Was this the right way to respond to a girl who came back after ghosting me on hinge for a week?

[Anonymous]

So she stopped talking to me on Hinge after saying yes to a second date and I suggested some times.

So 4 days later on WhatsApp I sent her “Hey (name), it’s (name) from Hinge. 🙂 Realised the last 2 digits of your number were the wrong way around. That’s why it didn’t send before. 😂”

She replied “ loool oh god were they? how much wine did I have? Well done for figuring it out.”

my reply was “Are you sure you’re not an alcoholic? 😂 Tbf, I lost count after the gin - apparently it’s a big thing at markets this year. 😂. Are you still keen on doing it again? 😂 I can do Saturday or Wednesday.”

Yes it was the correct response

No that was a bad response

[wolfcat87]

The alcoholic comment was a bit weird and off-putting. Is a week really ghosting if she responded still?

[Asker]

So would that 1 message destroy the whole thing even if the date was great?

[wolfcat87]

Way too many variables to tell. Whether she has other dating options. Whether she liked you and how much. How she chooses to take it. Etc.

[Asker]

True.

[bededazzle]

it doesn’t matter what you say i don’t think. if she’s interested you’ll see her, if she’s not, you won’t.

[Asker]

Interesting.

[bededazzle]

i think it’s just best not to overthink it

[Asker]

But there might be some responses which are red flags for her.

[bededazzle]

yeah but you gotta do your thing man. you can’t worry about what the woman will think. i mean, your answer was polite and used humor. what could be a reasonable issue with that?

[Asker]

Maybe she thought I was trying to discourage her from drinks. Her responses are weird though. They show interest.

[bededazzle]

it's possible. chances are though, you experienced what a lot of men do, which is unclear flakiness. maybe she met someone else she likes better. who knows? showing interest, unfortunately, means very little, at least in my experience. it probably means she was never as interested as you thought she was. find a lady that will go to an event that will want to go to and things like that. set your expectations for someone who won't leave you second guessing yourself. i wouldn't sweat it man.

[Asker]

But then why would she say yes to a second date initially.

[bededazzle]

i recently had a woman say she wanted to set up a specific time to spend time with me every week and then she disappeared. it’s not just you man. it happens all the time. sometimes women have a lot of choices maybe. actions speak louder than words

[Asker]

True. Time to move on and find someone who will give me the time of day. Maybe my response was bad though on WhatsApp joking about her being an alcoholic.

[Asker]

Might have sounded annoyed.

[bededazzle]

i mean you made a joke. if you want to try something different next time ok but it was a joke. if she was annoyed honestly she probably sucks

[Asker]

I meant maybe she thought I was annoyed.