Speaking strictly for myself, I rarely find black girls/women attractive, they just don't do it for me. That's it. I've come across all of 3 black women that remotely interested me, but that's it. My older brother is the opposite, he tends to go for them. Though I suspect that in a general sense, most white men are not interested for some reason or they don't want to deal with the stereotypical black woman who yells at, and blames, them all the time or has some cultural or racial bone to pick for no reason. It's not all black women, but we've all seen the type, and for us guys, not just white guys, it's a huge turn off. No one wants to constantly put up with that or argue with someone who cares more about politics than being an actual person. If a black girl wants to attract a white guy, a good place to start is to just be yourself, leave out the complaints and politics, and go up to the dude and tell him you like him, at least then he'll know and you can go from there. Also, as a note, most guys in this day and age will not go up to a woman anymore to ask her out due to the overreach of baseless and biased claims against them for sexual harassment or assault and have their lives ruined. If you like a guy, go tell him, it avoids a rather complicated situation, maybe he likes you but is shy, or maybe he isn't interested at all. The best advice I can give to a woman trying to get a guy is to not try too hard (reeks of desperation) and let them know you are looking and/or available in some way, usually how you dress, like wear something that compliments your body and says that you're not taken, but not necessarily desperate for attention. Basically, be forward and show off a little, but not aggressive and slutty. Hope that helps.
Some are not interested, some are afraid of the possible cluster fuck that would ensue. For instance I'm more on the conservative side and that means she will almost always believe that I am pure evil because that is what the media and people on the left say, they say that I am automaticaly racist (though of course not only is it not true if you know your history, its not true if they know me, and they would know this if they ever actually bothered to just ask what conservatives think (but they never do)). This means that it would be much harder for me to approach a black woman then a non black woman because their isn't all of that baggage and almost guarenteed malice. Its not that I haven't found black women attractive, its that I just know that the social climate and poular culture hates and reviles me to the point where unless I knew she was non political or conservative, I don't think I would bother trying (no one wants to have to convince some one they like that htey are not in fact a racist monster but a human being just like them). So I think that is also one of the problems.
If someone is too afraid to approach anyone regardless of skin color, then the issue is with themselves. They need to work on themselves and gain confidence. Im sure many will say they were intimidated or assumed she didn't like men outside of her race. Excuses excuses. You was just scared and prob not worth her time. Others will say black women are too aggressive. Okay and you're either prejudice or being sterotypical. Good day sir. Some will ask why black women didn't approach them first. Well when we’re told we’re the least attractive out of all the ethnicities, it messes with the self esteem. But once again thats a self confidence issue that the person needs to fix before they expect someone to accept their offer. How can they accept you if you dont accept yourself? It works both ways
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I don't know maybe some guys are not attracted to black women, maybe some guys are intimidated, there are many other reasons. I have seen black women with white men and black men with white girls. But I'd say if you want a white man maybe try approaching them yourself or get a dating app, bet there will be plenty on there. I've always made the first move with guys I like usually on dating apps though because I'm not the best with approaching strangers and I will say I dated men that I thought were very attractive.
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for me colour doesn't matter, lol we are not afraid of rejection and not intimidated by you even in dreams, so the point is black chicks are hardly beautiful and feminine and I can show you an example what kind of black girl I prefer in terms of looks, here the image I have used is of a guy but to give you an idea we prefer sharp facial features distinct nose and and sweet, polite and girly behaviour.
all black people have flat noses that makes them ugly not their colour , this is honest answer someone can ever give. I have dated black girls but if the girl has a big nose I would block her after one time sex incase I find her ugly and I cannot give my best if I her face haunts me. I have approached a black girl only once in my life she was a married but still we anyhow ended up having sex. I have been with more than 20 + black girls and all of them know my thinking and they really appreciate that I am not about colour (racist) but infact how a person looks actually and keeps herself. conclusion: depends on the girl how hot she is and a few other factors.
Personality in all is big right. Had to go to a doc appointment and the receptionist, to you all was black. To me she was, yes she was. Well as I got up in line I noticed her face and how she was looking and talking with everyone. Figured was just busy. But when I got to her my stuff was really Easy yet the same poor attitude. Has nothing to do with color as far as I’m concerned. If a person wants to be approachable they will make themselves. You can’t go around your life saying I can’t get this, that of the other thing. And use someone, something, time, date or place you have to move on!
