Is a man who is 5'9" too short to date?

[Casew2]

Hello everyone. So recently I read a poll that 80% of women wouldn't even consider dating a man under 6 feet tall. This seems silly to me, since that would rule out 80% of the male population!

My question to you ladies is this: would YOU consider dating a man that was 5'9" (I range anywhere from 5'9" to 5'10" throughout the day and depending on my posture) like me? Please, only honest answers, even if brutally honest. To be truthful, I stand at 5'11" with a good pair of boots, and if I head to any public place I can pretty much see the top of almost everyone's heads (I live in southeastern Ohio). I kind of fell like 6 foot is a magical number for women, and that most girls under 5'7" can't tell the difference between a man who's 5'9" and 6'0" unless they're lined up next to each other, I know I have trouble distinguishing heights between folks and I have a better vantage point than most women.

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Thanks everyone for the input. I'm actually feeling a lot better.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'10" and have no problem. An inch difference between us isn't noticeable at all. If you focus on all the guys out there who are 6 feet or taller, then you're just going to work yourself up into some uncontrollable anxious thoughts.

I don't consider myself short and I don't see why you should either, just because you heard some girl or girls somewhere say that they only like 6+ feet. You mention that girls who are shorter won't be able to tell the difference between the two and that you "have a better vantage point than most women" anyway.

Firstly, you're not standing on a mountain lol. You're merely a few INCHES taller than most girls. That, to me, isn't some "better vantage point". Second, it's not about "vantage points", it's a matter of looking at someone and seeing how tall they are. Third, that is what we in the IT field call a "justification". It seems this height issue has you concerned enough that you're trying to downplay the idea of height entirely. That is why I'm answering this way: stop appeasing your own insecurities. Fighting to have an extra 2 inches with a different pair of shoes is more than likely screaming out to the people around you that YOU'RE the one with the height issue.

Some girls genuinely do like tall guys and won't be attracted to you. That's life man, get over it. Not everyone you come across is going to be ready to jump your bones. So if you run across a girl that isn't attracted to you because of your height, do you know what you do? Don't trouble yourself with trying to change her mind on height because you have a "better vantage point" about height.

It's all about how you carry yourself, my friend. If you let petty stuff like this trouble you, don't be surprised when nobody wants to be around you as a romantic partner.

[Casew2]

You know something, you're totally right. Thank you.

[Casew2]

I just starting having this "height complex" only a few days ago when I read the article. The boots are mentioned are regular steel-toe'd work boots, and I've been wearing them for a very long time, long before I had any insecurity about my height, so that's unrelated. I've actually been going through phases were I've been considered about various things regarding my demeanor and then getting over them. I think I'm having a quarter life crises. But anyway, thanks to you and others this height thing is starting to go away and I'm starting to feel normal again.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it's understandable. I used to have an issue with my body build, since I've always been a pretty slim/skinny guy. But even before I grew more into my build or started going to the gym later on, I had a random epiphany happen where I wondered "Why am I so concerned about this when nobody else around me seems to notice?"

And that's often the case with insecurities. We have traits or aspects about ourselves that are either visible to ourselves only, or only matter to ourselves. It became a lot easier for me to accept myself once I realized the age old quote:

"You are your own worst enemy"

[HandsomeRaj]

Actors standing at 5'0"
Danny Devito

Actors standing at 5'2"
Dudley Moore

Actors at 5'4"
Michael J Fox
David Faustino
Jason Alexander
Emilio Estevez,
Richard Dreyfus

Actors at 5'5"
Dustin Hoffman
Scott Caan
Ernie Reyes, Jr.
Daniel Radcliffe
Woody Allen

Actors at 5'6"
Jack Black
Elijah Wood

Actors at 5'7"
Tom Cruise
Robert Downey, Jr.
Josh Hutcherson
Robin Williams
Christian Slater
Javier Bardem
Al Pacino.

Actors at 5'8"
Ben Stiller
Mark Whalberg
Jeremy Renner
Don Cheadle

Actors at 5'9"
Jason Statham

Catch the drift? ;) :D buddy you are taller than most people, you come under the 'tall category' not even average :D

[Kelly34]

To some women yes.

I doubt its 80%, I wouldn't be surprised if 80% of women would RATHER date a guy over 6ft though.

I'm 5'9 and would highly suggest buying heel lifts or boots with a heel. I notice people treat me different with just an extra 2 inches of height.

