(M24) in my first relationship, got any tips or common sense when being in a relationship?

[DMkua808]

I just recently got into a relationship and made it official, I’m painfully awestruck by her and find her more and more pretty every time I see her. This being my first relationship I don’t want to mess up on it or come short on anything, I’ve been reading up on the 5 love languages but I still feel that there’s a lot to learn. Please I need tips from experience as well as just common sense when being in a relationship. I want to give it my all

Quality time

Gift giving

Acts of service

Physical touch

Words of affirmation

[D_Bone_Steak]

I will give you my method.

STEP 1) Fuck like you fuck all the time... in fact make sure you fuck enough other women to fuck the shit out of her and not feel like Cumming. You fuck like a God because you really do fuck like a God. Make her work for your cum... it is her job. I make bitches beg me to cum inside of them and suck my dick like a fluffer girl when I get winded from pounding her pussy out. I mean fuck them so much that they ask you for a break, but make sure she better put some Ice on that pussy because you're not finished yet.

STEP 2) The shit tests are inevitable. Bro, you're going to fuck something up, and it's okay... because you won't give a fuck. Get caught cheating? Just fuck her until she says it's okay just as long as she doesn't find out about it like that. If she makes you mad... try to fuck her to death and she will never make you mad again. Sometimes a woman just needs a good hate-fuck.

STEP 3) Blow her pussy out so hard that she starts bringing other chicks into the mix just to give her own vagina a break.

That's it. Hitting the weights is your job as well as smashing puss into "walking funny" land. You know longer have to work because she will work her ass off to support your throbbing cock. She'll make plenty of extra cash if she starts charging her girlfriends for a round with your cock. She knows you're loyal because you don't have time to fuck more pussy than she's providing you.

Or... here is an idea...

You could do it your own way. If you found anything about my advice a bit wrong or not the way you think things should be... then let's hope I'm not the plumber/pool boy/retard on the internet she ever talks to. I would suggest you don't throw the baby out with the bathwater though. Many points I made will make her love you for life. But other dudes have their own methods that work for them and their advice is good too. Start to pick out what works and what doesn't. Learn how to pass shit tests is probably my best advice since this is your first relationship. Look that shit up on the internet and learn it well. ALL WOMEN shit test so that's vital. Also know that woman. It's like a video game (a woman) and you have to figure out what buttons to push, what combos work best, and be able to beat all the main bosses with flying colors. Think about that the next time you hear a tryhard try to shit talk a gamer with a hawt goth girl and the shit talker's girl is a fat cow.

[DMkua808]

Thanks for you’re very crazy response, I honestly agree that I should find my own way of loving and not care as much as others people version of love, it’s the way I showed my love to her is the reason she’s staying with me. Also I might need help understanding what the Shit test is

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'll describe the 'shit test' the way most probably will on youtube, but if you ask Grok you'll get a good answer too I bet...

It's a behavior that's similar to a behavior us men do which we call 'ball-busting.' When men do it, we basically poke fun at each other to see who the bitch/pussy of our male group is. For females it's got a different purpose and tends to be a one on one interaction instead of a large group sort of thing. It's an innate behavior that the female is usually not even conscious of doing it when they're doing it. It is also used to test your mettle as a male and see if you turn into a bitch, but for women it's also used to 'test' you on how much bullshit you'll put up with for her... think of it as a modified loyalty test. So if she hints at you being gay, that's a shit test to test your mettle (how to win shit tests is talked about online so I won't go into that), but a serious shit test is something like the infamous "girls trip" to Los Vegas where the claim is they're just going to dance with each other but the point is to see if they can get random men to fuck them... if you don't put your foot down with those tests and stand up for yourself, you will be seen as a pushover and that behavior will repeat. That's just an example... it could be other shit like money for obvious bullshit et cetera. Depends on the girl and the current female friends that girl is running with. Just like us, females behave differently in a pack than they would one on one, but oddly they're much more collectivist (despite the fact a woman is usually out to destroy other women with the exception of when it's mutually beneficial).

I highly suggest you ask the internet about "Women and shit tests" and read a few articles on the topic. It's an interesting read. It's just the study of human psychology, just like we watch and study animals to figure out why they do what they do.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Shit test = loyalty test

I just came across that online and was thinking about this question... then this question showed up in my notifications again after getting superb opinion. Figured I'd just drop that info off because knowing the normie terms for terminology sometimes helps with truly understanding things from all sides.

