What do women think of a guy who is more submissive? I'm not talking about, "wanting to be your slave." And I'm not talking about some guy that is going to let you push him around. I'm just talking about letting you have control and take the lead. You hear about women wanting strong guys and guys who take charge a lot, but not all guys are like that. If the guy is submissive would it be OK if he was submissive all the time, most of the time, some of the time, or rarely?
I know this is going to be a personality based answer and very dependent per person but it will still tell me something if the answers are overwhelmingly no or if there's a good mix of answers. So feel free to answer even if someone's answer is close to yours.
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I agree with you, every girl is different; each girl likes and dislikes certain levels of submissiveness. But it's not just the girl that's causing this problem. The media, in a sense, portrays a guy to be this manly figure who can wrestle bears with their bare hands, kill it with their teeth, then haul it off for the woman to cook...sure a little extreme, but my point is that men are always depicted as the provider, the head of the house and the relationship.
Now, to answer your question: I don't think it's alright for a guy to be submissive all the time because then the girl's going to feel like the relationship is entirely on her shoulders because the guy won't take any initiative, or she's going to use it to her advantage and try to get all she can out of you. Same goes for most of the time. However, if you're the opposite, and try to take too much in charge, the girl might think that you're trying to control her and that could very well backfire.
my advice to you is this: if you're a very submissive person, try to take more initiative to alter that. work on making decisions in the relationship for yourself, and don't always depend on her to make them for you. If you don't agree with something she wants you to do, tell her...fight back. However, if you feel like something in the relationship is out of your hands, don't be afraid to let her take a hold of the reins. A relationship should be balanced so to speak; both people should have the same weight to carry, not one more or less than the other.2