Because it will be a ldr.

[HollyK21]

Do whatever feels right for you, and if it’s confessing your feelings then go for it. However I would recommend analyzing the situation and what you’d like to happen once your feelings are out there. Surely you’d want something romantic, but how practical could that be? Working towards a relationship will change the whole “casual” dynamic of your relationship into something more regular and consistent in order to build. As of now you’re both busy to the point that you only speak once every 15 days, and to me that’s saying he doesn’t have the time to invest in or commit to a romantic relationship, which also would make sense why he’s hot and cold. If you really want to give it a shot then it’s worth the conversation and maybe you two could get better about all that. Just be realistic if you decide to open that door and decide if pursuing romance is actually something you guys can do.

[Asker]

Should I tell in person or over text?

[HollyK21]

Definitely in person. Texting about something so important should be your absolute last resort.

[Asker]

Okay, I hope it won't be too overwhelming given we're meeting for the first time.

[HollyK21]

Don’t hesitate or feel afraid to have that talk. Your concern is one of the main reasons LDR situations fail, because when something is wrong around the time the couple is going to hang out, the person with the issue sweeps it under the rug for the sake of not messing up the one on one time, and that just can’t be a thing. Even if it weren’t with him, you need to be able to speak on your problems.

[Asker]

True. Thank you!

[Secret6620]

Yes.

I think it's always the best for you to express your feelings without fearing rejection. That way he if doesn't return your feelings you can move on or at least get some closure.

[Asker]

Should I tell in person or over text?

[Secret6620]

Your choice of place and time. Best of luck

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Secret6620]

Yay! Thank you for most helpful girl ✨️

[In_Trance]

Whatever works for ya

[Iron_Man]

Go for it

[Asker]

I should tell in person or over text?

[Iron_Man]

In person

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Iron_Man]

Sure