Polls: Dating

I swear. I'm not a bad looking dude at all. I get told that I'm handsome and I get compliments for my voice all the time. I get told I'm smart, honest, kind, funny, artistic, passionate, I could go on. No girl has ever had anything bad to say about me in regards to my looks. However I'm forever friend zoned and on dating sites I get 0 matches and 0 replies. Even if I swipe everyone (50+ girls) right indiscriminately I only get maybe 1-2 matches every 3 days and it's always some morbidly obese girl who is obviously just scraping the bottom of the barrel. To a lesser extent I'll match with gays or transgenders, or cam girls who act like their interested and then randomly reveal that they are actually a cam model and want me to look at their site. The super rare occasions where I actually match up with someone decent, they either don't reply or they stop after 1-2 messages. The only things I can think of are:1: I've been lied to about my looks my entire life.
2: Most girls aren't into black guys.
3: Girls on those sites are incredibly picky and expect a solid 10/10 man for a right swipe.

I know that some people expect to have sex on a first date and holding hands means absolutely nothing to them, but other people don't even kiss on a first date and holding hands IS a big deal. While I hope that I will get a good night kiss at the end of a first date, I don't expect it; for me, holding hands is an exciting milestone on a first date. It's a way of establishing a small degree of intimacy in a non-sexual way that is not threatening to most people. If a lady will hold my hand for more than a few seconds on a first date, I take that as a sign that she likes being with me and is wanting to encourage me.

What does holding hands on a first date mean to you?

P. s. I'm very talkative, it's how I vent, make banter, and express the stress and issues I'm having, I have a "talk it out" approach. I'm a social butterfly, usually the life of the party and always
making people laugh, but always ask "what's stressing you out/ troubling you" as not everyone is as open with their problems as I am.

I used to be a shy guy many moons ago, I found that some girls liked to advance on me as they told me that they see hot vunerble shy guys as easy targets and no threat to them. But I want to know your reason

How important to you are hands and feet on a girl?

the amount of desperate guys I see is insane. Do guys not realize how pathetic they sound. JESUS

I went on Match to find what was available in my area and one of the questions they asked me was what body type do you want for a partner and one of the options was "curvy". I picked it thinking I was going to get this-

But instead I got a bunch of this-