[Kelly34]

Just realised you said you already have a pair of boots that make you 5'11, I'll try reading next time :)

[Casew2]

Haha, it's cool. I must admit, I feel pretty good at 5'11". feelsgoodman

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'9" so that is perfect haha. Guys at my college all seem to be shorter than me haha

Girls often say that they want guys 6 ft tall but really they're fine with any guy as long as he is taller than her/her height.

A lot of my female friends are tall and they are in long relationships with guys that are shorter than them so you may even get a girl who is taller than you ;)

[MarcusBorino]

What about 5’8?

[marebear22]

I would personally have no problem dating a guy who was 5'9". My only preference is that the guy be the same height as me or taller. Since I'm 5'6" then 5'9" would be just fine. The guy would just have to be okay with me being taller than him when I'm wearing heels because I love my high heels. :)

[washize]

I'm 5"5 my boyfriend is 5"6 I really don't give a shit about height. I don't want some dude stepping on my ass like a damn ant.

I hear tall girls are more hung up on the height thing, as they often deal with more sexism and stigma compared to the averaged height woman.

[Account]

I wouldn't mind at all. I am only 5'2, so I consider 5'9 tall.

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm 5' 9" and never had a girl reject me because of my height, except for one girl who was 6' 1".

[4ngelic]

that poll is probably some blackpill fake shit, there's a lot of bs online around these stuff. the average dude height anyways is litterally 5'9. i'm 5'8 (barely though) personally and even though i do prefer when there's bigger height differences like 5'11 - 6'2 would be the ideal, but i'd totally totally date someone that's 5'9. like they're still taller than me, and it wouldn't look weird if we're together. if i was shorter like most girls are that height would become more attractive to me since we'd have a bigger height gap. really dont think that poll is real lol or else every dude would be an incel practically

[thisGUYknows]

I'm 5'7 and I know most girls want a guy who is taller than them. Some say that if a guy is their height or shorter then the guy isn't "strong" or "manly" enough which is total bullshit. So when I was single i would generally only approach girls who were shorter than me. Now tho, my gf is 5'8, an inch taller than me. It's not even all that noticeable. i've learned to just stay away from girls with unreasonable assumptions like that.

[Jezzzter]

I actually prefer to date guys who are around my height vs. much taller. (I'm 5"8) I think 5"9 is a great height. Hell, I wouldn't even mind dating a shorter guy. Doesn't matter to me. And if I think that, there's definitely other girls who think that.

[JacobJordan]

considering 5'9" is the literal average for men in the US you have absolutely nothing to worry about. in fact the good news is any woman who claims she "must have a 6' tall man or taller" is just showing you she is a walking red flag. meaning you are saved from having to find out down the road

[Anonymous]

Despite what most women will tell you height is a huge deal breaker for a lot of them. Most women I talk to actually believe 6 foot is average even though it isn't. You are however correct that most of them can't tell the difference between one inch when meeting the guy in person. When meeting in person other factors come into play, rather than abstract numbers. If meeting women on the internet your height will play a larger role in whether or not they will consider you.

[latinapassion]

You are reasonably fine but I prefer taller like 6'0 to 6'3. I'm 5'5. I just like a guy who I KNOW without doubt in my mind that can pick me up without struggling. I'm willing to date 5'8 and taller. But i still prefer 6'0 to 6'3.

[characterdeelaa]

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That guy is like 5'8-5'9 ish... your telling me he can't pick you up... -_-

[Casew2]

Well, if that picture is actually you I'm pretty sure you can have any man you want. :D

[latinapassion]

Lol, if I was to put a fight against salman khan just maybe... MAYBE he will struggle. Ahaha. But there are some puny 5'8 to 5'9 looking guy he durar look like one. I want a guy that I know I can't stand a fight with. I could be wilding out and drunk at a club and he just lift me up out the damn place to handle me.

[latinapassion]

As for the pic, it is not me. But the fact you called her attractive tells me I am just as attractive because we look alike. She has my same birthday which i completely find odd. Ever since then i became a fab if this model. Only diff my eyes are Brown

[izzybolden]

You just contradicted yourself big time!! Lmao

[CanadianPerspective]

@characterdeelaa She might be heavy set🐘

[Jbear27]

Confidence is king in the land of dating. Even if a girl wants 6 foot, if you’re 5’9 and attractive and confident and funny she will bite. If she doesn’t and she hold on to the 6’ rule then she is being petty. Move on

[noisychicken]

Guy I'm 5'7" and still manage to get dates albeit with shorter women, but yeah I wouldn't mind going out with a taller woman, only slightly though since I don't want to have to get a step stool just to kiss you.

