Polls: Dating

One evening he sends his first message after we match saying hello. Then the next day he says good morning. I was turned off by his double msging so I ignored him. About a day after his last message he unmatches, isn’t that a bit much?

one does lead to another , but specifically speaking , what's better to you , making out or cuddling?

Yes

This guy and I spoke on FaceTime for 3 hours and I can’t tell if he likes me or wants to just use me.

Guy who I was chatting too thinks I'm playing games when I've been pretty clear that I like him. He ghosted me for 3 weeks then I politely declined. Then after 3 months he started lingering around my work so I texted him to see how he is. Then we caught up, it was okay. Then he came lingering around my work 2 days after that. Then ignored my texts. Then 3 weeks later did the same.

What is going on?

Long story short, I am having trouble picking between two men that are both amazing but in very different ways. They are complete opposites and both having qualities I love. I met guy#1 several months ago and we both instantly felt an intense pull towards each other the moment we met. Our chemistry was out of this world. I had never felt that way about a man before. I was just drawn to him in every way possible. Unfortunately, I realized early on that we were not that compatible in terms of our lifestyle and personalities. He's very independent and career oriented where as I am extremely clingy and family oriented. He had also just gotten out of a relationship so he was not consistent or ready for anything serious and because of that, he ended things with me so I wouldn't waste time on him. Fast forward a few weeks, I met guy#2. This guy is everything I was looking for in a man. He is consistent, caring, emotionally available, clingy (just like me), and extremely family oriented and ready for something serious. The downside was that I did not feel that initial "out of this world" chemistry with him that I felt with guy#1 even though guy#2 is compatible with me in every way and everything I'm looking for in a partner. Guy#2 and I still have great chemistry, just not magical like it was with guy#1. Fast forward a few more weeks, guy#2 and I are getting pretty serious now and guy#1 suddenly enters my life again wanting a second chance. Time has gone by and he is now "ready" for more commitment. Who do I pick? The guy I can't stop thinking about but not sure I can see long term with or the guy that I can envision a stable future with but don't have intense chemistry with?

Yes I know what I want but I feel like I have enough going for me to have a little bit of wiggle room when it comes to being kind of selective. I want someone w a decent job, tall, cute/decent looks, funny etc. I’m not asking for 6 figures & a runway model, I’m told I’m attractive but I’m never approached in person. On dating apps I get msgs & matches but it just doesn’t work out (ghosting, lack of interest, fizzling out etc). Last time I saw someone was when I was 23 & that felt like settling which is why I’m glad that’s over. I’m convinced some people like me are meant to be alone

With a card that says 'you got this :)'