GIRLS: Opera / ballet as a first date?

[paxtonfun]

Girls, how would you like to be taken to the opera / ballet on a first date. You could dress up and so would your date. This would be followed by drinks or a late night dinner.

In my scenario I kinda know this girl from class but not too well.

Do you think it would be a good date?

Thanks so much for answering :)

[tyrantfuryre]

For the first date? No way. Keep it casual. You're just trying to have fun and get to know each other to see where it goes.

Don't go spending a lot of $ and doing a bunch of different things the first time either.

Do things that are interactive, like bowling, pool, roller blading/skating. Things that make you both open up and more comfortable.

Not something that you're going to sit next to each other and not talk. That being said, you might as well be sitting next to a complete stranger.

Maybe meet up with her, have something to eat with a drink, maybe 2. Then take her to go do something interactive. Afterwards spend another 30 minutes or so talking, let her know you want to see her again(if you do) and call it a night.

[Dandeus]

Way too formal and way to expensive for a first date, assuming it's an company worth attending. Even the cheap nosebleed section of a local company tends to be far more expensive than a movie ticket.

Also, way too niche if you don't happen to already know if she's interested in such a thing.

First dates are for getting to know each other, and chatting in a theater is a no-no.

[tyrantfuryre]

100%

[CarrieDawn]

It depends, is she the type of girl who would like the opera/ballet?

It sounds like fun for certain girls, but for me personally I would prefer something much more casual for a first date. I feel bad when a guy spends a lot of money on something (i.e. an opera/ballet show haha) for me, especially when we aren't even together yet and I don't know him well...it kind of guilts me (and not in a good way).

I'd say maybe for a 3rd or 4th date, this would be great when you know each other better, but for me personally I'd say switch out the opera with something more casual like a movie, or an improv show, or just get drinks at a comedy club/bar or one of those bars with live music/a band. But the drinks and late dinner is alright.

[lumos]

It wouldn't really be my cup of tea. I like plays and musicals more than opera or ballet. And the whole sitting in silence thing isn't really all that great if you want to get to know someone. I know you said you'd do something after the opera/ballet as well, but still. You should probably save it for the end of the date, or maybe even the second or third date. Focus on getting to know each other better first.

[paxtonfun]

The thing is that my 'game' with girls is not that good so I would definitely need some kind of activity on a first date that can fuel the dinner conversation later on. But I guess something more casual like a movie will suffice too. I know this is not a dream date and getting to know each other rather than sitting in silence for the first hours would be better but I'm just not able to pull that off yet

[lumos]

Right. But don't spend too much on the first dates. And don't rely too much on the movie or whatever either. I've noticed that after a movie, you can keep talking about it for maybe 10 minutes. After that, the conversation starts dying. So you'll need something else to talk about anyway.

[honestgirlanswers]

Hmm... for a first date I would recommend something more laid back first. Not to say that a date to the ballet or opera wouldn't be fantastic but I would highly suggest going out for something more relaxed like coffee etc first. Especially if you do not know the girl all that well.

[cupcakequeen]

Find out about the girl first and what she enjoys. First date situations always depend on what the girl likes because you want to impress her and show her you have things in common. The second part is great for everyone, drinks and dinner is very traditional and romantic. If the girl is artistic I say a ballet is a great idea, the opera may be a long shot though.

[Anonymous]

I think that would be to much for a first date. Do something a bit more casual, light hearted and fun.

This maybe after 3 dates if you know she is into this type of thing. Don't assume she is, just because she is a girl. Some girls are not.

But yeah discover who she is first before hand that way you can plan something like for a one month, 6 month anniversary like this, she is really into and that you know for sure she'll enjoy.

Bonus if it is something you have in common and have fun doing!

[MaskofInsanity]

I'd actually really dig it. It's different and I haven't done it before. It would probably be better for a 3rd or 4th date though, because the first date should be more casual where you can talk and get to know each other.

[Jasmiini18]

I would adore that! I'm on the artistic side of the fence, so I tend to like things that other people don't. As long as you know if she likes stuff like that, then you should be OK.(:

[sammy_31]

I would like it :) Not all girls would but not all girls wouldn't either. Sounds good it sounds like a nice night. Have fun. :)

[Helpergirl67]

Girls would love that but you should probably try and lay it back a bit and take her to a restaurant. Once you know her better, you can take her there but it probably depends if that is her thing.

[Anonymous]

not my cup of tea, but if she likes it that's all that matters

[ixi10]

If that's her thing then she'll like it

[ArabianPwincess197]

i don't mind I like opera anyway