[stephx]

I'm 5'3 and have dated a guy that was 5'7.. Typically I date taller guys but since Im short height isn't a big factor as long as he is taller than me. Muscle mass is more important than height for me

[Janson]

Come now. If 5'9 is too short to date, what would that say about me... as i am 5'5. You should count your blessings

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'4, I consider that height average for a guy. And yeah I would date a guy that tall. I condsider that tall lol. Anyway, I don't care about how tall he is. If I feel happy when I am with him and vice versa then everything else comes second.

[LiaDaBomb]

My boyfriend is 5’9 I personally think it’s a good height (there’s really no such thing as a bad height anyway) I’m 5’5.5 so he’s still taller than me. Though I wasn’t really looking at his height when I met him I didn’t really think it mattered. I guess I do prefer guys taller than me so I think I personally would be fine with anyone at least 5’6. A shorter guy isn’t a deal breaker though. But yeah 5’9 is fine. This is all just my opinion of course

[Drooogie4]

Well... I'm 5'8"... my boyfriend is 5'7".. And it's no issue :)

[teachj]

I'm five foot ten and I would date a five foot nine guy. I have before.

[MarcusBorino]

What about 5’8?

[questioner1991]

I would. I don't know how accurate that's is. I find that most girls don't care as long as he is a couple inches taller.

[sammy_31]

Not for me I'm petite so anyone taller than 5'5 I'm okay with.

[TealTallulah]

I'm 5'0" so honestly 5'9" is tall for me. But height should not matter.

[Eiffelgirl21]

no you aren't too short. I have dated as short as 5'6 before. and I am 5'10

[Brittanykeen88]

No. I'm 5'4. I can still rest my head on your chest when we hug. Lol

[NavyOU37]

This is the truth. I’m 5’8 and when I was dating, I was told often I was too short.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

5'9" isn't too short for anything.

[Anonymous]

I just tell the girl I make up the lost inches "DOWN THERE"...

[latinapassion]

Lol...

[ImCoasting]

Don't sweat it man, most guys aren't 6 foot tall, and just because they are 6 foot doesn't make them good dates. If all girls HAD to have 6 foot then the vast majority of women would be single.

[Anonymous]

why is this such a big deal to you? Wouldn't you want to date someone who likes you for who you are and not ur height?

[Anonymous]

I don't care how tall a guy is as long as he's taller than me. (5'8")

[Casew2]

That was always my understanding that women are happy as long as the guy is taller. I get that women want a hulking kind of guy who can protect them better, but gee whiz, I'd like a woman with perfect curves too, but if a cutie walked past me of average build that perfect ideal in my mind would evaporate.

[MarcusBorino]

What if he’s the same height?

[TiaNour]

Of course not, considering 5’9 is taller than me so I wouldn’t mind dating someone that tall.

[TiaNour]

oop didn’t realize this was a year ago

[syncheart]

I'm 5'8 and I feel short around most women. For some reason where I live there are a bunch of women that are my height or taller.

[BayHarborButcher]

I'm 5'2 a guy that was 5'9 would be fine. I once dated a guy that was 5'5.

[Cocoamoon]

For me, I would say no, just because I’m 5’0 so everyone is taller than me regardless. The guy I’m talking to is 5’8, so he’s just right for me to date.

[Nifrayu]

That's a load of bull. I'm pretty sure most men are shorter than that.

[Anonymous]

There are guys a lot shorter than you out there that would die to be your height.

[Anonymous]

5"9 is very average for a man. Most women are shorter than that. So you shouldn't have much of a problem. If you were 4"9 that might be a problem.

[youngjaki]

I'm 5'7, so 5'9 is that perfect "look into my eyes" height. Love it. :-)

[nothanks]

I'm 6-3 but overweight. The two cancel each other out :)

[Daph81]

nope, not too short for me.

[523206720]

I consider that tall because I am only 5"4 / 5"5

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

I'm 5'2 so not really thats plenty taller than me

[neveryoumind]

not at all

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall are you

[RaceAgainstMachine]

How tall do you like guys