Why don’t white guys approach women as much?

[Anonymous]

I notice white guys don’t really approach girls they find attractive. They just stare at them a lot. Meanwhile black men approach women even if she was 10x out of their league.

[Mjmenar]

I feel like that's kinda true.

These days it's hard to approach a girl cuz we don't know what is the reaction I'm getting must likely I'm thinking she'll slapping me with sexual harassment or she'll say something like a pervert or something else. And and that's before I even talk maybe most of girls have an idea of we don't talk to u unless we wanna have sex with you. For me similar section happened to me once got me to think 17 times and maybe add couple of prayers before I approach.

Now for some people have no issues with the above they just afraid from the rejection or they don't like to be rejected so now we have this barrier that prevents us from approaching and there's a lot of stuff coming up these days makes us afraid to start the first move. That's from my experience. But can't say much about black men it's a different culture. Maybe they have that racist card the can pull or they don't care about if they get rejected they'll be like this girl is no. Ok next and move on. And also they have the confidant coming from: today she will meet the monster D. Don't know 😶

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

Jumping spider females will kill the male if she doesn’t like his mating dance. We are becoming more like that as a species. More uncivilized. Social engineering is intentionally distorting our ways of life and creating conflict on purpose for nefarious reasons by the elite.

[Xepshunall]

White or black, men are the same. You may just appeal to black men and have nothing that a white man wants. I, for one, don't see any reason to approach a woman due to what they have decided that relationships should be like. Nah. Y'all can keep your liberated attitudes.
Hey, that may be a clue.
Black people were once denied the right to vote and other opportunities afforded a white man. The same holds true with women. Maybe this similarity gives them the confidence to approach you while you greedy embracing of these opportunities and the constant demanding to be placed above white men puts you and black men on common ground and makes you more compatible in each other's eyes. Good for you. Good for us too even if you can't see it.

[Asker]

I don’t like bitchy men like yourself anyway so good riddance

[sage2021]

Man have things changed since my dating days.
I am white, and I only like white men to date. I have never has any other color but white that was interested in me.
They weren't shy back in the day. Of course I would send him my flirtatious looks everytime I saw him. Then he would finally ask me out. I'd smile at him a lot so that helped.

[mandyfire98]

I've found that black guys seem to be more confident when it comes to approaching women. Just my own personal experience.

[SL1CK_BL1CK]

Fair enough, usually it’s liquid courage lol

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... Being a white man itself is almost directly a crime these days, and if a woman as much as does not like the presence of a certain white man, she can ruin his life in so many different ways that it's simply not worth the risk for a white man to try and interact with a woman in most cases. For a white man to actually interact with a woman, she'd have to prove her non-hostile attitude towards him, and that's less and less of a simple matter.

For black men, though, I guess they might be the ones to sue the woman for racism if something goes wrong, so they might feel more safe interacting with women. I mean, they do have some aces up their sleeves if a judicial battle breaks out.

[7Phoenix7]

I don't know... I've been approached before by white men, black men, Hispanic, Indian, Asian... I think it's more about the personality of the guy, not the race/ethnicity

[Bklynbadboy12]

So true I agree

[FunkyMonkee]

Most of them are either spoken for, too stuck up or aren't interested. Besides, if they want women's lib and equal rights, let THEM come get US!!

[Anonymous]

Black guys tend to have a different idea of what is considered attractive to them, Black guys tend to view or this themselves as much more attractive than the rest people/society views them which is why they have more confidence to approach women who are out of their league, it's cause in their minds they think they are in her league when they are not.

[Asker]

That makes a lot of sense. So what would you suggest I do to not attract black men as much

[Opinion Owner]

I think it depends on your physical appearance. Black guys tend to like girls with huge butts and big lips more than white guys do.

If you don't have those physical attributes I would say wear a Maga hat, talk about supporting right wing politics, say that you only date white guys or that you only find white guys attractive and let it be known or get a reputation for those things. That will help keep them away. Eventually the word will spread (whether it's at college, university, a particular bar or club etc) and they will leave you alone. That's my best advice I can give you honestly.

[Opinion Owner]

I think it's also good to mention that a lot of black guys want to get with a white women for numerous reasons, so they will just try their luck with lots of white women to hopeful get one.

Like I said Black guys tend to have a different view of themselves than the rest of people do,
I remember seeing a study where people would rate themselves and compare it to other people rating them in terms of looks, the study reported that black people especially guys tend to rate themselves as much more attractive than they actually are and to how other people view them.

[PeachyPie93]

I actually noticed this as well, this is why I have yet to date a white guy.

[Decoded93]

Do you have a preference?

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Not really, I like any guy that is good looking and nice.

[Decoded93]

That makes sense, by the way are you white? If not that might be why, a lot of white guys might be thinking that non white girls don't like them

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 I am white. It could be because I am more of a shy person. The guys who come up to me are usually very talkative and confident, which helps me open up to them.

