After reviewing this post, does it sound like I’m actually interested in dating?

[Anonymous]

28F, I’m just leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like I’m a runway model yet guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches has never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? Even when I was more engaged it still led to the same pattern of no success. A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person? I dated someone for a few months back when I was 23 & after dealing with someone I felt like I settled for, I decided I’d rather be alone vs be with someone I am not crazy for. I’m kind of at the point where I’m apathetic & I just feel too old to be bothered.

Yes

No

[WanderingLoveWizard]

It sounds more like you're worn out on dating based on your experiences.

Hopefully a good looking man will sweep you off your feet some day, but here's the thing about us lookers... we don't get as many women as you'd think.

It takes a good year of practically ignoring a girl to get past her assumption that all I want to do is sleep with her and move on to the next girl. Literally all I have to do is smile and say hi and women automatically think "player".
It's a curse.

So with that, I typically don't approach women because there's no point. They'll just assume I'm a prick and turn me away.
I imagine a lot of other good looking dudes have had the same experience.

If you want an attractive man, you're gonna have to take that step and go for him. He must likely won't approach you, even if he likes you

[ShiftingMonke]

I agree, that looks incredibly jaded from the outside. Few men in the dating scene are looking to replace Sisyphus. I think you're better off avoiding the dating scene.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

The biggest problem is that you are introverted. I am too. It’s hard for me to relate to all the extroverts. Trying to make connections with people that are also introverted is difficult because the world rewards the extroverted. Sometimes I just give up on finding friends and feel depression about it. There’s nothing wrong with you personally, I think you’re just tired of the race and the experience of life. The best advice I can give you is to just do self improvement and pursue your goals in life. On your journey you’ll meet people that are in the same path. Those are the ones you should look to for relationships. They’ll have similar interests and goals. But for now just continue in your way to your goal.
Feel free to PM me and maybe we can talk. Talking can help make you feel better. 🙂

[OddBeMe]

You took the time to ask. So yeah you still want to date.

But what would you tell a football wannabe? Practice. Gotta get better talking to people, especially guys.

[Iron_Man]

You just have to keep trying to find the right guy

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like you're unrealistic about it.

[SnowedIn]

Sure sounds like you're not interested.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

yea I totally get you, same issue here.