[BadApple69]

That is a great book and a very good start.
To me this is the biggest thing…. Be yourself.
If you try to be a super boyfriend you will find that you can’t keep it up. You will start to slow down and be less super. She could take that as you are losing interest. So don’t be anything else but yourself. That you can always be. I’m. It saying on special times you can’t step up your game…. Of course you can…. But the norm…. Is you as yourself.

[DMkua808]

Thank you for responding to my post, you’re completely right, I really shouldn’t try to fake or over reach who I am to her. My morals hold honesty to the highest level not only to her but to myself I don’t lie to myself who I am to be loved more by someone else, I show what I feel and also am able to sugar coat my words. Though I am still learning how to be myself, she’s helping me break through that mental wall I have as well but I am also opened to tips on how to be more myself around her

[BadApple69]

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders…

Love her
Protect her
Treat her like you want to be treated

The rest is out of your hands.
Good luck!

[SueShe]

Congratulations on your first relationship. Hope this will be a lasting one and that you both can enjoy quality time together.

Giving small gifts is nice but don't overdo it. You don't need to buy 2 gifts every day because otherwise it becomes both a duty (for you) and not something to look forward to (for her). Instead buy her something small from time to time and not just for Valentines, her birthday or Christmas. Something small in-between is just as important.

Quality time together is probably the most important as well as acts of service but here again, make sure they come from your heart and not because you feel obliged to do them.

Physical touch is not that important but words of affirmation is. You can give compliments but not on her looks but rather on her accomplishment. Good luck.

[DMkua808]

Thank you so much for your response, I’ve gotten a couple of gifts lined up for her already, a hair brush she was talking about getting, an earring that had sea shells (she really likes shells) and a couple of flowers hair clips , she recently lost one of her favorite ones so I found another one that looked same exact way. I was thinking of giving them all at once, not to sure if it’s the right path for now.

[Screenwriter]

When you're with someone have fun and find out what they enjoy doing. Hopefully, you two will have things in common. Ask, also. No other way to find out.

Time in the most valuable asset in a relationship. Just hanging out reading together. having breakfast, lunch or dinner at each other's houses. Cooking together. Going for walks, bike rides, drives.

It's all about finding out how each of you tick, and seeing if you're ultimately compatible. Good luck.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"I don’t want to mess up on it or come short on anything"

Then there's one thing I think of, tailored to your description: You will mess things up, you will come short on things. Because you can't control all the things you think you want to control.

[DMkua808]

Thank you for responding, I also believe that messing up in small ways are always inevitable because life is completely unpredictable and trying to control it will only push people away and when I do I’m hoping that our communication would be stronger than the mistake

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

[Plugs]

Remember to not talk to girls. No girl likes her boyfriend talking to other girls

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Plugs
Then you might want to expand on the number of girls you know of, you didn't meet enough of them, they're not a flock and there is no set in stone principle like the one you named

[Plugs]

Loyalty is a attractive feature

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Is it? Just a basic minimal feature. Now a girl calling a guy talking to girls disloyal is plain and simply dystopian, on top of being a one girl's problem she has to fix, I see no reason for a guy to fix her problem with social mix

[strateguy632]

First, definitely make time for quality time .

[DMkua808]

Thank you for your response, I always try to find ways To spend time with her even in busy days, even just a small walks with her around our homes is pretty good

[slatyb]

Pay attention and find out who she is and what she likes.

[DMkua808]

Thank you so much for responding, I’m always listening to her likes and dislikes, I’ve also seen how great she is with kids and I honestly fell pretty hard for that aspect of hers

[slatyb]

The most important thing is to let her be herself. Don't burden her with your expectations. Find out what she wants and decide whether you are compatible sexually, intellectually, have enough in common, and have shared goals. You don't have to force this, just be patient.

[Anonymous]

Are you really 24?

WTF?

[DMkua808]

Yes truthfully, I date to marry and am waiting for marriage

[Plugs]

Her age?

[DMkua808]

She’s 20, we met at work and she asked for my phone number before I left for another job