Polls: Dating

You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this 🤷🏻‍♀️

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?

My boyfriend went to a bar with a coworker in the military and said it's nothing, but now this chick has me worried and I've never been the worrying kind

I am asking this more as a language question than a “moral” one, would appreciate answers from native English speakers

She is 25 and he is 29. He said he is just having a gut feeling they won't work out and being ADHD, he follows it. He also said he feels like she is more invested and loves him more than he loves her.

They have been together 4 years.

However they didn't finish the conversation just kind of walked away from it. When she asked the next morning if they were together or broken up, again met with silence and both just kind of walked away from it.

As she was leaving, he gave her a hug and kiss (he rarely does, not a real affectionate person) so she found that strange. SO she was like, "Are we good? Like we're going to try and work things out?" He said, "we're good, i'll call you later"

When he called they just talked like normal about work, their day, etc. So she is so confused on how to handle the situation without scaring him into rethinking breaking up but also she needs to know. WHY would he all of a sudden show a grand gesture of emotion and call her if he was so adamant about breaking it off?