If a relationship (girlfriend-boyfriend) is not going to a marriage, is it a complete waste of time?

[Anonymous]

I mean goal of the relationship (romantic relationship) is not going to a marriage? Is it a complete waste of time? What do you think?

[Melody90]

Not necessarily, but it depends on what both people want from the relationship. If marriage is the ultimate goal for one person and the other has no intention of committing, then staying together for years can become a waste of time. However, not every relationship has to end in marriage to have meaning. The real problem is investing your time, emotions, and loyalty in someone whose intentions are incompatible with yours.

But for me, marriage is a must!

[Asker]

What would be the intensions of romantic relationship other than marriage? Can you give me an example? I have my own answer but I am curious about what girls think.

[Melody90]

Romantic relationships can have different purposes besides marriage, such as companionship, emotional intimacy, physical attraction, personal growth, or simply enjoying someone's company. For example, two people might date because they love spending time together, supporting each other, and sharing experiences, even though neither wants to get married. Some people see a relationship as valuable in itself rather than as a step toward marriage. Personally, I think it depends on what both people want and whether their intentions align. Personally, I see marriage as the ultimate purpose of a romantic relationship

[Asker]

Okey, what do you think about this though?
What if we want to have a relationship with someone for a while. For example couple of months or a year and after that I want to break up with her. Because ı want to have a relationship with other girls, want to have a same relationship types with others. Love relationships. Just wanna live love with many girls. Is that a problem for a girl who I had first relationship with? Or other girls that I had a relationships with?

[Melody90]

Yes, I think that’s selfish if you knowingly enter relationships with people who expect commitment while you have no intention of building a future with them. Treating love as something you want to experience with one girl after another, only to leave when you feel like moving on, can cause unnecessary emotional pain. People aren’t temporary experiences to collect. If you want to date casually, be honest about your intentions from the beginning and let the other person decide whether that arrangement is right for them. You’re free to choose how you live, but you’re also responsible for how your choices affect others.

[Asker]

I think no girl would accept it.

[Melody90]

Maybe , some girls would. We can't know...

[Asker]

I asked many girls. Nobody has accepted.

[Melody90]

Many of them would not.

[Asker]

I just want to have love relationship with many girls because ı like many of them. isn't it possible for me?

[Melody90]

No. Love is not just about having romantic feelings for multiple people; it also involves responsibility, honesty, and consideration for other people's emotions. If you constantly want to move from one girl to another simply because you find other women attractive, you may be confusing love with infatuation. You’re free to choose your lifestyle, but you shouldn’t treat people’s hearts as temporary experiences to satisfy your own desires.

[Asker]

I dont believe that. Anyway thanks for the reply.

[Melody90]

That’s fine. We don’t have to agree on everything. I simply have a different understanding of love, and I believe that genuine love involves more than just having feelings for someone. Anyway, you’re welcome.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Not at all. How could it be if both are happy as it is? Marriage isn't like this ultimate end goal for all couples. Hell, some can't even get married because of certain circumstances. Doesn't mean the relationship is a waste of time.

You are overromanticizing marriage.

[Asker]

Okey, what if we want to have a relationship with someone for a while. For example couple of months or a year and after that I want to break up with her. Because ı want to have a relationship with other girls, want to have a same relationship types with others. Love relationships. Just wanna live love with many girls. Is that a problem for a girl who I had first relationship with? Or other girls that I had a relationships with?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

What does that have to do with marriage? Your example is somehow implying that marriage automatically blocks you from cheating and makes it impossible to want other people. That's simply not true.

[Lesbologist]

Maybe they enjoy responsible sex or spending time together. The question is framed though as if marriage is the whole point, when that's just a legal contract.

[exitseven]

No. I dated several girls with no intention of marrying any of them. They were fun to be with and just having somebody who cared for me was nice.

[Asker]

They didn't mad at you when you broke up with them though? Did they?

[exitseven]

Most broke up with me.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Nikki1989]

Genuine friendships are always worthwhile. Most of my friends are male, and they are like family to me.

[Asker]

I meant the romantic (girlfriend -boyfriend) relationships. Ypu got me wrong.

[Agape93]

Is food not worth eating if it lacks nutrition? Or does flavor and consistency alone make food enjoyable?

[Asker]

So it is not waste of time right?

[Agape93]

Correct

[Asker]

Are you completely a girl?

[Agape93]

Last time I checked yeah

[Asker]

😄😄😄 Thanks. I am in a Arabic country and no girl thinks like that. They think that every relationship that doesn't go to marriage. They see a complete waste of time. And they find it very normal.

[Agape93]

Thats because of the culture you guys force them to live with.

[Asker]

I am not from there ı am just living in it. Yeah probably you are right. Arabic men tell girls to except for marriage, relationship with guys. They find it waste of time. How does it process what do you think?

[Agape93]

Suffice to say, they need to have their nations turned to a glass parking lot.

[Asker]

What do you mean a glass parking lot?

[Agape93]

Nukes are hot enough to turn sand into glass, and reduce areas to rubble.

[Asker]

Are you jew or smthng?

[Agape93]

Nope, occultist.

[Asker]

Okey I didn't get what you mean but anyway.

[Asker]

Okey, can you answer this?
What if we want to have a relationship with someone for a while. For example couple of months or a year and after that I want to break up with her. Because ı want to have a relationship with other girls, want to have a same relationship types with others. Love relationships. Just wanna live love with many girls. Is that a problem for a girl who I had first relationship with? Or other girls that I had a relationships with?

[Agape93]

Depends on the girl. I know i wouldn't give a fuck, but i also dont feel a need for permanence.

[queenofcardio]

You can just enjoy spending time with each other. Not every relationship needs a label.

[Asker]

But ı eant to break up with the relationship after a while. Most probably. Is that a problem?

[Anonymous]

If you don't make your mistakes in previous relationships and learn from them, then you're going to make them in your marriage and put that marriage at risk.

[Anonymous]

To me it would be, but marriage isn’t something that everyone wants.

[Asker]

What do some people want? Can you give me an example?

[LazerBean]

For the most part, yes.

[AgentG111]

Nope marriage is just a piece of paper.

[Pterodon]

No if it’s what you both want