Do you know people that you can confidently say that they couldn't get a date even if they wanted to?

[Anonymous]

No, I think most can if they want to

Maybe only with someone that is desperate

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anyone can get a date if they want to. If they don't try, they never will.

And there are guys I know who set their sights on girls they can never get. Instead of looking for other girls and meeting other people, they obsess over the same girls but never make a move, never get them, and never gets any dates with girls who would date them.

There are 4 billion girls in the world, so figure at least a half a billion generally in your age range. Pick another girl to try if one doesn't work out, especially if you don't ever even ask her.

[DishLady]

Yeah. One category is that "wet blanket" personality and the other is that very uptight personality. Both are very draining on the nerves.

[iFarted]

Sadly, yes.. I have a buddy that is socially awkward when it comes to the ladies. Like extremely awkward... He has female coworkers but in a one on one setting, oof...

[Zack-Bann]

I couldn’t get a date TONIGHT if I wanted to
But I could get a date within the span of the next weeks eventually


That’s pretty much true for most men

[iFarted]

Ehh I'm sure if you're not socially awkward and approach some ladies you could find a date within a day or two, not weeks. I'm not anywhere close to the ideal standard of an "desired" male but it's never been an issue getting a date when I cared to put myself out there the same should be for most of they aren't a total weirdo creep and put some effort into being presentable.

[Zack-Bann]

It’s refreshing to see someone say that on this app.
Most people just give up and pity themselves

I actually share your vision on this.
I said weeks because life doesn’t often allow me to go prowling for dates
I work and then work out and then deal with whatever social life I have

So I end up with little free time to go after dates

But I’ll be the first to admit: I need to get even better at this.

[moviedude714]

True for most men I agree with that because I know it is mentioned occasionally in the men's dating advice community and I agree with them and they say that by Nature men are naturally in scarcity with women.

Women Naturally by default are in abundance with men or women naturally by default have more options than men do since they are the ones that get constantly hit on and pursued and chased Men by default do not have that.

[Zack-Bann]

I’ve been a listener to that community for years
Lot of the advice is good but there’s plenty of false narratives and toxicity meant to boost sales

Most dating coaches what to paint this picture that talking to women is hard and competition is stiff

Afterwards they will offer to sell a course or a coaching call or a boot camp or whatever else meant to teach you how to talk to women and suddenly improve your life

The truth is: just talk, eventually you’ll get good and have dates and so on

Scarcity, abundance, value proposition, all of this is just noise

[deaddude7734]

I do not know any other people who cannot get a date, but rest assured, I have been totally single for almost half of my life now (I am almost 50 and the last date I went on was about 25 years ago)... my main problem is I gained a lot of weight and I could not lose any of it, so now, most women are totally turned off by my appearance (I was in a very bad car accident and had several surgeries, and afterwards, I was in so much pain that I started eating way too much food around the clock and I also started experimenting with drugs, and since I could no longer exercise much, I ended up being totally fat)... the way things are going, I am probably going to die alone without ever feeling the touch of a woman again...

[Nikki1989]

Nope. Every person I know is either married, in a relationship, or at the very least, regularly dating.

[Chayce]

Anyone can probably get one. Others just have to try harder than some

[Anonymous]

Most people who say that it isn't fully true. Typically what the mean is they can't get a date with someone THEY would want to date.

[Cormac995]

Yep, I'm one of them.