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I can't speak for every white guy, but personally, I tend not to approach black women because I assume we won't have much in common. Which may or may not be true, but we're statistically more likely to belong to different sub-cultures. So it's not necessarily a lack of interest, intimidation, or fear of rejection, but rather an acknowledgment of the statistical likelihood that we wouldn't be compatible.
If I could meet a beautiful black woman who listened to metal, played video games, was an atheist, liked horror movies, enjoyed nerd culture, and we got along? Damn right I'd jump on that in a heartbeat. I just recognize that's basically like looking for a unicorn, so I don't bother. And then getting this magical one-of-a-kind unicorn to be with me over everyone else? C'mon. Waste of time to try. It's hard enough finding a white girl who has most of those qualities.
I have dated a few black girls. They were very attractive. Most black girls are overweight more than white girls or they dress kinda like shit. 2 of the 3 were models and dressed beautifully and one was an athlete and had a fitness model sort of body. That big ol ass being what men want is a lie. I like thin or athletic women. Booty is good but only if you got it when you're fit! So idc what race you are if you aren't that then hell no.
Also a lot of black girls do weird ass shit with their hair. Like i literally saw a shaved head black girl but thats not feminine I don't know how a man going to want that. Or another black girl i saw had a purple bowl cut. Wtf. Not cute. Stop it! Just fucking stop it. How about cared for natural hair? Or if you weave or wig up chest length straight black hair? Thank you!
A lot of it is a lack of interest. I have tried dating black girls, and the constant edginess they expressed towards people around us was disconcerting. Of course not all black women are like that, but the ones I dated were. I'm not sure what to think...
Because dating to be cool and 'woke' in society is what girls do to attain clout. A real relationship doesn't value race and doesn't take pride in making 'mixed babies' these type of people want to be the centre of attention and always are like 'hey my race sucks and I'll defame it publicly just because I'm so woke and against racism' all while just wanting to get attention.
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Anonymous
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Afraid of rejection. There is a growing social prejudice against white men these days. White men are resented for having created and benefitted from western civilization sometimes at the expense of other ethnicities and sometimes at the expense of turning their own prisoners into slaves. These societies prospered more than any other and once they opened their doors to the rest of the world, the majority held by white men shrunk significantly and continues to do so to this day. White men are on the brink of being overthrown as the gold standard of humanity and all the other people can smell blood and they're baying for it. This is the reason I will continue to dwell in the last remaining pockets of majority white places usually found in rural areas until I meet my end. I am no longer welcome in mainstream society and I have come to accept it.
I was attracted to a few of them and they were so pretty, and I approached them. Some may not be attracted to that particular girl but it has nothing to do with the girl being black, it's a thing that some guys get nervous about approaching girls in general, or as I said, they don't feel drawn or have no romantic interest.
Same reason I don't approach anyone else, I don't know them.
hitting on strangers is weird, I prefer looking at an online dating profile that spilled the beans on everything about them immediately so I know whether or not I should or should interact with them as a friend. Also I only date females who are already best friend status with me, and by that time they have already hit on me, so I've never had to approach a woman.
I married two black girls. And I dated many more. Just didn't work out. Now... if I was single I probably just wouldn't. Not worth the trouble with all the shit going on. If you're an American who just happened to be black, fine. If you're African American... not gonna fini...
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Anonymous
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Too many black girls are entitled, bossy, loud, obnoxious, and masculine/dominant. Most non-black girls are more ladylike, demure, and submissive than most Black girls (at least in America). Not to say classy, feminine black girls aren't out there. But good luck finding 'em.
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A lot of the time I'm just not interested. The times when I am I assume that she probably isn't into white guys so I don't bother. Plus I think inter-racial relationships come with a lot of extra problems which I'm not interested in dealing with so I just date white girls.
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Anonymous
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Most white guys are more into white Asian and maybe latina and those who like black girls think that culture difference are too big and there is stereotype that black woman are more into Black men. also they live in different social circle I mean even friendship between white men and black woman are rare.
I've always wanted to date a black woman. Black is a little intimidating I would say. I find the cultural differences and everything in general to be very alluring.. I also look for thick women and face it most black women are thick gotta love that some definitely down for the swirl 😁👏
Cuz black girls have made it clear they don't like white guys. At least the racist ones have. I happen to think there are beautiful women of all races, ethnicities, and countries of origin, all around the world. It's just not about race or color.