[Decoded93]

That makes sense, all the male black friends I had, for example, LOVED approaching white girls and when we went out they'd always claim the attractive ones like that lmao

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 LOL funny, I dated a guy who had on his IG that he is a white girl slayer. I can say he definitely was 😅

[Decoded93]

Lol that's hilarious! Pretty much every girl I dated was white and had experience with black guys before, I think it's a pretty natural mix!

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Yeah, seems like it :D

[Decoded93]

Lol every girl I've ever known who had a thing with a black guy always had an incredible ass!

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 LMAO! That is actually one department I lack in.

[Decoded93]

Haha I doubt it! by the way a booty doesn't have to be huge to be nice!!

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 That's true I guess, but I guess I make up for it in the boob department.

[Decoded93]

Nice, what size are they? Or is it shape? Or both?

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 It's a secret but guys like them :D

[Decoded93]

I bet they're fucking amazing, those guys are so goddamn lucky lol

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 LOL you are funny! :D

[Decoded93]

Haha I bet any of my black guy friends would totally go for you!!

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Hahaha perhaps :P

[Decoded93]

Lol it'd be really fun to set you up even though I'd probably be into you as well 😂

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Hahaha I am totally not looking for a new guy anytime soon. I still need to get over the last one.

[Decoded93]

Oh man that sucks :( break ups are the worse, especially when you can't get the person out of your mind for whatever reason

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 True :/

[Decoded93]

Do a rebound! It'll help

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 hahaha tried one, and it didn't help he hurt me too lol

[Decoded93]

Oh well that's unfortunate :( do you get really attached to the person you're seeing? I do so I get it, the worst thing is when you're starting to see new people but everything just reminds you of the person you miss

Your ex is dumb to have let you go!

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 I do, I'm sure that is one of my biggest flaws. I really wish I could forget him.

[Decoded93]

I'm exactly the same way, do you mind me asking what happened?

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 After 8 months he just decided he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I suppose it is my fault I was probably too needy or something.

[Decoded93]

I doubt you were too needy, you sound very chill! I'm sure most guys would love to date you and make you feel happy with the relationship... This guy just sucked for that :( I feel like a lot of guys aren't mature enough for real, genuine relationships

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Maybe, but thinking of this just made me really sad lol

[Decoded93]

I'm sorry :( think about how you're destined to find a way better guy who'll want to stay with you and keep you fulfilled and have fun as a couple! You're a fun and chill girl, you deserve a guy that can handle you!

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 I will try, and thanks for saying that :)

[Decoded93]

When you're ready go out and explore the world, you'll meet someone exciting and worth dating for sure, maybe wear a shirt that will show off your boobs once you find the guy to entice him a little 😂

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Lmao mine are well defined even in a sweater so anytime I wear t-shirts I get lots of looks, no need to entice lol

[Decoded93]

Oh man do you wear a bra when you go out usually? I bet so many dudes look!

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Yes, I always wear a bra. I don't mean for them to get attention but they just do lol

[Decoded93]

Lol this happened to one of my ex's except it was her ass, guys would ALWAYS stare! I couldn't do anything about it 🤣 even my friends lol

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 Haha she must of had a really nice one! :D

[Decoded93]

She did for sure! She was slim except her ass was big but tight at the same time!! Guys would always try to grind at the clubs 🤣

[PeachyPie93]

@Decoded93 🤣🤣 Sounds like you were lucky!

[Decoded93]

Haha I was very lucky even though we lived kinda far apart! She was my first real girlfriend, also funny enough, since we talked about it earlier, I'll add that she was a blonde haired blue eyed white girl and her first real boyfriend was a black guy haha

[Asker]

Can y’all take it to the private message I’m tired of getting notifications

[PeachyPie93]

No problem, but just so you know you can mute the notifications.

[Asker]

I’m aware. But by the time that would have been useful I already had 40 notifications to this conversation, but thanks.

[CALIGVLA]

Jesus Christ!

This convo is atrocious, but since it's a new year, I have a few suggestions for you.

@PeachyPie93, you should start looking for men who doesn't treat you like a pr0stitute... "White girl slayer"? Are you white girls a cheap piece of meat or what?

@Decoded93, stop being obsessed with black males, they're just human beings like everyone else, and they're men like any other man. So you should start seeing them as human beings abd stop being the racist, incel wanker you're.

Get a life y'all.

[EnglishArtsteacher]

Anecdotally, I haven't noticed this has anything to do with race, at least here in the United States of America. So, I can't answer your question, because I haven't noticed this in the first place.

Do you live in the USA?

[rigmarole]

You assume that just because someone looks at you they think you are attractive. That's a bad assumption.

[rigmarole]

People watch car crashes... Do you think they want to be in them? People watch fail videos and smile with laughter, do you think they want to fail?

[Asker]

God there are a lot of bitchy men on this site.

[Summeroflove]

They’re scared. If people would make a effort who they approach. They would have more options. If you sit around and wait. I don’t care if you’re a man or woman you don’t really choose who you want.

