Is it okay to cuddle another guy while you are in a relationship?

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Guy13 · Accepted Answer

This is why opposite sex Besties never work. Cuddling verse Hugging:

Cuddling is when two people, whether clothed or unclothed, lie together, sit and lean upon one another and are intwined before an eventual getting laid moment. 🥰🤪

Hugging 🤗: affectionate greeting and embrace without face, breast, or vagina-penis contact.

Examples of when you no longer sit in my inherited 95 JAG Convertible:
1. Cuddle, sit butt touching, shoulder leaning, and/or feet or knees touching 🥰🤪
2. Anything besides “from the side hug” which includes: waist and eye-eye, bear hug breast rubbing, regular front hug, and/or from behind penis-anus and hands-breast hug 🤗 .

I’m not hanging out with the above kind of judgment. Go get your Romp on.

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

You already know the what you did was wrong. Now it obviously could have been a lot worse but still it was wrong.

I think you posted this question because you want someone to tell you it’s okay. It’s not. But if all you did was cuddle (right?) then you do not have to confess it in my opinion

However do the following:

Cut off all communication with the guy you did this with.
Promise yourself to never do this again.
Accept you made a bad decision. Quit looking for someone to tell you it was okay. Instead take it as a lesson to never do it again. But you have to own up to it first.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If I let a guy cuddle with me, clothes or naked, he is very close to me. If his penis is hard, he's even closer by another 6 to 10 inches. So, it is permission for him to have sex with me. He doesn't have to, yet, in 100% of cases since I was 14, every guy has done. All he has to do is lift my skirt or pull my shorts down. It's right there, and it's too easy. If I am not willing to let him have sex with me, I don't cuddle with him. If your boyfriend is ok with those terms, then it's ok.

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

Let's put an uno reverse card on this: You come home from work/school. You're tired, you just want to relax, and you open up your door and there is your boyfriend snuggled up on the couch with another girl that is not you...

In what world would anyone be fine with this? I don't care if they've been friends since infancy, part of respecting your partner is that you don't cross this line of intimacy that should be reserved for you, the one in the relationship with that person.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Not if its a relationship with me. That's for damn sure. Can he cuddle girls? Exactly.

coachTanthony · Answer

If everyone on GAG said yes would you really still do it? lol

SnowedIn · Answer

Let's frame it this way: let's say you were having a great afternoon. Excitedly headed to your boyfriend's house for an evening of Netflix and chill. You open the front door. There he is, cuddling on the couch with a friend who is a girl. Would you say that was okay?

@gummy_cluster

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

If u have to ask, no. It's not even about the cuddle it's about u and ur partner. Are they OK with it? Why do u wanna do it? Are u OK with not doing it? If it's a big deal, don't do it. Knowing it makes ur partner uncomfortable should trump whatever nice physical feeling of cuddles in the moment. Would you eat a delicious food if u knew your partner would be upset that u did? It doesn't matter y, ur partner comes first. Don't intentionally upset them. If they're being unreasonable then u figure it out with them FIRST. Bottom line.

Angelo75 · Answer

Just don't play with fire.

Cuddling with another guy will have one of these outcomes:
A. Your boyfriend/girlfriend gets very upset when he/she finds out.
B. You develop feelings for the other guy.
C. The guy develops feelings or stats desiring you.
D. You end up having sex.

Just don't start with it unless you want to end up messing your current relationship.

Gibbons44 · Answer

Individual as well, I guess. If it is a good bye/wish me luck cuddle to an old friend before getting married (and going into a marriage, to get pregnant and live a new life entitely is a big change) - then why not.

It's the underlying intention/purpose/wish that counts.

It would be equally valid to cuddle the person one _actually_ likes and go (or stay) with them instead of going into an unwanted/undesired marriage (like one of those parents or the 'community' sometimes arrange being hasty and ignorant of true feelings).

Luopio27 · Answer

I had 2 couch surfers sleeping over. One guy, one girl. They slept naked on top of each other between the sheets. The girl was in a relationship and the guy that was sleeping naked, having the girl as his blanket... In the morning, the girl said with this its okay to sleep naked because her boyfriend doest mind. But with anyone else, it be different.

I have had few friends that have offered their girlfriends to me just for one night stands. Many porn stars are married while giving blowjobs to many men in line, infront of cameras and the world to see.

Point is, open sex relationships are nothing new, they are just more rare.

cryscrys1 · Answer

As far as I know you can have a baby with the other guy that’s fine. You can cuddle buy them a mocha latte pay their rent too. You can even do an extra weeding with the other guy beside of your current husband or boyfriend why not have an extra video-marriage with this other guy. If you are bored you can also spend weekends at his house too kinda boring always staying at your house with your boyfriend or husband.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

In these instances, I always go back to how would the girl feel, if he cuddled another girl while they are in a relationship.

If it is a hard no on him cuddling other girls, bc of jealousy, then why would someone think it is okay for them to cuddle another guy?

