Polls: Dating

How important is intelligence to you? if personality wise they are perfect and may even look attractive can you overlook intelligence?

So, I have been reading and listening to the book "The subtle are of not giving a f*ck" by mason mason. And, it's very enlightening after listening to the book for a few hours, and I would recommend everyone else to give it a listen to or read, however just be prepared for the profanity language the author uses.
So, there was this part about women, gave example of guys and what ever, but mentions the guy who is whatever about everything, doesn't show he cares, or just straight up doesn't give a flying F***. And, this guy gets all of the hot girls and gets laid all the time, instead of the nice guy. I mention this because I was always hit with the nice guy comment or he's way to nice. I will always be the nice guy no matter what, but once I read and listening to this book I wanted to give this "i don't care attitude" and just see where it takes me during this pandemic stuff also I'm pretty bored from school stuff.
It's been 2 weeks since I have trying the "I don't care attitude" and it's been working, a girl who friend zoned me who I talked to here and there called me to ask me out to brunch, then a girl I matched with on tinder is willing to drive 2 hours away from me to come see me, hook up, and send me nudes whenever I want. I don't know what I'm doing, but I'm in aw with every thing and stunned,. I passed the book on to my friends and the same effect happened. My friends are really sensitive, super nice guys at hear, and caring, but got with certain girls that would give us time of day, but this little tweak really made a huge difference.

So, ladies what is up with this?

Has any dudes experienced this or already do this

I met this girl over Zoom and hit her up; we started texting occasionally and studied together for an exam over zoom. We studied only for an hour and just talked for about 2 hours. She is new to the area, and she wanted to grab coffee but was nervous about doing so because she was new. However, it was surprising that she mentioned that she has a roommate with whom she could've grabbed coffee with, but she instead went with me.

I asked her, "would you like to grab it with me" and she instantly said yes. We set up a time and place and offered her my number, but she instead gave me hers. It seemed like if I hadn't hung the call-up, she would have still been talking to me, anyway. We met up the next day. She was very shy in person, and it was me asking her the most questions. We grabbed coffee, and she paid for me. I don't know what that means. At one time, I accidentally invaded her personal space, and my shoulder was brushing against hers while ordering coffee and when I noticed, I jumped back, but she didn't seem to mind.

Due to COVID restrictions, we were not allowed to dine in. I offered if she wanted to go back to my car, which she agreed to. This was a bit surprising because she only knows me from a 2-hour zoom conversation.

We went back to my car, and I showed her the campus; and she eventually got out of her comfort zone and started asking questions, talking, and laughing at the dumbest things I said. After a few hours, I dropped her at her dorm, and she asked me a question related to schoolwork and said thank you for showing me around, and left.

She didn't text me afterward, but I texted her two days later, she responded quickly, and despite ghosting her unintentionally, she still responds fast to my questions and comments. I want to ask her for another date, but I don't want to waste her time nor mine. Is she interested or just being friendly?

Thank you

P. S. Would you classify this as a date or hanging out?

Let's say that you meet a cute guy who decides to invite you over to his place for a dinner date and a movie. But the dinner is going to be prepared by the both of you!

The question is - what do you think about this kind of evening? Turn on or a turn off? How would you react to this offer?

This is the first time I’ve ever had a girlfriend l with “guy friends”. Anytime I’m seeing a girl and she has guy friends I never let it get past protected safe sex. This the first time I’ve had a relationship with a girl who only has guy friends and it does make me very uncomfortable 🥵. For some reason I really like this girl. We’ve been in a relationship since September.

She does everything a woman should do for a man. But due to the fact that her friends are guys I’m having trouble getting serious with her. I haven’t introduced to my parents yet. She leaves her phone open and lets me read her texts to show there’s no funny business between her n these guys. But I still get an uneasy feeling. Because she texts/talks to them a lot.

The other day she got mad that I wouldn’t let her look in my phone. Now she’s suspicious of me. I didn’t want her to see my ex texting me her breasts. I liked to picture my ex sent but I did reply. So I was still being faithful!

Girls always say they love confidence in guys. but what if a guy isn’t confident at first but later becomes confident? Have you ever gained attraction for a guy who grew confidence? Maybe you even rejected him at first because of his lack of confidence while he asked you out.