She cancelled but offered to reschedule?

[Anonymous]

Trying to set a first date with a girl. She gave a pretty legit excuse and said she was really sorry and wanted a rain check and said how about the next weekend. I was chill with it, it didn't bother me, but I've been looking online and people are saying that if she reschedules she must not be all that interested. I just thought that stuff happens sometimes and that's life but maybe I'm naive. Is it a good sign if a girl offers to reschedule or is it one of those "too nice so waits till I give up" type of things?

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+1 y

So is it up to her to confirm the date when it comes up or up to me? I don't know, I just have a feeling she might forget (might be lack of confidence). I'm picking her up.

[Anonymous]

It's a first date - of course she's not that interested yet. She doesn't know you too well yet.

But she postponed, not cancelled, and gave an alternate date, not just a handwaving in the future some time.

Give her the benefit of the doubt.

[Tinyplaces]

If she asked for a rain check then I take her cancelling as something got in the way that she had no control over. If she suggested next weekend then she's making time for you.

[DaniJ]

I doubt she's playing you like that. If she makes it to the date the next weekend, you know you had nothing to worry about. If she reschedules again, then it's time to be wary.

[DaniJ]

@update: just call and confirm a day or two before.

[Temporary46]

Yeah, if she doesn't like you she will simply stop contacting you and won't return your calls.

See what happens next weekend. Just assume it's a go.

[Anonymous]

I would say that if she has a legitimate reason to cancel AND tries to reschedule right away 90% she is interested in having that date.
And if she reschedules right away the range if legitimate reasons to cancel increases.
Being sick for example is always a legitimate reason to cancel anything. But being tired could just be a bad excuse that you take when uninterested… but if you immediately get an offer for a new date it can be a legitimate reason… cause she doesn’t want to be tired at your date, it’s not fun for her and not for you either. Why is she tired? Work? Family? Who knows?

the important thing when cancelling plans is to make the new plans as fast as possible… preferably in the same sentence where you say you have to cancel. “I’m so sorry, but we can’t hang out tonight. My migraine got worse in the afternoon and I need to rest. How about Saturday?” That shows that the person wants to see you since they mention a new date in the near future… on the other end you have the “Sorry, I have to cancel tonight’s plans. Maybe another time”… not necessary 100% bad, but no reason for the cancellation is mentioned and no effort to find another date is shown either.

another thing to think about is who planned the date to begin with? If you did all the planning and asked them out… yeah then they maybe never really wanted to go but didn’t know how to say no… but if they were the one planning or asking you out and then cancelled… it’s most likely a legitimate reason.. why would they be actively planning a date with you just to cancel?