Don't generalize. This is not an "all" or "most" kind of thing. I don't know what the numbers are. A nice man who is aware of the issues that might arise out of being with a black woman if he wasn't black is a good person to have as a partner. There is still a lot of baggage in both communities about white/black connections. Blacks make it just as hard as whites do about cross racial dating. I was married to a white guy for 17 years and we have a zebra son. He turned out to be a goof, but my son is a sweet dude. If I'd have divorced him sooner, I'd not have my son and I LOVE him and his Jesus hair!!! ahahahahaaha
@Screenwriter - You haven't been reading here. For the most part, black women are not attracted to white guys, while many black guys are attracted to white women. I say race doesn't and shouldn't matter - attraction is in the eye of the beholder, and any prospect should be judged on their character and good looks, not their skin color or ethnicity.
And I think it's the other way around. Black women aren't given the same status in this society as white women, so white males often don't seek them. It's not about physical attraction, it's about VALUE. But the converse IS true. No matter what kind of raggedy ann white woman it is, she's white! And even if she's white trash, her status of BEING WHITE makes her of higher value than a black woman of even HIGHER status. I think all of this is wearing down and changing slowly and is why you see more interracial couples and their zebra children. When we all turn out to be tan at some time in the future and everyone will look like racial blurs, maybe most of this will come to an end...
Nah. You know what I'm saying only pertains to me. And there is no monolithic "black community." You also know that. Goes on a case by case. Some black chicks, no. Others, it's OK. It truthfully has to be a GIANT two-way street. Was just reading on here about a young woman whose boyfriend won't intro her to his parents becaue they would disapprove of him dating her. This is a big issue. No one lives in a couple vacuum. If you can't bring home your friends/relationships to be evaluated by mom and dad, this is a big stumbling block. They can't see her as a person. Only as a "problem." Do you think none of their attitudes have missed that young man?
@Screenwriter - Yeah, I get it. My FIL is a big-time bigot/racist from the south. His grandson married a half-black girl, and they have two beautiful children. Ha ha. Her dad was white but gone out of the picture, mom is black, and the rehearsal dinner was a hoot. It was pretty well segregated for about five minutes, then everybody started cross-culturing. It was pretty cool. And her mom was a school teacher that my two daughters had growing up. There was a lot of familiarity. The old codger has dementia, he's 85 thinks he's 60. LOL I would date a pretty black woman in a heartbeat. I think there are too many generalizing 'opinions' that are just not valid any longer.
Ah, Brownie, you have a wonderful heart. We need more like you. Sad to say, I think there aren't enough of youse... Look at all this crazy white nationalism et al... I wonder how my zebra son will do and who he'll partner up with. Seems to like Jewish girls and French girls.. but he goes brown also. Omnivore! There's all this creepy stuff about saving the "white race." It unnerves me. There's no place to move to, though. We're stuck with each other... I keep hoping...
@Screenwriter - Everybody keeps hoping. The fringe extreme needs to step back and the race-baiting needs to stop. As usual, the common people are much more level-headed.
I don't care how many confederate statues there are. I didn't pay to put them up. It's history. Removing them. Does that make people less prejudiced? I hate this black and white. He had slaves. He wasn't human. Her father was a racist, so she's guilty by association. This is what's going on in New Orleans. Tear down, rename, wipe out... WHITE WASH HISTORY!!! oh ho ho ho... I'm laughing all the way to the history books...
@Screenwriter Next they'll rewrite all the history books. England has to be the most blood-lust culture on earth. They overpopulated their stupid little island, then went cavorting around the world exploring. Every place they landed they stuck a flag-pole in the ground and declared it 'property of the queen of England'. Just look what they did to Africa. No, history is ugly, wars and famine, slavery, oppression, murder, warring tribes. No, history lets us learn what not to do, to be better. Trying to erase it is not the answer. We are experiencing an uprising by the woke mob. They're just not too bright. If it doesn't tear the country apart, we'll be improved for it all.
Some RE writing is OK. OVER writing is not. You have your finger on the pulse Brownie. I wish people were awake. Lots seem to be sleepwalking in some fantasy...
I'm just not attracted to black people, no reason. I've met a couple awesome black woman in my life but there is just nothing there for me (relationship wise, friendship? HELL YES).
If a guy doesn’t approach a girl it can be any number of reasons. The question is too general.
When I approach an attractive girl it sometimes is risky.
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Anonymous
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Too much drama. Yes, there are some black women that know how to act like ladies, but most of the ones I've met are extremely mouthy and unpleasant to be around.
