I recently went on a date with this girl, who I've been pursuing for like 6 weeks.
She and I have an extraordinary amount in common, from musical taste, sense of humor, race and even religion - the main reason behind me being so attracted to her (obviously.)
The date was overall successful, we couldn't stop having great conversations, and she couldn't stop laughing even to the lamest, sly jokes I said to her.
However, I didn't feel comfortable doing any strong/sexual flirting with her as well as doing slight touches on her arm, etc. to try and build some tension. Which basically lead to the date feeling like hanging out with a great friend - not a lover. Which I guess is basically my fault for not initiating..
Keep in mind we aren't in a relationship, she just agreed to a date.
Anyway after the date she started sub-tweeting me saying stuff like.
"I was about to tweet about a certain someone, but I realized he follows me on Twitter - that was a close call!"
"Even Instagram, Facebook, ahhhhh"
Then, my friend who introduced me to this girl in the first placed messaged me saying that she wrote about me in her personal blog - (which I'm not meant to know about)
She basically wrote this in regards to me:
"If you were to ask me if he was my type, he isn't really... But, he's a really unique, funny and interesting guy."
What does this even mean? Lol. She's not attracted to me in that way? Or...?
Either way, I'm kind of unsure how to go from here - seeing as I said, I failed to create any sort of sexual attraction between her and I..
I was thinking of going silent with her for a week or two, to build some tension and get her thinking about me - then get her on another date if I'm lucky and man up and actually show her I'm interested in her, in that way - ie. do some actual flirting, and ultimately go in for a kiss later on..
What do you guys think? Am I over thinking this? Haha.
Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated - THANK YOU!
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I would not leave it for a week. And I wouldn't give up hope. Saying that your not usually her type means she doesn't know as many people like you and us obviously intrigued. Her first Internet message I think is a cheeky and playful way of getting attention from you which is a good sign. No heavy sexual tension in the first date is fine because again as your not her normal type she probably needs to take it more slow. Go on another date and lightly start either talking about a possible relationship ( don't be direct you might come along as needy/desperate) or cranky up the sexual body language (again not overly). But so far your process is good :)