Always fired for “not being the right fit”?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been fired from nearly
every job I’ve ever had, spanning decades.

The same reason given each time; that I “don’t fit in” and/or “don’t vibe with their energy”.
I’ve been in therapy many times and have been told I’m not on the autistic spectrum or Aspergers. I work hard, longer hours than most , I’m polite to colleagues etc.
For example, in one job I volunteered myself for extra work, and the person that I alleviated workload for (for 3 tears) later recommended to the company to sack me as I had an “awkward approach” and was “high maintenance” as I once asked her for advice about stress management on one occasion and displayed anxiety such as being tearful. Her reaction to this, was almost as though this was malicious behaviour.
The last workplace made assumptions I was incompetent and yet didn’t provide proof when I asked for it, talked about me in my absence, blanked me and ignored me emails, and then abruptly fired me after 2 months for the reasons in my opening sentences.

I’m wondering if anyone of you can better understand the pattern, as I can’t seem to hold down work, and getting fired is traumatic.
My confidence is low, given these repetitive experiences, so I have no idea if that offends colleagues, but I can’t help it.

[Emiliamazing]

Regardless of your understanding or not understanding why you have been let go, I feel bad for you. Are you working in the same industry and all of these jobs that you have been let go from? Perhaps you need to assess your strengths and take a look at different industries and settings. Have someone that loves and cares about you identify your strengths and weaknesses-preferably someone older like a parent or aunt/uncle provide this help

[Asker]

Thanks for your kind words. It is all different jobs and industries, this is why I’ve started to believe I must be the problem- since I’m the common denominator. I really don’t want to spend the rest of my life living on welfare, but feel that I have no choice given consistent feedback. I don’t have any family, and I just have one long-standing friend in my life that cares about me. She probably is biased given our friendship, but her view is that these people have behaved unnecessarily callously and unprofessionally, in each job. In regards to my strengths, as I mentioned I have tried to take jobs I thought I would enjoy, and they’ve either been misrepresented or I’ve not been allocated the relevant duties, because I’ve been pushed out, or ignored by colleagues or equivalent, which makes it very difficult to do the advertised job. The last workplace find me based on assumptions that I was incompetent, and gossiping about me, and not giving me a chance to feed in and clarify what the actual situation was. I’m going to set up as a one man band business later this year, but I do worry still about what is behind the poor interpersonal relationship/experiences, that I consistently experience - hence this post.