Should I be worried if my girlfriend went to dinner with her guy friend?

[Anonymous]

So I've been with my girlfriend for 4 & 1/2 months now. Everything is great, we're so compatible with each other and we're completely in love.

4 days ago, we're just relaxing and watching TV, when my girlfriend got a text from one of her good guy friends. She thought it was funny and read the text to me which stated that her guy friend hadn't seen my girlfriend in so long, and that they should catch up for dinner later this week.

She saw my reaction to this and asked me if it was OK if she went to dinner with her guy friend. I didn't want to start anything, and come off as possessive so I just told her it's fine. I trust her completely, but it still worries me a little.

She texted me today and told me that she was going to get something to eat with her guy friend after I asked her what her plans were for this evening.

Basically I'm 22, my girlfriend is 24, and her guy friend is 28. I've already met her male friend at a bar a month ago and my girlfriend introduced me to him as her "Man Friend". He seemed nice, and from my observations, their wasn't any type of awkwardness between them so they most likely didn't date in the past, and it was mainly just joking around and friend like.

And if any of you ask, he's not gay

[DrPhil13]

I guess what I would worry about is the fact that you appear to be uncomfortable with it, yet she still persists on seeing her friend. In a "good" relationship, she would have recognized your discomfort, explained to you the nature of her interest in catching up with her guy friend and perhaps even invited you along. On the surface, it demonstrates a bit of self-centeredness on her part for leaving you hanging. And yes, a little bit of self-doubt, worry and "possessiveness" is normal on your part. You should be honest with her and let her know how you feel so that she doesn't walk all over your feelings in the future. Good luck with that!

[Anonymous]

What stands out to me, is the "ONE OF her good guy friends" part. So she has SEVERAL? Move on, take the heartache now... but move on or you're gonna get hurt A LOT WORSE later. You have NO IDEA how many divorced guys I've met around the country (I travel coast to coast to coast several times annually)... who have ALL told me about what a nightmare their marriage turned into... and have regurgitated the fact that they're sorry they trust their ex wife having a lot of "guy friends" as a majority. EVERY case, ended the same.

[AmberChick]

It's most likely just friendly. If she continues the relationship with you, she won't be seeing this guy friend as much as you think. Just relax

[mm53912011]

No, no and no. You should trust her. Insecurity and jealousy get you nowhere.

[CindiluvsFriends]

Well if you're both secure in your relationship,then I wouldn't worry.

[provokeesmokee]

You said it was fine, and you don't want to come off possessive.

Here's why I think you're overreacting: if she were cheating, she wouldn't have told you about the text, about him, about her dinner plans, or that she was with him.

You asked where she was, she told you truthfully.

It's okay to be uneasy, but not ok to let your unease affect how you treat your girlfriend.

But she doesn't deserve your lies.

Be honest. Say you're worried, and be open about your feelings, while also acknowledging how and why you think it's probably unwarrented.

Hiding your thoughts and feelings from her, for fear of how she'll judge you, are not the actions of a trusting and loving boyfriend. They're hallmarks of future resentment.

Just be honest, and try to use neutral and non-emotional language.

Just because straight men and women hang out, doesn't mean they're banging.

[Anonymous]

I mean you already said it was OK so... When she asked I would've said "do you really want to go"? And then see how she responded. Put the shoe on the other foot. Do you really think she would be ok with you have dinner with an old lady friend? C'mon it's disrespect.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Were you invited and said no? In which case, no. Otherwise, why were you not invited? I invite my S. O. every time I'm with another woman.

[BigDog1989]

If you think you should worry. Meaning, if you think she'll cheat

[mandyfire98]

Seems like they're just friends.

[WhitneySnow]

You should trust her

[KrakenAttackin]

He's banging her.