[robhazelnut]

A guess at a contributing factor- millenia of needing more of a -build, store and wait- personality to survive in northern Europe.

[Asker]

I wish I knew what that was.

[Asker]

Also you look like a caveman.

[robhazelnut]

I suppose "tendency" would have been a more appropriate word and take "looking like a caveman" as a compliment. Thank you very much. 🍃🌿🍃

[AmeerX]

There is no woman out of league. And all men approach women they like.
It's just life, some people are beautiful and find someone objectively ugly while others don't and end with equally attractive people.

[Asker]

Yes there is a such thing as women out of league, because the more attractive the woman is, the more options she has for a more attractive or even more financially stable man. Sure, a man can approach any woman they like but their chances of rejection are 100% if she’s a Victorias Secret model and you look like Chevy Chase. Unless of course, you have Chevy Chase money.

[AmeerX]

What if someone doesn't want a Victoria's secret model and is happy with some average girl? And from his eyes she looks like a Victoria's Secret Model.
And yes some people are objectively ugly. So, I am just wondering if someone really be thinking they are so beautiful and then they forget that everyone ages and seriously no one likes a toxic woman who thinks she is everything a man needs just based off her looks. No thanks.

As for gold diggers, I can just say what tells you that all women who love a guy just because they find him less beautiful just marry them for money? No, you are just thinking this out of some media nonsense.

See, some people are beautiful and inaccessible due to various reasons. Some people are wealthy and beautiful and it's still not enough. Do you know why? Because no amount of money in the world can make someone love you or make you feel happy. You can own a country and yet have that emptiness because you need companionship. We grow together with other people, how can we expect to be happy when those around us are in misery especially our friends. We want to raise the standard of living for the entire community, not just us. And being beautiful is a good thing but making people think they are beautiful and bad character is wrong.

Anyhow, back to your question, it's just how life is, you look at people and then say oh wow how did he get them and then you see couples who we think are perfect and end up in divorce and break up. There is no guarantee

[AmeerX]

Oh by the way, there is a culture aspect as well. Like in my culture, alright it's just mostly me. I just tell a girl I like her out straight. It never worked but I just say it or through a letter. I don't like games or running after girls. I admit I did do it when I was younger 😅

[AmeerX]

Hopeless romantic here 😄

[Joshydavid25]

I guess because a lot of them just aren't as confident usually.. I guess it also depends on the settings as well.. "Black" dudes will ask anywhere honestly..

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

Probably because the mainstream media, politicians’ opinions on social media and “liberal” school teachers taught them to curl up and die.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... Either curl up and die or go their own way. It depends on the man in question's reaction to this conditioning. If He submits, it's "curl up and die". If He fights back, He's going His own way. Unless He's a believer, then He can just add one more requirement for His potential wife, and that is to be a believer as well. Then, if (and that's a big if) He can find a woman like that, the true, traditional, purely Catholic (or otherwise religious) marriage can happen, and provided that they don't live in a state where cohabitation for a certain period implies state-sanctioned marriage, their life together can be a happy one. Though I guess it's "their own way" in its own way.

[SotiCoto]

Probably all the years of being told that talking to a woman is sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

Because if fear of being executed by a MeToo firing squad

Black men don't have that fear because they've spent generations fearing execution at every turn

[Anonymous]

Because white men have been beaten down by media and modern pop culture. And in general they have lost confidence.

[LiamJHayden]

I have no issue approaching women I find interesting.

[Jmmmfi4]

I LITERALLY NEVER DO IT BECAUSE I JUST ASSUME SHE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME

[SL1CK_BL1CK]

Tbf I’ve seen plenty of white guys makin moves, so can't really say

[Anonymous]

You don't want the answer to that.

If you think about it it's pretty obvious.

[Anonymous]

Black men also be out there like

[7Phoenix7]

This really shouldn't have made me laugh but it did. I'm already on the naughty list anyway..

[Opinion Owner]

@7Phoenix7 one of my coworkers has no problems getting girls, has like 1 girlfriend and 3 side chicks and brought a big fat one into work. I was like come on dude, I know you can do better than that. She was built like a washing machine

[Nikki1989]

Some men have no balls.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

It's a crime to be a white male nowadays

[Anonymous]

Women aren't worth it nowadays. Simple.

[PeachyPie93]

Lol don't be so negative.

[CalmUntilAbused]

@PeachyPie93

I mean... In general, He's correct. While it's true that women who are also proper human beings still do exist these days, finding one is a tough order. Talking from my experience, I guess I did find a few here on GaG, and incredibly quickly, while we're at that, but most of them are already in relationships, and it's not like I live close enough to any of them anyway. In real life, I only found one such Girl who is not yet in a relationship, and while it's good that She's by no means "easy", at this point I'm not really sure if I can ever get Her to like me, so here You have it. We might actually need a dating app that would not allow photos to get to know the potential partner's character through messages in order to make any change at all.