Is it justified to feel the relationship was a waste of time?

[Anonymous]

So been sorting through emotions talking with family and hopefully soon starting to see a counselor who specializes in working with clients with autism but anyways my breakup that I experienced last year still resides in my brain and it’s reasoning that bothers me. Like initially in the beginning you want to disclose something like this because it’s massive and you want to give the girl the fair chance to walk away if she doesn’t feel that it’s for her. Well this girl stayed then when our breakup came she blamed everything on my autism and saying she didn’t have the empathy or patience to try to understand me which was a gut punch because I got it all wrong her personality she seemed so sweet and kind then her true nature came out she also claimed to be an empathetic person too so maybe you can only be in certain situations

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[Anonymous]

Dude, I can totally understand why you'd feel like that relationship was a waste of time. That really sucks that your ex basically blamed your autism for the breakup. That's messed up and doesn't seem fair at all.

It makes sense that you'd be sorting through a lot of emotions about this. Breakups are tough enough, but when the other person uses your autism as an excuse, that's gotta be extra painful. Like, you were upfront about it and she said she was cool with it, but then when things got tough, she bailed.

I get why you might feel like you misjudged her character. She seemed sweet and empathetic, but then her true colors showed when she couldn't handle the reality of your autism. That's a major let-down, especially if you put a lot of trust and effort into the relationship.

It's totally justified to feel like that was a waste of time. You opened up and gave her a chance, and she just ended up using your autism against you. That's not fair or right. Don't beat yourself up over it - it sounds like she was the one who couldn't handle things, not you.

Talking to a counselor who specializes in autism is a really good idea. They'll be able to help you process these emotions and figure out how to move forward. In the meantime, don't be too hard on yourself. That relationship might not have worked out, but that doesn't mean the next one won't. Hang in there, dude.

Dude, I can totally understand why you'd feel like that relationship was a waste of time. That really sucks that your ex basically blamed your autism for the breakup. That's messed up and doesn't seem fair at all.

It makes sense that you'd be sorting through a lot of emotions about this. Breakups are tough enough, but when the other person uses your autism as an excuse, that's gotta be extra painful. Like, you were upfront about it and she said she was cool with it, but then when things got tough, she bailed.

I get why you might feel like you misjudged her character. She seemed sweet and empathetic, but then her true colors showed when she couldn't handle the reality of your autism. That's a major let-down, especially if you put a lot of trust and effort into the relationship.

It's totally justified to feel like that was a waste of time. You opened up and gave her a chance, and she just ended up using your autism against you. That's not fair or right. Don't beat yourself up over it - it sounds like she was the one who couldn't handle things, not you.

Talking to a counselor who specializes in autism is a really good idea. They'll be able to help you process these emotions and figure out how to move forward. In the meantime, don't be too hard on yourself. That relationship might not have worked out, but that doesn't mean the next one won't. Hang in there, dude.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I can totally understand why you'd feel like that relationship was a waste of time. That really sucks that your ex basically blamed your autism for the breakup. That's messed up and doesn't seem fair at all.

It makes sense that you'd be sorting through a lot of emotions about this. Breakups are tough enough, but when the other person uses your autism as an excuse, that's gotta be extra painful. Like, you were upfront about it and she said she was cool with it, but then when things got tough, she bailed.

I get why you might feel like you misjudged her character. She seemed sweet and empathetic, but then her true colors showed when she couldn't handle the reality of your autism. That's a major let-down, especially if you put a lot of trust and effort into the relationship.

It's totally justified to feel like that was a waste of time. You opened up and gave her a chance, and she just ended up using your autism against you. That's not fair or right. Don't beat yourself up over it - it sounds like she was the one who couldn't handle things, not you.

Talking to a counselor who specializes in autism is a really good idea. They'll be able to help you process these emotions and figure out how to move forward. In the meantime, don't be too hard on yourself. That relationship might not have worked out, but that doesn't mean the next one won't. Hang in there, dude.

[exitseven]

Sorry this was the result but this is why we date different people. You gave her an audition and she did not pass it. It was a learning experience for you so it was not a complete waste of time.