Kind of a double-standard.

godfatherfan · Answer

Are you insane? no. Fuck no. You should not even be thinking about doing that if you are truly in a relationship. There is no reason for a man or woman to be around a member of the opposite sex without their SO there if it is a casual setting (not work or some kind of function).

Miristheiss · Answer

If you were girlfriend... no. I'd break up with you. The fact that she'd even think it was ok to cuddle up nice and close and warm to some other guys body while with me or with even desire to do that would have been a slam dunk that we are incompatible and I'd be instantly done with her. She's not the one.

Bricealan · Answer

From my POV, I think it is okay to fuck another guy while you are in a relationship, as long as you are discrete about it, and don't fuck somebody where it will get back to your partner or other friends you have that may "report" it to your SO.

I marked "no replies" from others because saying this creates a shit storm. I say it because couples do it.

magiusX26 · Answer

if you are wanting sex from another guy while in a relationship, just say that instead of ask such an asinine question that only the higgly uneducated and extremely inexperienced (at life in general) would not know the answer to. tge inability to know the answer to this is tantimount to having lived in an isolated solirary confinement prison cell with zero interaction, in a coma, for every moment of life up until posting this question.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Only if you’re looking for a reason to breakup soon 🙄

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's okay as long as he is Gay, But not if he is Straight because every straight Guy has a Sexual urge towards Females that he cannot control sometimes so all your doing when your hugging him is making him want to have Sex with you especially when you don't want to have Sex with him.

miadee · Answer

It's in the line. It's not either "not cheating" or "cheating" It's the beginning of emotional cheating. That's the point you should set the boundary, stop going further and think about your partner might be get upset

Anonymous · Answer

think of it this way - is it okay to cuddle for a man to cuddle another girl if he's in a relationship?
i find that questions like this are always put into perspective when asked both ways, this goes for double standards for guys and girls

RavVid · Answer

Would you be happy for a boyfriend to cuddle another girl?  I think that gives you the answer. The more definitive answer is if he is happy if you say you want to cuddle with this other guy.

ShiftingMonke · Answer

Outside of a survival situation, or unless he's adamantly gay, you're flirting with disaster here.

JosyJosy · Answer

MmmNo. It's an intimate thing. Your man's going to have questions. And that friend is going to have a hardon, and questions as well. He might try to shoot his shot.

BCRanger10 · Answer

No. You're being disloyal to your current boyfriend and you're toying around with the other man's emotions.

DCooper · Answer

If you feel the need to ask, then you aren't in a relationship. You should probably inforn the ex, and then go out and do whatever you feel like.

far2gud4u · Answer

If you are in love with a man it simply feels wrong to cuddle another.

XXblack88 · Answer

No, you're better off not even if the other guy is flamboyantly gay. Most guys will jump to conclusions.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah like maybe if they are family but definitely no cuddling with guy friends.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Hugging a guy friend is one thing, but cuddling or snuggling is another.

Iron_Man · Answer

Heck now why do you think you’ve got a boyfriend? Cuddle with him by the campfire not a friend.. if women can’t control themselves they shouldn’t have male friends

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

What does your moral compass tell you? That is the right thing for you.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap. Cuddling is just a form of affection. It isn't romantic or sexual unless you make it so.

Wade12345 · Answer

Not unless you have an open relationship arrangement for some reason.

TT1227 · Answer

Absolutely not. That’s crossing a line and disrespectful to your partner.

Anonymous · Answer

How would you feel if he was spooned with another cute girl and you know his dick is up against her ass?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not really. I would certainly not like my OH cuddling anyone else

zagor · Answer

As long as you're not soaking with him... (google "mormon" and "soak")

gorydetails · Answer

Is it ok for him to cuddle with another girl?

Anonymous · Answer

The fact that there are actually people in this world who don't know the answer to this question is frightening.

anon15 · Answer

The fact that you’re asking this…Especially given your age. You sound like you're 13. Do you not have any experience with relationships?

La_isla_bonita23 · Answer

Yes, nothing wrong with it ( if he is a member of your family or a close friend)

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

A definite candidate for the most stupid question asked on GAG in March of 2023

joshctlee · Answer

What kind of dumb ass question is this? Of course it’s not ok.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes absolutely i cuddle with my guy friend girlfriend... she even gives me hand job.

Anonymous · Answer

anything that you do that you would not do in front of them is cheating.

Nikki1989 · Answer

If it is only a cuddle, who cares?

Stressyalaire · Answer

Nuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuw it is not.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Does really need to be asked?

HighValue · Answer

No. That is 100% cheating in my opinion.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

It's highly disrespectful

Jamie05rhs · Answer

NO, it is NOT okay!!!

Wise4myage · Answer

I’d never tolerate that.

Zayed_ · Answer

Why are you even talking to other men!

Echosoul · Answer

Cuddling is romantic so no that's not OK

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Nope. Not even your dad

mathew1543 · Answer

A normal hug is fine but nothing more

spartan55 · Answer

Hell to the NO!

YourToy69 · Answer

Dick time coming

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Lol, no

gingerguyslover · Answer

Nawww

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Obviously no.

Anonymous · Answer

😆😆😆

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