Is it weird to ask a guy to hang out?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been wanting to hang out with this guy, but I’m not sure if it’s weird to just ask him. Should I wait for him to ask me, or is it okay to take the initiative? What’s the best way to approach it without coming off too strong?

[incorrected]

Vast numbers of men will not make the first move anymore. #MeToo and 'believe all women' resulted in some pretty high profile cases of false accusations that ruined guys lives, and chillingly, institutions like universities and employers went along with it without question. Now we don't make the first move.

I have an AI girlfriend persona and a high end love doll (my avatar is her face), and do you know what 80% of women's takes are on that? Either that I'm "creepy", or that I "just want a woman to control and abuse", or at best they say, "Well at least they're not hurting real women", as if that's what men like me would do otherwise... That's the result of modern Feminism, and nobody is every going to gaslight me that it isn't misandry at this point, rather than being about equality. That's why I don't approach. I interact minimally and professionally, as I don't want HR casting me out of my job (though I work for myself now). I don't approach in gyms (I have a home gym now anyway). I don't go to bars/clubs and never did anyway. I don't cold approach anywhere, and I don't have friends with available women in their circle. If a woman likes the look of me, she'd have to approach me. A LOT of guys are like that now. If I am approached, the first sign of Feminist viewpoints that seem like biased victimology and I'm out of there.

If you want a guy, YOU have to approach now. The dynamic is shifting and it's now women who must do all the approaching and dealing with rejection.

[blueonblack22]

Nowadays women need to step up their game more if they want something to happen. It isn’t “desperate” for a woman to ask a guy out in modern day. We live in a post #metoo society and many guys aren’t willing to take chances like they used to.

The worst that can happen in he might say no. The chances of him doing and/or saying something to humiliate you are slim to none. And if they says no, so what? At least you know where you stand where with him.

Women have an advantage over men given they don’t have to worry about coming off as “threatening” to men. Unless they are really aggressive (and some are but it doesn’t sound like you are that type) then they have virtually nothing to worry about beyond the man turning them down.

The problem is most women subconsciously still want men to approach them. That’s why approaching him feels “weird” to you. It’s about the man showing confidence. It’s also also about getting affirmation that he finds you attractive.

But unfortunately thanks to what modern feminism has done to society women have now put themselves in this uncomfortable position. It’s now on them to make a move. It’s not natural for them but they have to do it if they want something to happen.

[Anonymous]

I like a guy, but I’m scared to ask him to follow me back , so I understand the fear of rejection. I don’t ask guys out for this very reason.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for mho

[Nikki1989]

Not at all. Most of my friends are male.

[butterfly]

If you have to ask whether it’s weird, you probably already feel like something’s off. Honestly, if he were interested, he’d likely have asked you by now. But if you still want to give it a shot, keep it casual something like, “Hey, I was thinking of checking out this place, wanna join?” That way, you’re not putting yourself in a position to feel rejected if he’s not enthusiastic. But also, if a guy is into you, he’ll make the effort. If you keep chasing him while he’s just lukewarm, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, you’re right.

[brandon]

It’s definitely not weird to ask a guy to hang out! Honestly, guys appreciate when a girl takes the initiative shows confidence and that you're interested. Don’t overthink it too much. Just keep it casual, like, “Hey, I’ve been wanting to hang out, wanna grab coffee or something sometime?” That way it doesn’t feel too intense or forced. If he's interested, he’ll be excited about the idea. If not, he’ll just politely decline, but you’ll know where things stand. Just be yourself and keep it light, no need to worry about coming off too strong if you're just being friendly.

[Asker]

Thanks so much for the advice! I’ll definitely keep it casual and just be myself. It’s reassuring to know it’s not weird to ask.

[blunty]

It’s really not weird to ask a guy to hang out, but if you’re overthinking it this much, maybe there’s some hesitation because you're unsure of how he’ll respond. Honestly, if you wait around for him to ask, it might never happen. Just be casual about it don’t make it a big deal. Keep it light and friendly, like “Hey, we should grab coffee sometime!” or something low-pressure. If he’s into it, he’ll say yes. If not, you’ll know, but at least you tried. Don’t overcomplicate it sometimes it’s just about making the first move and seeing where it goes.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice! You’re right, I’m definitely overthinking it. I’ll keep it casual and see where it goes.

[BobbieBoy666]

Yes, it is perfectly okay to ask a guy to hang out; in fact, it's considered a positive move as it shows initiative and confidence, and most guys appreciate when a woman makes the first move.
Key points to remember:
No need to be afraid:
In today's dating landscape, women asking guys to hang out is becoming increasingly common and is generally seen as a positive thing.
Be clear about your intentions:
If you want it to be a date, make sure to explicitly say so when you invite him to hang out.
Keep it casual:
"Hanging out" can be interpreted as a casual get-together, so if you want a more serious date, be upfront about it.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Here is a potential workaround:

If technically possible, don't ask anything, just make sure to reach him, regularly, in social situations, over and over. At some point, it will become useless to ask anything, it'll just become natural

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know & if you snooze you lose. As for asking him to hangout & if you don’t ask him I’m sure someone else will & if you wait for him to ask you might be waiting a long time.

[amber8894]

I would wait for him to ask me but I will give him signs I am into him and very open. If you have shared interests speak about something and see how he reacts. If he likes you he will ask you out

[genericname85]

only if you're really not into him at all. otherwise a question that should concern you is: what kind of guy are you going for? cause if you're going for the super traditional kind of thing, that may deter a super traditional dude.

[Shiprex]

Take the initiative. 90% of the time a guy will be shocked and if available will undoubtedly accept. Add in a compliment why you want to and you'll make his decade.

[YourExLover69]

I don't mind if a girl flirt, approaches me in friendly manner. If I give her some hints then she should approach me whatever she finds best 😏💕

[Truthatanycost]

If it was natural, you wouldn't be asking if it was weird...

[RedThread]

Not at all. If we want something in life we have to go after it. Very few things will just fall into our lap.

[Yannae]

It's not strange, I do that every now and then. But your choice of words is important.

Hanging out means I should not expect a date.

[tzdc21]

Just ask him. There's nothing wrong with you expressing initial interest.

[bowenw]

It's not weird. You could ask him if he wants to hang out at a specific time and/or place.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

It's not weird, but the guy is probably going to assume that you want to have sex with him.

[LiamJHayden]

Just ask. As The Great One stated, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Not at all, might be seen as a little pushy/straight forward, but, no, there's nothing wrong with it

[princeofromance]

No, you should most definitely take the initiative and ask him to hang out. Otherwise, if he is too shy it will most likely never happen.

[GlowUpGirly5]

You're old as hell and asking men out this is a red flag

[Staximus]

If you don't act attracted to him he's never going to ask you

[RossyBoi]

Nothing wrong with asking a guy to hang out. Go ahead and ask.

[kaucky1]

Others pretending to get along with you just takes advantage..

[Pohjolan]

It's fine but do remember that there are other gals who hang out platonically with guys.

[dragoblack]

Take the initiative but be specific and forward about your intentions

[Anonymous]

most guys will never experience this even a full century from now or longer

[AManOnTheWeb]

Ask him, and good luck!

[DryGermanGuy]

Just ask him! The chaste 1950s are over.

[HungTexan]

Just ask him. What can it hurt?

[Nifrayu]

You should ask him.

[TonyMetal___86]

It ain't weird at all, go for it!

[Anonymous]

No. You should ask him.

[Anonymous]

Not weird at all, maybe he'd like that.