Why don’t some white guys approach black girls?

Question

What are the reasons why you white men/guys don’t approach black girls in general?

Xitomyth · Accepted Answer

Speaking strictly for myself, I rarely find black girls/women attractive, they just don't do it for me. That's it. I've come across all of 3 black women that remotely interested me, but that's it. My older brother is the opposite, he tends to go for them. Though I suspect that in a general sense, most white men are not interested for some reason or they don't want to deal with the stereotypical black woman who yells at, and blames, them all the time or has some cultural or racial bone to pick for no reason. It's not all black women, but we've all seen the type, and for us guys, not just white guys, it's a huge turn off. No one wants to constantly put up with that or argue with someone who cares more about politics than being an actual person. If a black girl wants to attract a white guy, a good place to start is to just be yourself, leave out the complaints and politics, and go up to the dude and tell him you like him, at least then he'll know and you can go from there. Also, as a note, most guys in this day and age will not go up to a woman anymore to ask her out due to the overreach of baseless and biased claims against them for sexual harassment or assault and have their lives ruined. If you like a guy, go tell him, it avoids a rather complicated situation, maybe he likes you but is shy, or maybe he isn't interested at all. The best advice I can give to a woman trying to get a guy is to not try too hard (reeks of desperation) and let them know you are looking and/or available in some way, usually how you dress, like wear something that compliments your body and says that you're not taken, but not necessarily desperate for attention. Basically, be forward and show off a little, but not aggressive and slutty. Hope that helps.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Some are not interested, some are afraid of the possible cluster fuck that would ensue. For instance I'm more on the conservative side and that means she will almost always believe that I am pure evil because that is what the media and people on the left say, they say that I am automaticaly racist (though of course not only is it not true if you know your history, its not true if they know me, and they would know this if they ever actually bothered to just ask what conservatives think (but they never do)). This means that it would be much harder for me to approach a black woman then a non black woman because their isn't all of that baggage and almost guarenteed malice. Its not that I haven't found black women attractive, its that I just know that the social climate and poular culture hates and reviles me to the point where unless I knew she was non political or conservative, I don't think I would bother trying (no one wants to have to convince some one they like that htey are not in fact a racist monster but a human being just like them). So I think that is also one of the problems.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

If someone is too afraid to approach anyone regardless of skin color, then the issue is with themselves. They need to work on themselves and gain confidence. Im sure many will say they were intimidated or assumed she didn't like men outside of her race. Excuses excuses. You was just scared and prob not worth her time. Others will say black women are too aggressive. Okay and you're either prejudice or being sterotypical. Good day sir. Some will ask why black women didn't approach them first. Well when we’re told we’re the least attractive out of all the ethnicities, it messes with the self esteem. But once again thats a self confidence issue that the person needs to fix before they expect someone to accept their offer. How can they accept you if you dont accept yourself? It works both ways

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't know maybe some guys are not attracted to black women, maybe some guys are intimidated, there are many other reasons. I have seen black women with white men and black men with white girls. But I'd say if you want a white man maybe try approaching them yourself or get a dating app, bet there will be plenty on there. I've always made the first move with guys I like usually on dating apps though because I'm not the best with approaching strangers and I will say I dated men that I thought were very attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

for me colour doesn't matter, lol we are not afraid of rejection and not intimidated by you even in dreams, so the point is black chicks are hardly beautiful and feminine and I can show you an example what kind of black girl I prefer in terms of looks, here the image I have used is of a guy but to give you an idea we prefer sharp facial features distinct nose and and sweet, polite and girly behaviour.

Why don’t some white guys approach black girls?

all black people have flat noses that makes them ugly not their colour , this is honest answer someone can ever give. I have dated black girls but if the girl has a big nose I would block her after one time sex incase I find her ugly and I cannot give my best if I her face haunts me.
I have approached a black girl only once in my life she was a married but still we anyhow ended up having sex.
I have been with more than 20 + black girls and all of them know my thinking and they really appreciate that I am not about colour (racist) but infact how a person looks actually and keeps herself.
conclusion: depends on the girl how hot she is and a few other factors.

