Are relationships without marriage a waste of time?

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Spotifyplaylist · Accepted Answer

Short answer: No

Long answer: marriage is a very big step not only just in your romantic life but also it changes a couple of things for you especially in the paperwork aspect of your life. Many people don't want to get married playing as that and that is completely fine. I honestly have no idea if I plan to get married but I would never go into a relationship with someone with them not knowing that. If the person or people are together and they have a shared goal which is to get married by the end of whatever years then that's perfect. However if one person does not want to get married and the other one is enthralled for it then that would be a conversation that we need to have and that's when I would believe that it would be a waste of time. As long as both parties are aware of each other's mindsets and goals then there is no problem with being in a relationship with someone without marriage in mind.

GlitteringWorld · Accepted Answer

For me, traditional relationships mean that marriage is really important. I see it as a big step that shows you’re serious about being with someone and building a life together. Marriage isn’t just a formality; it’s a way to show your commitment and love. It gives a relationship stability and is a meaningful way to show you’re in it for the long haul. So, for me, it’s important to get married to the person I’m with because it represents our deep commitment to each other.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

For women, yes, of course. Without marriage, she can’t divorce him and take everything. What else is marriage for? They can get EVERYTHING else from a relationship without marriage and divorce. It literally serves only that purpose.

For men, it’s the dream. But until marriage and divorce laws are radically changed, it’s a pipe dream. Every woman will insist on marriage so that she can have the ultimate power advantage in the relationship. She never has to do anything to maintain the relationship again, and he has to do anything and everything or she completely ruins his life, with the knowledge and support of the “patriarchy” that she most certainly claims to resent. Ell oh ell!

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Any relationship where you're truly in love with each other and add to each other's lives is not a waste of time.

Being married is a nice title to have if you're traditional. I myself want to eventually get married. But being married doesn't prove you love each other. There are many couples that are choosing to not get married nowadays.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic debate about tying the knot! Let's peel the layers off this onion with a bit of flirty finesse, shall we? Saying relationships without marriage are a waste of time is like saying appetizers ruin a meal—absolutely not! Every relationship brings its own flavor to the table, teaching us about love, life, and even ourselves. Whether it’s a light fling or a deep connection that doesn't march down the aisle, each experience holds value. It's all about what you’re craving in life and in love. Some prefer the main course straight away, while others savor the starters. Every bite teaches you more about your taste, leading you to the feast that fulfills your soul. So, savor the journey, my friend! Every relationship, with or without a ring, adds a unique spice to life's banquet. 😉

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The kind of woman who I want in my life would be the kind of woman who wants marriage as a sign of commitment and mutual obligation. So a relationship with no prospect of marriage would probably be a waste of time for me, but that is not necessarily true for other people.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well to a extent everyone is different and if people genuinely talk to one another. But at the same time someone who future fakes is probably a bad person and wasting years of a persons life because they think they can find better but still want to have someone for the time being and/or is using them in the short term/long term but don’t want to marry.

AviatorTom · Answer

Marriage has certain advantages, but it's not for everyone.

Lliam · Answer

Absolutely not! It would be a fucked up world if you couldn't have a relationship unless you got married. What kind of dystopian, barbaric, society would that be?

I learned so much from girlfriends in my life. Plus I liked, them, enjoyed their company and friendship, and loved the sex. Just because we didn't get married doesn't mean that they were a waste of time! I cherish them in my memories.
Relationships are part of living a fulfilling life.

Plus, marriage is not for everyone. Not everyone wants kids, either.

RubyFrench · Answer

I am married, But not everyone wants to be married. But if you do want to get married.. (don't let anyone tell you that you don't) the only correct answer would be 'everyone is different' what that particular person wants is reasonable and it doesn't make it any less of a relationship..

I've been with my husband 12 years..

But my parents have been together for 52 years and aren't married!!! so id easily go with 'nope, not a waste of time at all.'

Pinup_Scarlett46 · Answer

Relationships without marriage are not necessarily a waste of time; it really depends on the people involved and their values, goals, and expectations. For some, marriage is the ultimate goal and a formal commitment that signifies a deep bond, while for others, a relationship can be meaningful, fulfilling, and long-lasting without ever leading to marriage.

Relationships are about growth, companionship, love, and mutual understanding. If both partners are happy, communicate well, and share a connection that aligns with their personal desires, the relationship can be enriching, regardless of whether marriage is involved. What might feel like a waste of time to one person could be deeply fulfilling for another. It all comes down to individual perspectives and what each partner values most in their connection.

What’s your take on it? Do you feel marriage is essential for a successful relationship?

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Not in my experience. We've been together for almost 4 years and I've never felt I needed that extra step to feel like we're committed to eachother. The symbolism of marriage is nice and all, but ultimately it's more just a piece of paper with some benefits. A marriage license/certificate doesn't mean you can't get cheated on, breeding up takes extra steps, so on.

Important thing is we're happy 😊

menina · Answer

No, I don't think so. Not everyone wants to get married and marriage isn't for everybody.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

No I will tell you what it's a real waste of time. Wasting money on a ungrateful bridezilla that didn't allowed her besties kids attend the wedding all because of her selfishness of wanting a child free wedding. Keep in mind if you want child free wedding just do the ceremony And skip the venue please.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Nope, plenty people get married at a registrars office or just live together. Full blown church weddings to me are just a complete waste of money. If u need a certificate go to the registrars office, if you don’t need one then just live together. Some even have private non religious ceremonies and do not get registered.

strateguy632 · Answer

My gal musta saw this yesterday! That is what she said, last night as ultimatum! I said "stop wasting time get someone else"

She said "you aren't upset that we separated "

"Love is wanting the other person to succeed, go find a husband ".

