Questions: Dating

So she stopped talking to me on Hinge after saying yes to a second date and I suggested some times.

So 4 days later on WhatsApp I sent her “Hey (name), it’s (name) from Hinge. 🙂 Realised the last 2 digits of your number were the wrong way around. That’s why it didn’t send before. 😂”

She replied “ loool oh god were they? how much wine did I have? Well done for figuring it out.”

my reply was “Are you sure you’re not an alcoholic? 😂 Tbf, I lost count after the gin - apparently it’s a big thing at markets this year. 😂. Are you still keen on doing it again? 😂 I can do Saturday or Wednesday.”

I had repeated topics with a close friend of mine and one topic we can't go without are women. According to him girls are literally brought up to believe, that their proactivity in dating = bad. And that passiveness is the way to go. However the recruiter girls, who look for candidates for their companies or clients are doing their jobs and are getting paid to be proactive in the job market and headhunting the applicants. I raised a point like "it would be dope if girls would be like that in dating too".

It got me thinking. Since the girls generally don't do anything in dating and finding boyfriends, is it true, that they were brought up to not be proactive in dating? Or is it (like it is in my case), that they were simply never taught how to do that and navigate through dating and finding partners?

I think now it’s 2023 the woman now have to ask the men out cause the guys won’t call women creepy at all.

Like I get being ghosted before a first date or even after a date but I find it weird for her to say she enjoyed first date and yes to a second date then ghost.