Redred56 · Answer

Personality in all is big right. Had to go to a doc appointment and the receptionist, to you all was black. To me she was, yes she was. Well as I got up in line I noticed her face and how she was looking and talking with everyone. Figured was just busy. But when I got to her my stuff was really
Easy yet the same poor attitude.
Has nothing to do with color as far as I’m concerned. If a person wants to be approachable they will make themselves.
You can’t go around your life saying I can’t get this, that of the other thing. And use someone, something, time, date or place you have to move on!

Anonymous · Answer

I can't speak for every white guy, but personally, I tend not to approach black women because I assume we won't have much in common. Which may or may not be true, but we're statistically more likely to belong to different sub-cultures. So it's not necessarily a lack of interest, intimidation, or fear of rejection, but rather an acknowledgment of the statistical likelihood that we wouldn't be compatible.

If I could meet a beautiful black woman who listened to metal, played video games, was an atheist, liked horror movies, enjoyed nerd culture, and we got along? Damn right I'd jump on that in a heartbeat. I just recognize that's basically like looking for a unicorn, so I don't bother. And then getting this magical one-of-a-kind unicorn to be with me over everyone else? C'mon. Waste of time to try. It's hard enough finding a white girl who has most of those qualities.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I have dated a few black girls. They were very attractive. Most black girls are overweight more than white girls or they dress kinda like shit. 2 of the 3 were models and dressed beautifully and one was an athlete and had a fitness model sort of body. That big ol ass being what men want is a lie. I like thin or athletic women. Booty is good but only if you got it when you're fit! So idc what race you are if you aren't that then hell no.

Also a lot of black girls do weird ass shit with their hair. Like i literally saw a shaved head black girl but thats not feminine I don't know how a man going to want that. Or another black girl i saw had a purple bowl cut. Wtf. Not cute. Stop it! Just fucking stop it. How about cared for natural hair? Or if you weave or wig up chest length straight black hair? Thank you!

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A lot of it is a lack of interest. I have tried dating black girls, and the constant edginess they expressed towards people around us was disconcerting. Of course not all black women are like that, but the ones I dated were. I'm not sure what to think...

NikolaiIvanov · Answer

Because dating to be cool and 'woke' in society is what girls do to attain clout. A real relationship doesn't value race and doesn't take pride in making 'mixed babies' these type of people want to be the centre of attention and always are like 'hey my race sucks and I'll defame it publicly just because I'm so woke and against racism' all while just wanting to get attention.

Anonymous · Answer

Afraid of rejection. There is a growing social prejudice against white men these days. White men are resented for having created and benefitted from western civilization sometimes at the expense of other ethnicities and sometimes at the expense of turning their own prisoners into slaves. These societies prospered more than any other and once they opened their doors to the rest of the world, the majority held by white men shrunk significantly and continues to do so to this day. White men are on the brink of being overthrown as the gold standard of humanity and all the other people can smell blood and they're baying for it. This is the reason I will continue to dwell in the last remaining pockets of majority white places usually found in rural areas until I meet my end. I am no longer welcome in mainstream society and I have come to accept it.

JakeS00 · Answer

I was attracted to a few of them and they were so pretty, and I approached them. Some may not be attracted to that particular girl but it has nothing to do with the girl being black, it's a thing that some guys get nervous about approaching girls in general, or as I said, they don't feel drawn or have no romantic interest.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Same reason I don't approach anyone else, I don't know them.

hitting on strangers is weird, I prefer looking at an online dating profile that spilled the beans on everything about them immediately so I know whether or not I should or should interact with them as a friend. Also I only date females who are already best friend status with me, and by that time they have already hit on me, so I've never had to approach a woman.

Andres77 · Answer

I married two black girls.
And I dated many more.
Just didn't work out.
Now... if I was single I probably just wouldn't.
Not worth the trouble with all the shit going on.
If you're an American who just happened to be black, fine.
If you're African American... not gonna fini...

Anonymous · Answer

Too many black girls are entitled, bossy, loud, obnoxious, and masculine/dominant. Most non-black girls are more ladylike, demure, and submissive than most Black girls (at least in America). Not to say classy, feminine black girls aren't out there. But good luck finding 'em.

