Comunication is important. If there are issues in the relationship, talk about them calmly, yelling doesn't count as communication.
If you have insecurities, work on getting rid of them and don't take them out on other people.
Talk with your partner about boundaries in the relationship. Understanding the lines you shouldn't cross is better than finding them out and causing tension.
I know it would be unrealistic for me to say "don't have sex until you are out of school", so I'm just going to tell you to wear a condom, use lube, and be safe, also, make sure to ask about allergies to understand what kind of condoms & lube you need.
This one should be obvious but even adults don't realize this... a relationship should be like best friends with romantic benefits. Worrying too much if you're doing the right thing can only cause issues.
Dates & gifts don't have to be expensive. All that matters is you both are having fun spending time together and the gifts means something to each other
u Forget your expectations and what you think a relationship is "supposed" to be. Don't expect too much to quickly and remember that most people don't get married to their first partner, so don't get yourself heavily invested in thinking that this is The One. Whenever he does something that annoys or irritates you, remember that you do things that annoy and irritate him. Don't expect him to give you more than you give him. And remember that the "perfect" relationship isn't based upon finding a "perfect" partner; it is based upon finding someone who you like, trust, respect, to whom you feel physically attracted, andwho is willing to work and make compromises for the benefit of the relationship.
Don't get stuck on the idea of things being "special" because it's the first time he does something with you or you do something with him. Yes the first time you do something is exciting and meaningful but that doesn't take away the value from doing that something with someone else. For example if he had a girlfriend before you, it doesn't make the things he does with you less special because he did it with someone before you, and if you date someone else after him they won't be any less special. Things aren't just special because it's the first time or the first person you're doing it with, they are special because you are doing it with someone you care about and who cares about you.
Not to compare love with the type of love you read about in fairytale and see in romantic movies. That's too unrealistic. No one can add up to those type of expectations.
No one can guarantee they'll love you forever and never hurt you, so live in the moment and enjoy it, no matter how long it lasts.
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Take it slow and easy. Let the relationship breathe. It's easy when you're young and passionate and for your first time to want to cling onto your lover like they're going to escape if you don't.
This can be especially exacerbated in our youth when we're going through so many life changes like graduating from high school, attending university, getting our own jobs, and finding our own place to live. You can feel like the only way to keep people close is to grab onto them tightly.
But they shouldn't be going anywhere if they care about you the same way you care about them. Don't cling on too much or you can repulse each other in the long run. Enjoy each other's company and take it easy.
There are a lot of good books out there on relationships and dating.
Watch out for the red flags - how they treat waitress staff, kids and the elderly is how he will treat you.
No relationship is worth losing true friends.
Skip Netflix and Chill - go explore! There are a lot of free local events.
You ever want to test a relationship - go shopping for paint or interior decorating for your dream home. How they handle this will tell you how they handle disagreements and whether they are capable of compromising.
Saying things directly and maintaining healthy boundaries are two most important thing ms you can do in relationships. If you say something, especially if you say it clearly and unambiguously, there is a record of that thing. If you maintain a healthy boundary with your partner, you won’t let him push you into letting him ignore whatever you clearly told him.
Don’t hold too high of expectations, communicate how you feel and what you want, be open minded for it helps with arguments, don’t ever let’s them pressure you into doing what you find uncomfortable or let them destroy your morals
love life has been the worst thing thst happen in my life. i love hatd but what did i get in return? betrayal and heartache
i wish Lord will release me because i'm really fine with beinh a nun it's just that i don't hqve such callinh
Take things slow let everything progress naturally don’t try to force or rush things. And don’t have expectations, reality never measures up to them.
View relationships like a garden they function and fail in very similar ways.
Don't turn your back on all ur friends/family because of him/her.
If things go south (which happens a LOT) it's those friends/family that will have to catch you and carry you through the breakout depression.
My advice is simple: get to know each other well before getting serious. Escalate commitment only after you see that the other is an easygoing person to get along with.
What you get on the present is what you get in the future.
If they care about you, they won't pressure you to do something, change for them, or give you ultimatums.
● Give eachother personal space
● Don't try to change or control eachother
● Respect eachother
● make mutual efforts in building trust and security in the relationship for eachother
if your under 18 don't assume this relationship will last forever , most younger relationships tend not to , sure some do but a lot of the time people end up dating other people later in life
Make sure it is your first and last if you can. Otherwise, just enjoy the relationship.
Break up after 3 months and move onto another relationship.
Do this 5 times. It will improve you in life drastically
Pay attention to detail. Savor each moment. Take baby steps and don't skip anything (especially the falling in love part.)
Maintain whatever makes you you. Like keep meeting friends, have hobbies etc.
Don't take them back if you catch them cheating and they beg you not to leave them.
Don't rush into sex or marriage and get to know the person for like a year or two.
Communication. Communication. Also communication. Communication and communication
G. O. S. L. O. W.!
And DON'T BE coerced into ANYTHING!
GOOD LUCK!
Know that love isn't perfect or a storybook ending.
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