At what point do you assume that your friends with benefits relationship is over?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been in a friends with benefits with a guy for four months. First month he didn’t message me that much. Then he found out I was seeing another guy so he started messaging me more. Things were going great. Then he started looking online for another friends with benefits. My friend told me he massaged her saying that he was looking for a friends with benefits who won’t try to hook up with other guys behind his back. I only did that because he wanted me to date so that I can get married one day. I don’t know how to make this right. I’m not looking to get married. I want exactly what he wants.

When you haven’t heard from them in a week

Haven’t seen them for a few weeks

Always too busy to reply to messages and to see you

[joco57]

If he wants to make a more individual relationship with you, you need to express your thoughts. Tell him that an friends with benefits is just that and it's ok with you if he goes out with your friend.
Myself, I have 5 different women that I am in an friends with benefits relationship with and I'm sure they have other men they are involved with too. I don't ask about them and they don't ask me about my other friends. We just enjoy our time together and that's all.
I would suggest that if your are in a friends with benefits with numerous men that you get an STD test after each session to control the spread of unwanted infections. I do one weekly, just in case. There's no excuse in this day and age to be spreading these unhealthy diseases around. Plus it will destroy your relationship with that lover.
Also all my lady friends take BC and use a diaphragm, also some have the day after pill in their bathroom cabinet. No sense bring a child into a situation needlessly

[Jesus_is_the_guey]

You guys are too old for that nonsense if you wanna have friends with benefits the whole point is sex with no drama so if he’s causing drama then leave he obviously can’t handle friends with benefits

[CurlyGirl42]

Mostly I don't assume things, but talk about it. But out of your options, if he does kinda ignore me or keep postponing/cancel to see each other, I would guess so. Had one who did that a couple of times, and I asked if I could still tempt him, and then he told me he was not into it anymore.
For a friends with benefits relationship it is important to be straight about the want to see each other.

[AnggieGirl]

Instead of him going an looking for another woman, any responsible mature man would instead come talk to you about things. If a guy leaves me guessing and wondering - he's gone without an explanation to him.
He's garbage.

[Browneye57]

Quit doing this. There is absolutely nothing in it for the woman. ZERO. ZILCH. NADA. NOTHING.
You're just a warm place to put it.

[CurlyGirl42]

OK Boomer

[Browneye57]

@CurlyGirl42 Okay dipshit.

[spartan55]

@curlygirl442
He is right. You want to try debate that fact? Didn't think so.

[_Just_A_girl_]

When it began bc these situationships are a joke.

[Anonymous]

When the pussy stank of another guy

[AwesomeMe_]

Your situation with this guy is over. End it

[Asker]

So why hasn’t he just said I don’t want to see you anymore

[spartan55]

@asker
Why does HE have to end it? Wtf is stopping YOU from ending it?

[Asker]

I don’t want to end it. I still want to see him

[spartan55]

Wow, that is all you think you are worth? Pretty pathetic.

[Anonymous]

I never had one