Is it weird that a girl said she had a lovely first date & yes to a second date then ghosted?

[Anonymous]

Like I get being ghosted before a first date or even after a date but I find it weird for her to say she enjoyed first date and yes to a second date then ghost.

Yes that’s weird

No it normal

[jennifer_bloom]

A woman's interest in you involves things beyond your behaviour in the relationship such as her priorities in overall life, her location choices, her work and scheduling choices, her other options, and her relationships and interests outside her interaction with you.

I remember rejecting guys cause I did not want to pay for transportation to Toronto, rejecting guys cause I wanted more time to pursue my goals, rejecting guys cause I thought they were too old to relate to me and my sense of humour, rejecting guys cause they were too serious and I wanted a more flexible mind, rejecting guys cause they were not serious enough and I viewed them as a waste of time.

[rosemilk]

i don't find that weird, i feel like it's common after a first date. she said yes to a second date and then either changed her mind or only said that because she felt awkward and didn't know how to say no and then eventually just ghosted. or she found someone else. either way, she is cowardly to not explain herself and then the cycle continues

[Asker]

To make matters worse she replied to my WhatsApp message saying “Hey (name), it’s (name) from Hinge. 🙂 Realised the last 2 digits of your number were the wrong way around. That’s why it didn’t send before. 😂” she then replied “loool oh god were they? How much wine did I have? 😂Well done for figuring it out”. I then replied “Are you sure you’re not an alcoholic? 😂 Tbf, I lost count after the gin - apparently it’s a big thing at markets this year. 😂 Are you still keen on doing it again? 😂 I can do Saturday or Wednesday.” And no response.

[rosemilk]

i see. that number may have been a mistake or intentional. but to go through possibly multiple numbers to figure out if the numbers were out of order probably sounded weird to her (i don't know the details about that so take that with a grain of salt, i'm just an outsider lol). and then you were joking about being an alcoholic so maybe that also put her off. and that is a lot of emojis lol.. then again, it is hinge so she probably is talking to someone else most likely

[Asker]

Well on hinge the conversation went “Thank you for a great evening and hope you get home safe. I enjoyed our drinks. 🙂 Would you be up for meeting again?” She replied “Hello (name)! Yeah got home safe thanks, had a lovely eve :) yeah meeting up again would be cool :)”. I then said “Glad you had a lovely eve and got home safe. 🙂 Cool, I was thinking we could go to the Christmas Market. Might find a mulled wine instead of gin this time 😂. I can do most evenings & weekend next week except Friday and Thursday. Or the week after, I’m free other than 7-10th when I’m away. Let me know what works best for you. :) Did you get your gig tickets by the way?” And she never replied.

[Billlewis]

Guys should always remember that just because you have a great time with a woman the first time you go out with her doesn't necessarily mean that she's going to ultimately choose you as her next boyfriend. Anytime a woman enters the dating pool, she is almost always meeting other guys, and until she makes her final decision, there are no guarantees.

[Asker]

Well obviously that’s true but then she didn’t have to lie and say she wants to go on a second date. She could have just said she’s not interested.

[Billlewis]

You may have overlooked the possibility that she met another guy between the time she said she wanted to see you again and the day you were supposed to see her.

[Asker]

That is true. Although funny I messaged her on WhatsApp and she replied initially but didn’t reply when I asked her if she’s still keen on a second date.

[Billlewis]

What typically ends up happening is that they're trying to make a final decision as quickly as possible, but they want to go out with the other guy one more time, before doing so.

[Asker]

Yeah true.

[Billlewis]

The other thing that happens a lot is when she already has a long term boyfriend, but she's checking out the competition to see if she can upgrade the position. Needless to say, this particular scenario is almost impossible to be successful in. 'Well, let's see... if you're a perfect '10' in every category, you're well off financially and you dress impeccably, drive a late model car and you've got a ten inch dick, I *might* be interested..'

[Asker]

I’m not sure money and status has much effect. I know very wealthy people who struggle with the ladies.

[OlderAndWiser]

She genuinely liked you, but then reconciled with the guy with whom she had recently broken up, and she was too embarrassed to tell you what she had done.

[Billlewis]

Exactly.

[Asker]

I don’t think she’s been in a relationship for a while.

[Asker]

So you think it wasn’t the messages I sent?

[OlderAndWiser]

No, if she was still interested, she would have responded. Maybe she met someone else in the meanwhile and he checked all the boxes for her.

[AviatorTom]

It's unusual but not weird. My guess us thst she might have commitment issues and prefers playing the field.

[Baublebar234]

That’s weird. I wouldn’t agree to a date to ghost you after. Either way, she showed you she’s more of a coward than anything. I can never understand “ghosting” because what are you so scared of to tell someone you’re not interested?

[Asker]

Ok so it got even weirder. After the ghosting on hinge, I messaged on whatsapp “Hey (name), it’s (name) from Hinge. 🙂 Realised the last 2 digits of your number were the wrong way around. That’s why it didn’t send before. 😂” she then replied “loool oh god were they? How much wine did I have? 😂Well done for figuring it out”. I replied “Are you sure you’re not an alcoholic? 😂 Tbf, I lost count after the gin - apparently it’s a big thing at markets this year. 😂 Are you still keen on doing it again? 😂 I can do Saturday or Wednesday.“ and no response since.

[Baublebar234]

How long has it been since the last response?

[Asker]

She last responded Wednesday night.

[Baublebar234]

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a double text (if you want to do a follow up).. but also, if there’s no response especially after that, then move on for sure! But I personally wouldn’t at all and just move on. You deserve someone who picks you first every time.

[Asker]

I think it’s good to assume good faith so next Thursday I’ll send “Hey (name), how has your week been? I’m about to fly to France. 🙂 Did you decide to go to Italy in the end?”

[FlowerChild94]

Guys ghosting instead of communicating is cowardly and weak in it’s not normal it’s normalIZED but not normal. In History Plenty of wild shit used to be NORMALIZED. Doesn’t make it right.

[Paris13]

She may Have Gotten To Thinking About The Date More... It Happens... xxoo

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Paris13]

Second Thoughts on You. xxoo

[Asker]

She could say so then. I think I’ll have a last ditch attempt next week and say “Hey (name), how has your week been? I’m about to fly to France. Did you decide to go to Italy in the end?”

[Paris13]

lol Nah, No Smart girl will Say So. Their Actions DO. xxoo

[Paris13]

I have Had Them All, Guys, And I NEVER SAID SO. lolxxoo

[andreasderjuengere]

And now you need a pat on the shoulder and Mom gives you some candy? :)

Not meaning this in a malicious way - but what you experienced is what many others experience as well:

Life.

[exitseven]

It is stuff like this that makes me glad I lived a long time ago before social media.

[Boomchakalaca]

Yes its weird. It woulddve been best to say they aren't interested but instead lead u on

[Nikki1989]

To the sensitive, it might be weird. I would just brush it off myself.

[Redstang88]

Nah I’m on like 5 in a row that did exactly that

[dolemite58]

i wouldn’t take it too personally, women are ungodly picky and arbitrary about their dating choices so if she wasn’t into it then just move on.

[bededazzle]

unfortunately no not at all

[ThrillSeeker01]

She got distracted perhaps

[DextroShade]

Women will flake all the time, get used to it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, she is just messing with your head.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[WhitneySnow]

That’s weird