Polls: Dating

I'm not saying I'm in love yet, but we seem to be on the same wavelength. Like tonight we just really gelled even more than before. It's like everyday the chemistry between us is growing stronger and I can seriously see myself being with him for a long time. It's going on 3 weeks since the first date and about a month since we matched. I'm not sure if it's too soon to start falling in love, but I'm starting to have strong feelings.

Which I know is crazy but can you seriously put a timeline on love?

So, recently talking to my bestie, she and I realized how both our boyfriends tend to lack empathy.

My boyfriend is so stubborn that he isn't wiling to yield on certain things, or, even consider that he could be in the wrong. It has resulted in fights between us, ending with him being confused. I ask him questions like "if you were in my shoes, and I said that to you, how would that make you feel?"... and he then will come to realization, and apologize, or at least meet me halfway.

Do you think its possible to make someone more empathetic?

I've met this guy 2 months ago at an extracurricular activity and immediately thought he was cute and I had the vibe that he liked me too, he even asked for my ig. Around 2 days after that, I couldn't stop thinking about him so I sent the scary first text and that's when we started texting constantly, he asked me "out" but didn't say it was a date explicitly, we had a lot of fun and saw each other 2 days after that, and so on. He initiates physical touch like back patting or holding my hand for a second etc, he gives me flowers, we talk about deep stuff sometimes until dawn, and overall I'm completely sure we like each back. However, even though he always has fun on our dates, I have to initiate them almost all the time. It's like he avoids telling me the exact day he will be free so I always have to suggest it. I'm feeling really uncertain about this whole situation and want to let him know how I feel because I'm a 100% sure he feels the same way but he's either scared of rejection, or scared of getting hurt in a future relationship. What do you think I should do?

I found that sometimes people don’t get the message even after being clearly rejected but once they’re ghosted, they’re just gone. I’ve had to resort to ghosting after an ex refused to leave me alone even after I have rejected him multiple times.

Personally though, I think it’ll be easier to move on from a full on rejection because at least you got some closure. Do you agree?

So I think I said some things that I shouldn't have said looking back on our last date but he still wants to go out with me so I guess I didn't scare him off with how honest I was.

I told him about my alcohol poisoning story. How it was over a guy. I don't know why the hell I did that.

I also blurted out I had a dream about him the morning after the last date and he asked me was it good or bad and I said it was good and that I had met his family in the dream.

Maybe I'm overthinking it and it was fine but I feel like I need to have a filter. I'm too honest lol

So are you blunt or cautious?

He's really nice to me but I found out that he write vile misogynistic on internet like saying :

"Only purpose of women is for sex"

He's also very racist especially against Muslim and Black. Said he would never date a woman if she dated one fo those saying they're whore and traitor.

He also commented on how he had sex with a 15 years old when he was 25 and how having sex with a woman inebriated is ok and not rape.

I'm not sure what to think of it because while he have said such horrible things he's the sweetest to me and have never been mean to me.

I went to his country for Holliday but he want me to stay permanently, said I could find a job easily but I don't speak the language neither can I read the words because they don't use latin letters. He told me I could easily learn it fast.

I'm confused what to do because I love him and even though he made mean comment, he never ever treated me badly or yelled at me or anything.

My dad says the man should. My ex said the same. I disagreed and wanted to take turns, or split. That made him feel uneasy...

Let's say it's not anything incredibly expensive - a coffee and ice-cream or low-ish entrance fee to a place, cheaper lunch/dinner... Really nothing lavish

What option is most comfortable for you? What do you think "the norm" should be? Where are you from?