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of the time I'm just not interested. The times when I am I assume that she probably isn't into white guys so I don't bother. Plus I think inter-racial relationships come with a lot of extra problems which I'm not interested in dealing with so I just date white girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Most white guys are more into white Asian and maybe latina and those who like black girls think that culture difference are too big and there is stereotype that black woman are more into Black men. also they live in different social circle I mean even friendship between white men and black woman are rare.

LuvThighsThatRub · Answer

I've always wanted to date a black woman. Black is a little intimidating I would say. I find the cultural differences and everything in general to be very alluring.. I also look for thick women and face it most black women are thick gotta love that some definitely down for the swirl 😁👏

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz black girls have made it clear they don't like white guys. At least the racist ones have.
I happen to think there are beautiful women of all races, ethnicities, and countries of origin, all around the world. It's just not about race or color.

I-C3_ME · Answer

I'm just not attracted to black people, no reason. I've met a couple awesome black woman in my life but there is just nothing there for me (relationship wise, friendship? HELL YES).

BarryLiverstone · Answer

If a guy doesn’t approach a girl it can be any number of reasons. The question is too general. When I approach an attractive girl it sometimes is risky.

Anonymous · Answer

Too much drama. Yes, there are some black women that know how to act like ladies, but most of the ones I've met are extremely mouthy and unpleasant to be around.

modelUN242 · Answer

Cause they’ll start preaching BLM and reparations shit.

pervertedjester · Answer

Lack of interest from black women. The majority of the women who "seem" attracted to/willing to date Me are usually White, Hispanic, Indian or Asian.

dreamstar72 · Answer

Who cares their choice. If we would just drop the white/black word then maybe we have a more sensible society

Pogi-Paddy · Answer

I can only share on my personal experience, I have dated 2 black girls, except I was approached by them, but honestly I would have a bit intimidated to approach them to ask them out for a date.🌹

JackBlackHeartAttack · Answer

Most African American females around my area are "woke" and hate white men. I tend to stay away from them

genericname85 · Answer

i don't think that has anything to do with them being black.

Anonymous · Answer

Not to be mean but. If you really want to know the truth Many of them are masculine women Many of them are angry and racist Many of them are loud Not all of them, just in general

Diversity_Hire · Answer

Well, because I live in what might be the whitest state in the country; I love black women, but they don't seem to love Maine. 😂

Anonymous · Answer

honestly a lot of white guys just aren't attracted to black women. it's nothing personal there's just no physical attraction there.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I'm not white but, where's the "all of the above" button?

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I prefer black women. I dont usually approach them because I'm not only intimidated by women but am afraid of rejection

Anonymous · Answer

We don't have black women here, but if I saw one I would talk to her and hope to hookup maybe?

Anonymous · Answer

No interest  With MeToo I wouldn't approach girls anyway but black girls put no lead on the pencil, in my case

Anonymous · Answer

D - my experience with black girls has been that most seem to be the opposite of warm and friendly to white people.

JamieLoves · Answer

Cause we don’t find them to look good! Not our preference.

sixtyeightplusone · Answer

zero interest, my tastes are specific. This isn't the only characteristic i would not consider

MDollarBill · Answer

I think there's just cultural differences that are hard to bridge.

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry, but most are not remotely attractive let alone thier piss poor attitude.

livin_hi_808 · Answer

All of the above i would guess.

devilman666 · Answer

Why dont black girls approach white men?

jshm2 · Answer

Most just don't get the opportunity, I suppose.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

Scared Or prejudiced

Ripper_E · Answer

Not attracted or they are afraid of rejection.

sheikalana · Answer

Because they find them attractive.

anylolone · Answer

Same as with any other type of woman.

Twalli · Answer

All three are possible

pokerbot · Answer

I don't approach girls. #metoo

OddBeMe · Answer

to be fair... we rarely approach any girl.

Anonymous · Answer

The chet hanks type white guys will approach you

Nachowedgie · Answer

They're not attractive to me

Anonymous · Answer

Black girls aren't attracted to white guys

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

I'm sure they do.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Lack of interest

jimmy2 · Answer

I aporoach them

Anonymous · Answer

Seem intimidating

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