Questions: Dating

So I am in an exklusive dating with a guy who is 30 and I am 22. We ve been dating since October 2024.

I feel like there are some issues between us and also there are some problems on my part that I feel like may cause this relationship to end.

A month ago, I asked how he feels about me and if we could be girlfriend and boyfriend, but he said he is not read.

He says he likes me, and we do go on some dates every time we meet. But I feel like he is mostly interested in sex. Why do things that are done in a relationship but not want to have a relationship? Is it commitment issues or he just doesn't love me?

by the way we live in different cities so we visit each other. Like taking turns.

I want to love and to be loved deeply, but I feel like he does not love me and my feeling for him are decreasing, maybe because I am dissapointed. And for me, feelings is what makes me continue a relationship, which mean it's more important for me than sex.

I feel so insecure because of a lot of things

- that he does not show enough care. For example when he talks about his problems, I pay attention, care for him and solve them together. But when I talk about my problems, he just say it's gonna be alright and good night. No more comfort/care or whatever.

- he forgot my birthday

- I feel like he just is dating me as a second option just because other girls have not chosen him

- that my university grades are not so great right now and my family use me now and then.

- a lot of things has happened lately that makes me question myself, my relationship and my family. I see negativity more that positivity. I don't know if I am starting to become depressed.

I am a bit naive I guess.

I am thinking if I should break up with him because I don't feel loved the way I want or if I just should wait and see how it goes first and then decide.

I am also tired of dating and relationship that waste my time and feelings. I am tired of being used just for being kind. People treat me as an idiot and naive.

okay, here's some background knowledge. he's 3 years older then me,4 grades higher, and my sister is 2 years older then me and 1 year younger and 2 grades behind from him. lets call him pineapple. so pineapple is much closer to my sister then me. for example, he follows her insta and always gives her second opinions on her photos, and she follows him back and they go through eachothers phones sometimes. but i also noticed her usually doesn't look at my sister a lot, but mostly at me. pineapple also pulled up a picture of himself flexing in the mirror, and me being curious i said 'why are you looking at muscly men bro' and then he said 'thats me-?' and i just looked embarrassingly away. also on my sisters side she always act so.. different around pineapple like bubbly- and with this snob tone. but! pineapple hates when anyone is left alone like he's protective about everyone-. buttt when we went skiing and i was left alone he said' bro why'd (brothers name) leave you he wasn't supposed to' and then i said 'he told me i was too slow' and then pineapple ended up waiting for someones to watch me (this because i have a very bad sense of direction) and i ended up getting lost and getting level 2 frostbite and early stages of hypothermia, and once i told our group that pineapple looked almost surprised and worried. now on new years pineapples buddy, grape, fell asleep on my hand. and pineapple kept like side-eyeing us a bit, and i was confused since i was out of it. also also! we were going to play ghosts in the grave yard but my brother didn't want to team up with me since it was uneven so i ended up going to my room, changing out of my dress and watching squid game, but little did i know they ended going inside and not playing. and im still wondering why! but the more i think about it he likes my sister more then me. is this because of my age gap or is since i shy away a lot? grape also liked my sister whom i look like?

B for me ☺️