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Here's a short answer that will sum it up quite well.
How is your temper? Are you the jealous type? What are the odds of you getting abusive?
Answer those questions, and think hard about the image you project. If you seem like you could get scary, then yeah that's going to be detrimental. If you're level headed, and it's obvious, you should be fine, for some guys anyway. But naturally some guys might get intimidated.
i do katrate and judo and yes guys seem to be scared of being beaten but they are immature and rather check out my bra if my top slips...silly fools ...11
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If by could you mean would, no. If by could you mean "she knows how", maybe.
Anyway, to calm you down a little, if you are not in the heavy weight league, you should keep in mind that even with martial arts, a simple pinch in the face by a guy will get you KO. So don't try it, if you meant "would".11
You probably just need to find the right guy. As far as the guys go who do martial arts with you, any guy is going to get a bit embarrassed about being pinned down by a girl in front of other guys. He is probably going to have put up with some mickey taking by the other guys. However, don't take this too seriously as they probably admire your skill. If the guy is more mature then he will also admire your skill. I got pinned down by various black belt girls on the judo mat. I just thought that there would be no point learning judo if the stronger person always won. I would be happy to go out with a girl who could beat me on the mat. I could still feel like the man if I was still stronger than her, though less skillful.0
The women out there that could actually beat me up are very few and far between, and most are not the most "feminine" looking. But all that aside, if I came across a girl whom I found attractive, personality wise we got along, and then discovered she has some "Buffy Summers" like ability where she could kick my ass, I really don't think it'd bother me that much. So I suppose the short answer is yes, I could still like and date a girl who could beat me up.0
ya I wouldn't mind, I don't think any girl could beat me up in a life or death situation though... I mean martial arts is one thing but all a guy would need is one good punch and the girl would be unconscious just from the pure strength difference. I don't think I could date a girl that was stronger then me however just because it would be gross for a girl to have muscles like that0
It all will depend on your temperament and how you would react and relate to a boyfriend, if your predisposed to be witchy, fierce, mean tempered and mean spirited i could understand their view. if your are a sweet gal and only use for defense, IE an abusive boyfriend or an outside attack on yourself or those you care about i see no reason for them to be afraid to go out with/date you.0
well I am in martial arts and so is my wife she can beat me up whenever she wants cause it almost always end good for me. You just need to find a guy who is secure with himself and don't go around acting like you can kick anyones ass cause that is just not attractive.0
guys are normally afraid to fight girls because it's a lose lose situation.
if they win they are a girl basher
if the lose they "lost to a girl"
it's insecurities like that that would make them not want to fight you0
yes definitely, as long as she is nice and feminine looks good (not muscular and not like a guy). if she looks like a girl and can still beat me it means she is very good at martial arts and can defend herself if she needs to. and that is just good!0
Absolutely, i am an extremely physically weak, nerdy and wimpy man whom even a 10 year old girl could probably beat up. So i wouldn't mind at all. I am completely comfortable in my own skin. Besides i think that i am a very nice and easygoing guy. So you would never have any reason to beat me up or harm in any other way for that matter in order to teach me a lesson.0
As long as she doesn't actually beat me up I wouldn't mind dating her.0
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That's not a reason why most guys aren't asking you out. He won't even know you know martial arts unless you tell him. If you're constantly talking about martial arts, he might think you're a defensive type that feels like she needs to protect herself against somebody (perhaps men in general?) and his mind might run wild from there. Just hold back talking about martial arts from the get go if you're concerned. You have other interests besides that, right?
I usually don't mention it unless someone asks me what sports I do, and that's the only sport I do so I say that. Plus usually the guys I'm more interested in and talk to are in my martial arts class and my teachers will say how I fight hard or tell me to go easy on the guys, and it usually seems like those guys like me at first.
Well, most of the guys in your class are going to try and go easy on you. Most guys aren't using their full force and power in a mock sparing match. If you were in an actual fight against a man, it would feel totally different if he was throwing his entire weight and muscle behind the blows. The guys in the class are probably going easy on you, don't get too aggressive in turn, otherwise they might think you're trying to take advantage of the fact that you're a girl (perhaps with anger issues!)
Yeah they do go easier on me :/ Well most of them, not all. I hate it when guys go easier on me though.
If you get hyper aggressive, they're going to think you might be actually trying to hurt them. Most men are aware of their power over girls. We can easily hurt you without even trying. Our muscle mass allows men to be very hurtful with minimal effort. We're not programmed to go around beating girls up, so we have to think ahead to NOT hurt you.
Yeah, but that doesn't mean a girl couldn't beat up a guy.
If they are of roughly equal fighting skill, it is highly unlikely, unless she happened to surprise attack him. I've been in martial arts before, men generally go easy on the girls.
There are some ba girls though who can hit really hard, take a hit, block, and have good skills. Plus we have the advantage of being able to hit you in the groin, and I doubt most guys where cups when they're just out.