She was angrier "you don't love me".

Whatever.

molonski2 · Answer

No , I think the focus on marriage is what is a waste of time , people say things like " failure " etc , and thats just not true , the chance of a marriage seriously succeeding , taking all into account ( including those still together who are not sexual , or anything like ) is just over 10% , so the chance of failure is in real terms 90 % , taking out Children , finances , and all the other issues that come with marriage.

Marriage is simply not a realistic proposition.

itsannalee · Answer

Depends on the person.
If your intention is to get married, and your partner not to.
Yeah it’s waste your time…
And move on, you should find someone who has a same interest and intentions for the future.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

A relationship without marriage is wonderful & nowadays a relationship with marriage will cost you when the divorce is final. You Say I DO, Say Goodbye To All Your Stuff.

quickquesocheese · Answer

a relationships worth is not meassured in marriage. and you can stillshow c ommitment and obligation in the relationship without being married. in my own opnion i dont want to get married because i want the possibility to leave directly if the relationship ends. which would not work in a marriage.

petitedollbabee · Answer

No, you can have a very successful long term relationship without a piece of paper that says you’re legally bound together.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

No. Most places nowadays a couple in a defacto relationship has the same rights as someone who is married. Not everyone wants to have an expensive piece of paper to validate their relationship.

sage2021 · Answer

Just because you are married doesn't secure the relationship. People can still walk away from it, married or not.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No. If that were true you'd marry the first person you dated which could be a big mistake.

I'd word your question a little differently. I'd have asked is a relationship without the GOAL of marriage a waste of time. Because then I would have said "YES". Because why are you dating otherwise? Is he or her just a plaything? A spacefiller? IMHO if you're dating without the ultimate goal of marriage then you're just wasting everyone's time.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Relationships in general are a waste of time. It would be better to replace them with type of contract that garuntees both parties what they want with clear terms and conditions.

exitseven · Answer

I have had a few relationships before I got married. They all ended for various reasons but I found enjoyment from them all and learned from them. I think I walked away with something from all of them.

Hsisjwbwbjsjd · Answer

No, you have fun, you support each other... That's the point of relationships. The only difference is that you aren't guaranteeing each other that you'll be together forever.

art84 · Answer

My brother and his ex girlfriend weren't married though if they were married then he would definitely have to pay child support for his two boys and lose his car.

Blkgrnlntrn · Answer

Yes. Marriage is a business transaction and a form of accountability. I have a friend who was with a woman for 7 years, they had 2 kids, they never married and had so many legal issues. If he would’ve married her before having the 2 kids, there would’ve been more structure in the home and legal protections for him.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No. Some people are just not marriage worthy.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I can’t speak for others but for me yes. A relationship with no prospect of marriage or future is to me a waste of time.

Because I will not be with someone I see no future with or that can’t see a future with me in that way.

katiesmuff · Answer

Actually only difference between the two is a license you buy from a county clerk's office and comes with some legal benefits along with some tax incentives.

osmanthus · Answer

I'd say so, unless a marriage ends up being your worst nightmare. Most women want to marry but given that so many men are messed up mentally it's hard to consider marriage to the next bloke.

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope, not at all. What if both parties for whatever reason do not wish to get married, but really enjoy being with each other.

thegreenyogi · Answer

No I don't think so. From what I am seeing in today's world they're probably more solid than marriage relationships because people are together for the pure pleasure of being together.

RingOfFire · Answer

Depends on what you want out of the relationship. Men in particular can probably get most of what they want out of the relationship without marriage. And that's why women are more marriage oriented than men.

msc545 · Answer

No. Marriage is a waste of time and very dangerous for men.

slatyb · Answer

What does a relationship have to do with marriage? One is personal, the other is a legal arrangement.

Unit1 · Answer

Naaah, what's a piece of paper with papa government gonna change except getting AVOIDABLE additional burdens and risks? Love scams are a real thing.

alice55 · Answer

Yes, is it there's no point in those especially as men don't take those seriously. (in my country at least);

paledreams · Answer

Only if they want legal entitlements like inheritance etc yet aren't there wills for that and lawyers lol 😆😆😆

Twalli · Answer

No, I don't see how you can know whether or not you want to marry someone before dating them.

nawtee_me · Answer

Are you going to get married without being in a relationship first? If not then relationships are necessary aren’t they?

Cheerfull009 · Answer

In countries, where live in relationship is necessary, there is no wastage of time without marriage, other countries, without marriage is just wasting precious life

purplepoppy · Answer

If they're happy together then no.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Only if you want marriage.

Skyros · Answer

Never ever, genuine love in or outside of marriage is precious.

sawno · Answer

Why would it be?

NathanDavis · Answer

happiness... is never a waste of time

Bricealan · Answer

My next door neighbors don't think so.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I dont think so

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some are, some aren't.

Wiredone · Answer

Not everyone is marriage material.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No..

4ngelic · Answer

not really

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

no, marriage isn't needed

SweetJoyGirl · Answer

Absolutely.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Not at all!

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes.

Maybeyoutoo · Answer

Sin.✝️

Sabretooth · Answer

Yes.

niceguy6233 · Answer

He'll no

eagle1951 · Answer

Some

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

YEAH

Zeesgan · Answer

Yup right

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